Sexual Relationship Is Not Like A Business Deal

When it comes to sex in a relationship things are not always straight forward. Obviously guys want to have sex but things don’t always work out like that.

Most women want to have sex. I can’t say all women because not all women do. Just like not all women like shopping or going night clubbing. At the end of the day we are all different.

However what you must realise is that you can’t bargain with women for more sex. Just as with guys who think buying a girl a drink on a night-out will get them into a women’s pants, guys seem to think that they can barter for sex in a relationship.

If you take her out and buy her lots of things, then she will be more inclined to have sex with you. However this isn’t the case and nor should it be. At the end of the day you are both in a relationship together. You are part of a two man team where both parties are equal.

So how do you get a girl to have more sex in a relationship.

Having a great relationship

If you are both happy in your relationship then you are both going to want to spend more intimate time together. If you have an unhappy relationship when you are together during your normal typical day to day routines then why would she want to spend time with you in the bedroom. Try to keep the fun and excitement level high in your relationship. When you have been in a relationship for a little while, it can become monotonous. You get up go to work, come home eat and then go to bed. You need to break this by getting out and doing fun awesome stuff to keep your relationship fresh. Stuff like going ice skating, going to a theme park, going to the cinema, etc.

Sex should be about quality

Just because you don’t have as much sex as you use to doesn’t mean you have both gone off it. When you first meet a girl, sex is new and really exciting. However as the relationship goes on other things can take over. Things such as; trying to raise money to get a house together, or taking up new hobbies, or maybe a one of you has been promoted or got a new job and thus have less time. If this happens, then just make sure that the sex you do get to have is pure quality. I believe as with anything in life great sex 4 times a week is much better than bad sex twice a day. The next part shares with you how to make you sex life more interesting.

Sex has become a routine

From my own experience, women love to try new things. When you first begin a new relationship, both parties tend to be pretty happy just to have bog standard sex. Missionary position time and time again. As the relationship gets older, it seems that both the guy and the girl can become bored. Add some variety into your sex life. There are many ways to do this. Trying new positions, adding lubricants, sex toys, etc. The good thing is, as the relationship is more established you should both now be more willing to share sexual fantasies you would like to try. Word of caution: Some fantasies are best left in your head so always think before you speak.

Put the girl needs first

Trust me when I say, women love good sex. If you can make her cum more times than not then you will have a great sex life. Imagine for a second, that you had sex with a girl and she didn’t make you cum. It would not be too long before you got pissed off with it and thought “Fuck this I rather do it myself”. Well, this is what it’s like for most women. They have sex and they are left totally unsatisfied. Therefore it becomes more like a chore for them instead of something pleasurable. Obviously learning how to please a women is a subject entirely of it’s own. Therefore I am linking you to this great resource … David Shade “America’s Renegade Sex Expert”.

Final thought

I actually find sex in a relationship can be much more rewarding than new sex. Yeah the excitement is there with new sex and that never gets old (never). However if you can share some of your sexual fantasies and do to each other what you really want, then the sex can be amazing.

Speak soon,
David Black

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I believe the most cheating happens because of the routine. When routine comes into play, you're kinda screwed.

But you are just right: fantasies, quality sex, these are the words that could keep a healthy sexual experience in an older relationship.:)
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I read somewhere that sex to men is like communication to women. Men have greater physical needs than women but don't understand that women are wired differently. Women need more than visual and physical stimulation to get off.
You make a great point about putting a girl's needs first because most guys have no idea how to please a woman.
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Thanks Mr. Orange. You're right in saying that most women respond differently to us men in terms of stimulation. The classic example to see this in action is masturbation. Women will masturbate with their eyes closed, using their imagination (because they get a full sensory and emotional experience from it), whereas men are quite happy to rub one out to porn, and often with the sound off (i.e. limiting to pure visual stimulation).