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Here is a list of what I consider to be 10 of the most important factors on how to get the girl you want. These are things you need to know in order to have more success when approaching women, when trying to attract women and to get a girlfriend (if so desired).

Some may seem fairly simple, and they are. However you can not do anything in life if you do not get the basics right. Also just remember that you do not need to be rich, famous or good looking to get girls to like you.

However there are certain things that you need to convey to women in order to have any chance of success.

Mental Attributes

These first 5 deal with the mental aspect of how to get girls to like you. In order to get girls you need to get your mental attitude correct. This is a very important aspect when it comes to learning how to get a girl:

1. Leadership

You need to take charge of any situation you are in. Whenever there is a group situation, you need to step forward and be the decision maker. Women like to be told what to do by a dominant figure.

One thing you must remember is that if you make a mistake with a certain decision then put your hand up and admit it. There is nothing worse than someone who knows they have made a mistake but won’t admit to it because they think it will make them look weak.

In fact, you will look weaker for not admitting your mistake than you will for putting your hands up and saying, “Yep I fucked up”. Although you should admit to mistakes, you don’t need to apologise for your actions if you were acting in a way that you thought was best for everyone. If you are at least trying to make the best decision possible then you have no reason to be sorry.

2. Be a decision maker

We touched on this above. It is such an important character trait to portray. We all have values in life. Find yours and stick to them. This will make it so much easier to be the decisive decision maker the majority of women are looking for. Being one of those people who let others make decisions for you is not attractive to women. You need to take responsibility for your actions by choosing what it is you want to do and not just follow others just for the sake of it.

3. Always have an abundance mentality

You need to get into the mindset that all women are in to you. For example, if a girl looks at you then looks away its because she likes you so much she is embarrassed to look. This will raise your confidence level which will make you more attractive to women on an unconscious level.

Also a little side note, don’t allow any mistakes you make in an interaction effect you. Although it’s easier said than done, you need to realise that if you do fuck up, the worst that will happen is you have to abandon the current interaction and go and start talking to one of the other million upon million of women out there.

4. Be picky and choosy

This follows on from the previous point. Once you have plenty of options you can become picky and choosy. You can be with any girl you choose and that means getting the girl you want is much more likely to happen. Women see other women want you, and this is hugely attractive. Women want men other women want.

Also because there are so many women out there, you don’t need to settle for women you don’t really want. You have so much choice out there that you can afford to be picky. Though I would recommend at least sleeping with a woman if you get the chance even if she is not your ideal girl. Don’t pass on a good thing. I know this has happened to Preston a few times when he was learning and I know he kicked himself a few times cos’ he passed up on some great opportunities :-).

5. Tell the truth

You do not need to lie to a girl to get them into bed or on a date. Everybody has a character hidden away that women will love. The trick is to bring it to the surface. In the long run it makes life so much simpler. As I always say, you need to have a great memory to be a good liar. To me that sounds too much like hard work.

One other thing, if you feel the need to lie then it shows that you obviously don’t have confidence in yourself. This is bad because it shows that you not comfortable with your own life. If you are not happy with you own life then trust me, being good with women is not going to make you any happier in the long run. For a bit, you will feel good but soon those things that made you lie in the first place will catch up on you.

Resources

To display these mental attributes you need to have a degree of confidence in yourself. If you feel however that you lack confidence then make sure you check out these articles as they will help you to achieve the level of confidence you need to be successful with women.

* Master Your Confidence With Women
* Building Confidence With Women
* How Can I Get A Girl If I Lack Confidence

Physical Attributes

These second 5 deal with the physical side of how to get the girl you want. In order to get the girl to like you, you need to master your own body. You are in control of your body and thus need to make sure that you do all that you can in order to achieve the desired results.

6. Body language

Stand tall, keep you head up, you shoulders relaxed, and arms casually by your side, and take up a lot of room. These 5 factors of body language will instantly make you more attractive to the opposite sex as you will come across more confident and dominant.

Lots of teachers out there talk about body language because it is such an important factor. So it’s worth getting down the gym and getting into shape. Not only will getting into shape make you look and feel better about yourself but it will help you have better body language because you will be stronger and fitter and able to hold your body with better posture.

Another thing you need to make sure that you also don’t slouch in chairs, make sure you use your computer at a desk that is set up correctly for you, lean on tables too much, etc. Be proactive in your actions so that you don’t build habits and thus cause you to have bad posture.

7. Facial expression

Smile, but not too much. You would be surprised how many men forget to smile because they are so nervous. Think logically. Who would you rather approach: a woman with a face like pure evil, or a women who has a beaming smile? Same thing for women. They would rather be approached by a man with a friendly smile than one looking like he is going to attack her. A smile is a subconscious, non-verbal way of saying hello.

Another great thing about smiling is that it makes you feel good and if you feel good you will probably be more successful. This has to be one of the most simple things you can implement into your life which will help you to get a girl.

8. Talking

Speak clearly and confidently. You need a good constant pace, not too fast as it looks nervous, or too slow as it looks try hard. Speak as though you were speaking to a family member. That is the sort of natural, confident speech you want.

The more natural your speech comes across, the more you look like you are comfortable in yourself and that you are comfortable talking to her. Trust me, women pick up on things like this, and they will be able to spot whether you are nervous or not.

If we go back to smiling for a second, if you are smiling then chances are your voice will come across as happy. Try speaking now with a big smile on your face and see how your voice sounds.

9. Listening

You must know when not to speak. Allow the girl to express herself as well. By knowing when to talk and when not is a good way of showing higher value.

Listening involves repeating back what she has said in your own words. This signals that you have been paying attention, and have understood what she was saying. There is nothing worse than talking to someone and getting that feeling that they either haven’t really been listening to what you have been saying. A rare thing in modern ‘ADHD’ mass-media-barrage society.

10. Show them you are of high value

Demonstrating to a women that you are of high value is one of the best ways to attract women. Teaching them something they did not know is an example of demonstrating high value that works like magic.

Anything you can do that someone else can’t demonstrates higher value. But you might be thinking the thing you can do is boring or not interesting enough. This may or may not be true, but you can help the situation by talking about what you can do in such a way that makes it interesting.

For example is you are an app developer, talking about how to program is kinda boring. But talking about the things that you have produced that have helped others or caused other enjoyment Will definitely be interesting to most people.

Resources

To help you get your body language sorted I have included some links below that should help you to achieve the above points and hopefully get you on track asap.

* Essential Body Language To Attract Women
* 7 Body Language Secrets That Attract Women
* Using Body Language To Be More Attractive

Final thoughts

I can not going into huge detail here as each of theses points could be an article in themselves (or even whole books). These however are the main aspects of how to get the girl  yo want and now you them, you can do some more research on your own.

Speak soon,
David Black

More Resources You Should Check Out

* How To Attract Girls
* How To Get A Girl To Like You
* 10 Ways To Get The Woman You Want
* How To Get The Girl You Want