How To Get A Girlfriend In 7 Easy Steps
So you want to learn how to get a girlfriend… Someone special to laugh with, to cry with, to share secrets and experiences. You may be searching for your soul-mate, or you may be after that one special girl.
In this post, I’m gonna cover the *master plan* for going out there and getting yourself a cute girlfriend. This is How To Get a Girlfriend, step-by-step. Let’s go find a new girlfriend.
Let’s get one thing straight right off the bat. This is not a case of just going up to women and saying, “Will you be my girlfriend?” That might have worked in junior school, but we’re grown ups now, lets learn how to get a girl like the grownups do…
The Master Plan:
- Get Your Attitudes and Beliefs Aligned For Success
- Get Your Confidence and Self Esteem Handled
- Get Out Into Public
- Approach
- Mutually Attract
- Build A Soul-Mate Level Connection
- Follow Up and Close The Deal
1. Get Your Attitudes and Beliefs Aligned For Success
The key here is to let your inner man shine through. If your attitudes and beliefs are sabotaging your efforts, everything else you do will be in vain. Most dating advice sites don’t tell you this, and it is crucial!
See my post on how to attract girls for a detailed how-to in this area.
2. Get Your Confidence and Self Esteem Handled
Along with attitude, confidence and self esteem are the pillars of success with women, and specifically getting a girl friend. Without them you will get nowhere.
See my post on Confidence With Women for a detailed action plan on getting this sorted
3. Get Out Into Public
This is often the hardest part for a lot of guys, actually going out their front door.
This is essentially down to the opposite poles of fear and motivation guiding your unconscious actions.
I cover this in serious detail in my video How To Meet More Women For The Rest Of Your Life.
If you haven’t watched it yet, get on it. I have had comments telling me it is better than most paid for ebooks out there in this field. And it’s totally free.
After watching it, you’ll be hugely motivated to go out and find a girlfriend.
4. Approach
Once you are ‘out there’ in the real world (no ‘online girlfriend’ here, haha), you actually need to go up to the women you want to talk to. Again, this is a scary and often times difficult thing to do.
That’s why I’ve got a dedicated post on this very subject: How To Approach A Girl. Go check it out.
5. Mutually Attract
Once you are talking to women, you need to know the ‘attraction code’. How do you get them attracted to you? And what is the best way to communicate your attraction for them?
Don’t worry, all this is covered in my post Attract Girl check it out for amazing detail on how to get girls.
6. Build A Soul-Mate Level Connection
This is the most crucial part of the whole step-by-step process. Miss this out and you might as well have not bothered with all that came before. Girls will laugh and joke with you but won’t return texts, or calls, or want to meet up, or they will be flaky.
You really do need to build a connection so deep, so fundamentally powerful that you see each other as perfect soul-mates. This is easier than it sounds.
A huge part of the problem is that in society today, we are so isolated. Our interactions with others are so superficial. We are just not used to connecting with people on such a deep and meaningful level.
I do cover how to create this kind of connection in my video How To Meet More Women For The Rest Of Your Life
Rest assured I will be writing a seriously in-depth article on precisely how to go about getting this kind of connection in the near future, as I want to help you be able to do this quickly and easily. Sign up for my newsletter and be informed as soon as I post articles.
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7. Follow Up and Close The Deal
Text her every now and then (once every other day or so, depending on how keen she is at responding). Leave it a few days and she will feel the tension, but leave it too long and she will feel rejected and apathetic. Don’t manipulate. You should naturally have other stuff to be doing and thinking about, so texting her fifty times a day just won’t naturally happen.
Phone her after a day, or a couple of days. This can be a fear-inducing experience, but in reality it’s no different to interacting in person. Just relax, disengage your critical factor and go with the flow. You’ll be fine.
Arrange to meet again, depending on her level of attraction for you either go for a 1-on-1, or if she is not so cool with that, go for your-friends-meet-her-friends kinda deal. Less pressure that way.
Once you have arranged to meet again, stay in touch as you would any other friend. It should make no difference. Don’t constantly get her to confirm she is still coming, as this appears needy (and is!). Just chill out.
If she flakes, no worries. Doesn’t mean Game Over. Just brush it off like, “No worries, we’ll sort it another time.” Reality is you shouldn’t feel bad anyway, as you have loads going on in your life, and many events, people. No biggie.
When you do meet up, make sure you confidently take things in a physical direction. We’re talking isolation and escalation ladder here.
Usually by this time, sex is just a matter of getting the right logistics. You need a private place to go (your house, her place, hotel, car – if desperate) condoms, transport for both of you and to have left your friends to their own devices.
Make sure you are confident you can give her some of the best sex of her life. Search online for tips & techniques relating to this. Tease her. Leave her in ecstasy but wanting more. This is how I got together with my girlfriend when we first met. Proven. Formula.
If you have done everything as prescribed up to this point, congratulations. This is the start of your new relationship with your new girlfriend.
Laters,
David Black
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