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Learning how to be the bad boy seems to be a very popular subject when it comes to getting girls. Especially in today’s society where we seem to be exposed to these so called bad boy types all the the time.

You see them constantly on the news, some macho, cocky, arrogant sort that seems to be playing women for fools. Yet women still love these guys because they are attractive in so many ways.

I wrote an article a while back detailing how to become a bad boy. If you haven’t read the article then I highly recommend that you check it out. It will give you a good starting place to learn how to be the bad boy that will have all the women chasing after you.

Today I am going to discuss a few more things that I have come to realise make up the bad bad boy that women will love. These are things that women find so appealing about the bad boy mantra.

One quick thing

As well as going into this in the article I linked to above, I think it’s something that needs repeating as it’s very important. Here is a quote from that article:

“At the end of the day, being a bad boy doesn’t mean you need to do some crazy, dangerous or bad ass stuff. It don’t mean you need to treat women poorly or with no respect.”

Being a bad boy is not about being mean on purpose, or treating people badly. Here at Social Masters, we believe that you should always treat people how you would like to be treated yourself.

However this does not mean that you can’t be a bad boy, it just means that you need to think about what you are doing before you actually go out and do it. Here is a quick list of the things from the other article so you can recap what we are talking about.

Confidence

All bad boy’s are confident. You need to believe in yourself and truly feel and act like you are god’s gift to women. This needs to be done without going over-the-top and coming across arrogant (which can sometimes be a very fine line).

Sexually switched on

Being comfortable around women whilst getting sexual is very attractive. Showing that you are not afraid to take things to a sexual level and showing you know what you are doing will make women want you.

Don’t care

If someone does not like you for the way you are then who gives a shit. You don’t apologise for the way you are because that’s who you are. In this life you will come to realise that not everyone will like you, so there’s little point in trying to act differently to please others.

Don’t take crap

Women love trying to test you. If you give into these tests then you are just a chump like 90% of guys out there. You need to take control of interactions and relationships and be the dominant alpha male.

Mystery

Women love mystery, so make sure you keep her guessing. Don’t lay your cards on the table. Don’t always give straight answers to her probing questions.

Desperation no-no

You can’t come across as desperate. Women will pick up on this and lose any attraction they might have felt for you. Instead you need to get them wanting you more than you want them.

Ok so that was a quick recap. If you want some more detail check out the original article here: ‘How to become a bad boy’.

A few more key characteristics

Here are a few more things that we can add to the list in order to make ourselves more attractive to women:

Availability is scarce

You don’t want to seem like you are always available to women. Bad boys tend to be short on time because they are the sort of guys who have places to go and things to do. They are doing cool things such as going rock climbing or getting into shape by hitting the gym.

If you always seem to have the time to meet up with women, or are always hanging around women constantly, it may come across as if you have nothing better to do and that you are just vying for their attention. This can come across badly.

However you need to have a fine balance though. You need to at least spend sometime around the women you want cos’ otherwise they might get the impression that you are not interested in them.

Caring too much is bad

Firstly lets get one thing straight. I am not telling you not to care. Caring is a good thing and you should care about the things that matter to you. Things like family, performing to the best of your ability, doing well in your career, etc.

However I am talking about the sorts of things that can be irrelevant. Caring what others think of you even though they are not important in your life. People are always going to judge you no matter what you do. However only those who truly matter to you are important opinions. The rest are worthless.

Also try to stay calm and don’t get too rattled if bad things happen. I particularly find this hard to do, but I know from talking to others that accepting things will go wrong from time to time is just the way of the world.

The bad boy attitude might be associated with those who don’t give a shit about anything. However in my humble opinion, I believe that even that baddest of bad asses have certain things that they care about. They just don’t waste time caring about things that don’t really matter.

Don’t seek approval

You should not seek approval from others. If you have a strong set of values and beliefs then this should be relatively easy.

Being a bad boy is all about doing what you believe is right because of your values and beliefs. You don’t stop doing something because others judge you on it (unless of course it’s illegal or wrong in some way). Instead you know what you want to achieve in life and you stand up and grasp it with both hands.

Be strong emotionally

Being able to deal with things emotionally is very important. If you just result to complaining, whining, etc then you are not really a bad boy.

For the most part you need to be able to deal with bad situations (including rejection) without it affecting you to bad on an emotional level. You don’t want to have something like a girl saying no cause you large amounts of stress.

However bottling things up that are worthy of a release is a bad thing. If, for example, a close family relative passed away, then it’s ok to cry. I consider myself a bit of a bad boy, but if one of my family or a close friend passed away then I would be in floods of tears.

Remember being strong emotionally is not about stopping yourself from getting upset, but knowing when it’s appropriate to show emotions.

Getting your appearance sorted

Wearing dull boring clothes is not going to make you look like a bad boy to women. Although style is not as important as attitude, if you want to pull of the bad boy look, then it’s time you got some bad boy clothing.

Obviously you need to be aware of what things suit you. There is no point where something that is considered to give you the desired look of being a bad ass, if it doesn’t suit your style. If you need to learn how to wear the right clothes then check out: Seduce with style. It will help you find the right clothes for you and then you can wear the ones that make you look like a total bad ass.

Also get down the gym and get into shape. Take the film titled ‘Bad Boys’. Will Smith is a true bad ass and you only have to look as him to see this. This comes down to his style of clothing and also the fact he has huge muscles.

Become a leader and be decisive

I have already written an article called ‘How to attract girls’. This article covers the main aspects of why we need to have the qualities of being a leader and making decisive decisions. It’s something that alpha males have been doing since the dawn of man. Time you did the same thing.

Final thoughts

There you have it, how to be the bad boy women will love. Reading this and the article how to become a bad boy, you should not only improve with women but also in all aspects of your life. These things are important for success not just with women, but success in everyday life.

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain