New ‘Pick Up Girls’ Insights Revealed


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Today our focus is on how to pick up girls. The formula can be described as follows: Go out – Approach a girl – Attract the girl – Build a connection – Seal the deal. But how do you do each step of the method? And is this the only way of doing things? That’s what we’re going to cover here, so sit back and let’s get some dating advice on how to pick up girls and flirting.

Routines or Not?

When picking up girls, there are two major camps that folks are divided into. Those that use routines and pick up lines to pick up women, and those that don’t. Now naturally there is some overlap, so some peeps may use a kind of hybrid approach. Let’s dive into a bit more detail…

A routine is anything pre-rehearsed, scripted or memorised that you use or say in an interaction with a girl. The kind of stuff you see on ‘The Pick Up Artist’. Any guy can learn a few of the best pick up lines to use when approaching women and have girls laughing in minutes. But this is a dark, sinister and seductive path to go down…

If you’ve read any of my other articles, you’ll know I’m all about being genuine and honest when talking to women (and all the time for that matter). If you can’t be honest and genuine and still pick up ladies, then honestly who are they responding to? What is really attracting women? Is it your character, the real you? Or is it some story some dude wrote miles away years ago?

Don’t know about you, but this is not a good fit for me. I want to be dating women because they like me, not because I’m good at picking up women using memorised routines and stuff.

For this reason, I stick to principle and structural-based methods. To be frank, I don’t even see what I do as a method, more as a set of guiding principles, a code of conduct if you like.

Some of the principles from my Code of Conduct:

  • Communicate Attractive Qualities
  • Demonstrate Attractive Behaviours and Character Traits
  • Be Funny
  • Tell Stories
  • Audacity (“I can’t believe he just said/did that!” kind of things)
  • Leadership
  • Tension, Tension, Tension
  • Take Centre Stage
  • Never Get Angry or Flustered at What A Woman Does
  • Playfulness
  • Physically Dominant & Sexual Yet Non-Threatening
  • Tease Constantly
  • Teach Her About Herself & The World
  • Pay No Mind To What Others Think of You
  • Go After What You Want Until You Get It
  • Defend Your Principles And Values
  • Look After The People You Care About
  • Build A Deep & Genuine Soul-Mate Connection

Look at each point above one at a time. Think to yourself, “How can I apply this in my interactions with women?”. Perhaps get out some notepaper and make a mind-map for each point and consider all the implications and facets. Have a go at reverse-engineering things. I guarantee if you do this, you will have some major breakthrough insights.

I could talk for hours on these handful of principles alone. This is so far beyond ‘dating tips’. It goes right to the core of being a man.

Maybe one day I will. Just don’t have the time right now.

Till next time,

David Black

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  • dave

    Hey David,

    Thanks for the advice mate!! I am wondering what do you mean by the phrase “tension, tension, tension?”

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Good question. By tension I mean the kind of thing where you make the situation slightly uncomfortable for either of you. For example, if a girl stands at a bar next to you, look her in the eyes and give her a subtle smile and perhaps a bit of eyebrow action (just a slight raise of your eyebrows to signify your interest). Then just wait, and watch for her response.

    First off, this takes guts. It’s scary to put yourself out there and generate some tension for her to respond to.

    Secondly, she will feel ever so slightly dominated by your actions. You have totally set the frame and the substance of the interaction, and you didn’t even have to say a word.

    Don’t ever be the one to break the tension. I have known girls for years that I have never broken one of these ‘tense’ moments with, and they still love it. It never gets old.

    If they say, “This guy I know is being a dick.” Our first instinct is to try and diffuse the situation, but instead of agreeing (like a good little nice-guy), crank up the tension, say something like, “That’s probably because you’re too needy.” You have increased the tension, rather than trying to side with her just because you want something from her.

    It is rare for a girl to experience this. Quite often they will be slightly dumbfounded that you had the balls to say something like that. They will certainly be impressed, even if they do get defensive and/or start attacking you verbally. If they do, just crank the tension even higher. Never back down; always have a better answer; don’t apologise; don’t retreat; don’t surrender! :-)

  • Samuel Christian23

    What an interesting post to read, thanks for bringing it up.