How To Get Girls To Ask You Out
Imagine this: Women approach you, flirt with you, ask for your number, and ask *you* out. Sounds pretty good, huh? Well if you’re anything like me, you want to put as little effort in as possible to get maximum results. It is possible, regardless of looks, age, money, etc. to have girls approaching you and asking you out.
Most guys focus on how to get women, how to approach girls, how to kiss girls, etc. But sometimes, all this just seems too much like *hard work*. What if, instead of learning how to date women, how to attract girls, how to impress girls, etc, etc. What if instead of all that, you act in a way that makes girls approach you?
This is one of the most powerful ways to get girls…
Be the Cool Guy
The first aspect to get handled, in learning how to get women to make the first moves, is your inner game. You need to be the ‘cool guy’ in your city/town/work,/whatever. The guy that everyone wants to be friends with. In order to be this guy, you need confidence and leadership.
These are the two most fundamental attractive qualities you need to develop in yourself. Confidence and Leadership. Forget about learning how to approach girls. This is exponentially more powerful to focus on.
You need to be the centre of the coolest stuff that is happening. Get some cool hobbies like mountaineering, motorbike riding, or something similar. Exciting, fun and a hint of danger. This will help you get any girl interested and attracted to you.
Be friendly and warm towards everyone. Don’t ever take anything personally. Help people out when you can. Direct them to somebody who can help them when you can’t. You will come across to others as a pillar of strength, with an enviable resolve and patience. Everyone will like you, everyone will look up to you. This is true leadership.
Be Selective
You have options. You can choose who you spend time with, who you are intimate with, who you share your deepest secrets with. Be extremely selective who you choose to be around.
Have a set, specific criteria that you stick to when choosing who to hang out with. Character traits and behavioural habits that you wish to avoid, and those you wish to embrace.
This has to be genuine. If you have a rule that you do not give habitually dishonest and scheming ‘gossipy’ type girls the time of day, then stick to it. Even if a new girl starts at your work that is the hottest woman you have ever seen, if she does not meet your criteria then she only gets the barest minimum of attention. Courtesy, but nothing more.
Don’t Give a Fuck
Who cares if people say you are mean for not texting them back, or sitting with them at lunch. To you, the opinions of others have little or no value, unless they are a valued close friend or associate.
Let them talk, just don’t give a shit.
Don’t Chase Them
Don’t be seen to be after women. You are someone that is chased, not someone who does the chasing.
Patience is the name of the game here.
You can be proactive about this, just don’t come off as you are making any effort to do the pursuing. Perhaps ‘engineer’ a chance meeting, or just happen to sit next to a particular woman at a meal or social gathering. Make it appear natural and you can accelerate the process with these subtle techniques.
Have Very High Standards
This comes back to being selective. Women (and all your acquaintances) need to know that you only accept excellence in your life. Anything short of the mark ends up on the cutting room floor, so to speak.
Broadcast
There is no point in doing all this if you never speak to anyone, and nobody knows about it. That’s why you need to get the word out, to broadcast.
At work, and in your social circle, talk to women about this stuff. Tell them what your standards are, and that you find it hard to meet women that measure up. They will naturally talk about this amongst themselves when you are not present. Virally marketing your selective nature.
In addition, if you have online profiles on the various social media websites (see my article teaching you to attract women online with web2.0), then make sure that they convey all these qualities too. This will help with the women you already know, that are your ‘friends’ on these sites, and with any new women you meet, either online or off.
Conclusion
Apply all the stuff you’ve learned here, and in a few weeks, you will notice more and more attention being directed your way from women. This will have a snowballing effect as social proof starts to kick in, and the women see and hear about other women that are interested in you, deepening their intrigue and attraction for you even further.
Hope you’ve got some value out of this article on how to get girls to ask you out.
Speak soon,
David Black
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