No Porn For A Month: Well not quite ;-)


This is a follow up article to ‘Is Porn causing you Social Anxiety?‘. If you haven’t read it and are not sure what’s going on then give it a read and then head back here. If you do know what this is all about then carry on reading…

Well I am gonna do something here that most gurus would never do. I am gonna admit I did fail. Yes that’s right I am actually admitting failure, though only by the slightest of margins. I went 28 days without porn. I was very disappointed at myself but I suppose I gotta remember that I am only human and we all mess things up from time to time.

I am not entirely sure why I did either. Just one of those moments of weakness I think. We all have them from time to time. The good news is though, I still think 28 days is long enough to give you a detailed insight into what it’s like to give up porn.

Going without porn for 28 days was a very interesting experience. Personally I use to check porn 4-5 times a week and masturbate most times. So it was a bit of a change to the system when I had to stop watching porn and try to figure out something else to do.

Taking something away from your daily routine all of a sudden can be an unusual experience. I know this was nothing major in terms of severity. I am sure we can all think of things to give up that would probably completely change our lives. However I did notice some differences that occurred during my 28 days of no porn.

Boredom

I believe that porn is a great way of getting through a patch of boredom. When ever I felt a little bored a little thought popped into my head. That thought was “Let’s watch some porn cause I have nothing better to do”. This is when I found that I wasn’t always hugely horny when I started watching porn, but instead I was bored and thus needed something to occupy my time.

Now I tend to keep myself pretty busy with various things but I still realised that when I did have a moment of boredom my first thought is go and find some porn on that thing we call the internet. Obviously once I start looking at the porn I become horny and thus wanted to masturbate and so more time is taken away and that patch of boredom has been filled and then some.

The problem is that due to the chain reaction of: ‘porn -> masturbating -> time goes bye-bye’, you tend to find that a lot of your time is wasted on watching porn because it leads to masturbation. Therefore what started as something to get rid of boredom ends consuming valuable time that could be used to improves oneself. Side note, if you wanna relieve yourself you could just look at some nice pics and get the deed done a.s.a.p.

Better Sex life

Due to the fact that I was unable to watch porn I found I masturbated less. This really did seem to have a positive effect on my sex life. Obviously masturbating at the wrong time (e.g. Just before your girlfriend gets home from work & starts to get a little frisky) can be detrimental on your sex life for obvious reasons.

Also there were times when I would go a couple of days without sex and then when I did get to have a bit of nookie I found that the feeling was much more intense and thus more enjoyable. Also following on from this, the less you masturbate the more sexual energy I felt I had. So not only did I find it was more intense but I also found that I had more energy to go for a second round which is never a bad thing. I think what I am trying to say is the sex was generally better.

Time to take up other hobbies/skills

During the rest of the day (when I wasn’t having sex) I found that during the times of boredom I needed to find other things to do. Instead of doing my usual trick and looking for porn I decided I would try self improvement. This came in a few shapes and forms.

Firstly I started going to the gym more regularly because it was a great way to burn up some time whilst improving myself. Also due to the fact that I wasn’t masturbating so much I found that I was more keen to work out because I felt like I had more energy to spare.

I also started practicing magic more often. If I was sat at home with a little time on my hands I felt like this was one of the best things to do. Being an amateur magician I feel as though I can improve on this skill and using my time more wisely allowed me to improve a few aspects of my magic repertoire.

Final thought

As I mentioned in the article ‘Is Porn causing you Social Anxiety?‘, masturbation is good for you. It is a healthy practice that has been linked to helping reduce prostate cancer. However we don’t need to watch porn in order to masturbate.

So you can continue to have the health benefits that masturbation brings and also the relief that you get from it. The differences is, this way you should be able to reduce the social anxiety caused by watching porn at the same time.

Also you will probably find that you are also more likely to improve at others skills in your life because you will have more time on your hands. You will also probably have more energy because: one, you will probably masturbate less and two, you will waste less energy trawling through shed loads of porn looking for that “one” video you wanna watch there and then.

Something to try…

You could also try to do the following to help. It is something that I am going to try so I can improve on 28 days. If I ever start feeling horny, but not in the position to have sex, I am going to stay away from the computer until I have had a chance to masturbate. That way I am not risking watching porn because I am so horny that I ain’t thinking straight and just put porn on and get trapped into the same routine as usual.

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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  • Unknown Alien

    Thanks for Keeping us updated on your endeavors. I to have tried to cut down on the habit by playing more games, studying more books and working out everyday of the week (particularly the ab area). It gets increasingly difficult on day 15 to think straight, and if you are single, depression comes at you and makes things worse. I would like to especially thank you for writing this article to help those of us trying to stop. Porn is a beautiful thing, but it can really mess with your goals in life. Kinda makes me feel sorry for sexually driven serial killers such as Ted Bundy, John Wayne and Jeffery Dahmer who were recked by their brains reward system. When you come to think about it, Its kinda safer to be addicted to porn than anything else considering how hard it is to stay sane after 28 days.

