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How To Get A Girl Alone At A Club

It’s the same old story that happens time and time again…

You’re at a club with your friends having a good night out, when you spot a girl that takes your interest. You want to get her alone, you want to get to know her. There is however one obstacle that makes you hesitate… getting her away from her friends! And the dilemma that is just how to get a girl alone occurs frequently to most guys.

That’s because it’s not always as simple as walking up to her and just stealing her away from her friends. How to get a girl out from under her friends grasp takes the following considerations:

First even though there are women that are looking for a guy to meet, she may feel obligated to stay with her friends. Most people allow their friends around them to make their decisions without them even realising it. It all comes down to sticking with the ‘status quo’ and more importantly having the courage to break it.

Always remember that this girl doesn’t know you! As her friends will be constantly around her, she may feel like they are watching her every move. She’ll feel on edge and will continually ask herself questions: “What if I’m seen as a slut?”, “What will my friends think of him?”

Her friends will be protective.

You may accidentally come across as possessive as your attention will be instantly drawn towards the girl and not her friends, causing jealousy within the group.
How to get a girl alone?

Here’s the key. Engage the entire group, don’t focus on the girl you are interested in. This may seem like an odd tactic to take on board. However, this can help you greatly in two ways. It will satisfy her friends, as you’re paying them attention. At the same time, this will make you be seen as ‘desirable’ and she’ll become jealous that she’s not constantly in the limelight. While talking to her friends, you would want to show them your fun and intellectual side to your personality. You can easily do this by telling them stories and showing them cool stuff (e.g.: magic tricks, fun little games, etc.).

As soon as her friends see that you’re a cool guy, the girl will be feel comfortable with being herself around you. Her friends are giving you subconscious acceptance to the group. Thus, they will not stand in your way when you want to spend some time with girl you like. Her friends may even give their approval so much that they’ll do the ‘hooking up’ for you. This is a good thing(tm) :-)

When you feel ready to get the girl alone, rather than whisking her away from the group, ask her friends whether they would oppose if you wanted to take the girl somewhere else as, “you seem to be getting on pretty well”. It will look peculiar if you get the girl alone without having a reason, so always have something in mind to why you want to get her alone; whether it’s for wanting to tell her something or to dance with her on the dance floor.

The pressure is off for the both of you once you have finally managed to get the girl alone. You will become more relaxed, more confident and your attention will be focused on getting to know her more intimately. Instead of making the girl feel nervous and uncomfortable, you have used her friends’s influence as a vital weapon to overcome her initial insecurities.

So there you have it. You now know how to get a girl alone in a club. Now go out and do it :-)

Speak soon,
David Black

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