Picking Up Women: Set Some Goals
This article is about setting goals at anytime of the year. In particular goals that will help you with picking up women. Though the inspiration for this article is that the New Year is upon us (New Years Resolutions) this article is all about setting goals at any time of the year. Goals are important in everything you do including how to pick up girls. They really can help your success with women.
The reason being, personally I am not a fan of New Year Resolutions myself. Why? Because I don’t feel you should have to wait for New Year to make goals. I think you are better off creating and chasing goals when the need arises. Be proactive rather than reactive.
However I understand that some of you will be wanting to create new goals for the New Year, hence the article being posted now :-). It can be very hard to keep yourself committed and motivated, so you need to go about it the right way. So what is the best way to do this?
Set realistic achievable goals
There is nothing worse than setting goals that are too hard to achieve. You need to push yourself as hard as possible, but if you make your goals near impossible this will seriously destroy any motivation you have. Example: You have never taken a girl home from a night-out pubbing/clubbing. Setting a goal this year of taking a girl home every single time you go out would be detrimental to your development. It’s good to push yourself, but the chances of achieving it is very very low. Setting more realistic goals, that are just out of reach, but not too taxing, such as taking a girl home from a night-out this year, will be much more beneficial.
Setting miniature goals
A great way to go about achieving your main goal when it comes to meeting women, attracting women and picking up women is to set miniature goals. By setting a series of miniature goals, you are building a pathway to achieving your main goal. As they say, the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. These mini goals help to keep you motivated, whilst helping you build the necessary skills to achieving your desired overall outcome. If we use the example from above; If your goal is to take a girl home from a night-out, then you could use some of the following miniature goals:
- Going out as much as possible. The more you go out the more chance you have to pick up a woman
- Make small talk with random people. Slightly easier than talking to women you fancy, but will get you into a chatty mood, which will help your approaching confidence.
- Approaching women. Make sure you approach at least one women on any given night-out
Write your goals down
Something that can really help you, is track your progress to achieving your goals. If you write down your goals they become more real to you. They are there in black and white. Writing the goal down is you making a commitment to yourself to achieving your goal. Also it helps remind you exactly what you’re trying to achieve, so you are always in a position to know exactly what you are trying to achieve.
Check out this website for a good place to write down your goals for picking up girls and any other goals you may want to achieve: http://www.43things.com
Share them with others
If you want to share your goals with others, then make sure they are the sort of people who will support your goals. I know it can be hard to find people who will support you with goals that are to do with picking up girls. However these people will give you the support you need to achieving your goals. If they are not supportive, then any negative comments they make could be detrimental to your chances of achieving your goals.
Keep an eye on your progress
Make sure you keep an eye on your progress. Keeping a diary/journal could help you keep and eye on how well you’re performing. This way if you feel you are not performing as well as you should be, then you can do something about it. Either work harder towards that particular goal or adjust it, to make it a more realistic goal.
You also need to have a deadline. As Tony Robbins said “Goals are just dreams with a deadline.”. If you set a deadline then you have to push yourself in order to achieve your goal in the time limit you have given yourself. More likely to reach your desired outcome if you need to achieve it in a set time.
I hope this helps you with your goals to do with picking up women. Remember having good goals is better than having good pick up lines :-)
I wish you all the best for the New Year, hopefully it will be a good one for us all.
Catch you laters,
Preston Blain
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