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  • http://social-masters.com/blog Preston Blain

    Glad to hear you have given it a go. By the sounds of it to great benefit in terms of playing more games, studying, gym etc. If you are single then some sexual relief through masturbation maybe a good idea every so often. You don’t need to watch porn to do this.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog Preston Blain

    I think masturbation is ok in terms of sexual relief. As ‘Unknown Alien’ said it can get difficult to concentrate after 15 days or so and some relief can definitely help.

    As for “egoist pleasure”, my personal opinion would be to cut back. This is something you don’t really need to do and therefore would probably be more beneficial using this time to improve yourself such as the gym. This in turn will make you feel good. Or you could go out and get laid… that makes me feel good :-)

  • http://social-masters.com/blog Preston Blain

    One other thing. I know this sounds cliche but you can watch porn as part of a balanced lifestyle. I mean we all watch films, TV programs, etc. Porn only becomes a real problem when you start watching it too much. In my eyes watching too many TV programs or films in a day can be seen as a problem.

  • Rasailei

    I found your thoughts very interesting and idea-provoking. I’m a young woman and have just found that my boyfriend has been watching porn secretly (a lot) behind my back despite that we are open about that typically and I’ve had no qualms as long as he’s honest. The porn is fine but his secrecy about it gives me reason to worry…
    Y’know I find it amusing that what you noticed in yourself, I’ve also found true of me in the same situation! I think I will suggest that both my partner and I should stay away from porn for a while and see what happens. -Intriguing thought. :) Thank you.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog Preston Blain

    It’s great to get a female opinion. Honesty is always the best way. My girlfriend was cool with it when I use to watch porn regular. Now that I have cut down a lot it has definitely made things better. Especially our sex life…

    Therefore I recommend everyone who reads this to give it a go at least once.

  • Danny Boy

    Sorry I came in late on this one (just subscribed). I was almost inclined to bust one off before I read this. Wasn’t sure how much of a downer this blog might have been for me. Anyhow I am definitely in on this challenge. Just to be clear is the point of this challenge to just last a month in order to know whether you’re an addict or not?( Of course, along with reaping the benefits of higher self esteem, less depression and less anxiety.) I don’t mean to sound like I am belittling this in no way these points are good enough. I just want to be clear of the end result I should be expecting. Another question what if I go for the whole month but by the end of the month I run to my laptop like there is no tomorrow, does that say anything about me? Oh yeah is it true that if you don’t use it, you lose it? (just kidding)

  • http://social-masters.com/blog Preston Blain

    It’s never too late :-) and hopefully this blog will have the opposite effect.

    As for the challenge I think it depends. If you can go without then you are definitely not an addict. However I never thought I was I just thought I could make better use of my time. It has helped me realise that I could live without it to a certain extent. It is something that I now watch far less than I ever use to and am reaping the benefits for that. As long as it’s not having a negative effect on your life, then I think porn is ok.

    Your end result maybe different. You may run to the laptop after a month. However if you went a whole month then do you really need it? Only you can answer that.

    And yes ‘keep on using it’, just no porn…

  • Another addicted

    hahha. i had been on a pact or a quest with myself by rebooting my brain for 30 days. On the 11th day,i felt incredibly horny as if this whole horny energy was about to explode in me if i didnt do anyting. Needless to say,i succumbed to the chicken choking and i failed my ideal rebooting duration which should have been 30 days. However, another consolation for me is that i know i do not have to reboot from the beginning,just to pick myself up from where i left off and continue to race towards that 30th day. Also,i want to finalize it with i stand as a living proof that a few days after masturbation fuels my anxiety,brain fogness and depression. i got pretty irritatable thru out the 2 or 3 days after that and it began to stabalize from 4th day onwards. Also, when i was in my teen and excessive masturbation didnt seem to be a problem and only when i am 27 now,one masturbation would send me straight to anxiety which i think it has somehting to with the accumulative effects of the long-term chronic masturbation habits;which in a way has altered the chemical neurotransmitters . Fortunately the process is reversible enough to undo all the years of damages that have caused adrenal fatigue. If you guys are interested,please go to this website about rebooting your brains from porn and masturbation,it will give u more indepth information and also other forum users’ testimonies.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog Preston Blain

    That’s another level up :-). Unless you have a girlfriend, going a whole month with out “Choking the chicken” is tough. I found it tough enough just giving porn up :-)

  • Fuego

    Your blog is amazing! I really commend your courage and open heart. I too struggle with this area of my life and I’ve conducted a lot of ‘research’ on the matter…You mentioned in your post that ” you also “started practicing magic more often”…well i find that very interesting because part of research tells me that people who are inclined to things like pornography and feel the need to battle it—>are more shall we say ‘spiritually gifted’ …I think and hopefully I will be able to share my full research with you—>That we are attracted to pornography and struggle with it because we are use it as a ‘drug’ to offset our psychic gifts…

    Anyway there’s the great sets of books called My Big Theory of Everything (T.O.E.)….that I am currently studying that has lead me to come up with this theory…the theory being that:

    People who are strongly attracted to pornography and consciously struggle to overcome the ‘habit’ of watching pornography have a great potential to activeate their psychic gifts. In other words if whenever we wanted to watch porn we instead meditated I think a whole new world would open up to US!