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How to attract girls – this challenge has occupied men since the beginnings of humanity. Cavemen collected food, warriors slayed bad guys, and artists painted masterpieces all in the name of getting nookie. But they all got it wrong. And men the world over continue to get it wrong to this day.

Not all men. 99% do not realise that this puzzle has been *solved*. The code has been cracked. We now know precisely how to attract women, on a biological gut-level. We’re not talking fleeting feelings here.

I’m on about the kind of deep emotional attraction women normally only feel for guys like rock stars, or film actors. Think screaming, crying, fainting Beatles fans – That’s what I’m talking about.

That’s what we can do now the code has been cracked, and more importantly, that’s what we can *teach* to anyone…

I know, because several years ago I was shown the beginnings of what I know now about attracting girls.

Trippy Flashback Alert

I was at rock-bottom in my life. I had just finished University (voluntarily – I dropped out), and I was unemployed. I lived with my parents. I had very few friends, and I felt lonely and depressed. I seriously felt like my life had no purpose, no direction. I felt lost in the world.

I could not see it at the time but all of these problems were rooted in my inability to have ‘success with women’. I was intimidated by women. I felt guilty for my feelings, like I didn’t deserve to even be looking at attractive women. All in all my life was pretty messed up, and my head was in a bad place. I was depressed because I was not being the person I knew deep inside myself I had the potential to be.

This all changed when I met someone who introduced me to the principles of approaching women, interacting with them, and getting them attracted to you. Cliche time – my *life changed*. I know it sounds cheesy and corny, but the truth is I went from depressed to seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

All of a sudden I found myself able to talk to women in public places. This was awesome on its own, but even better they were laughing, smiling and touching me – they actually *liked* me (and without even using pheromones!!!). They were *attracted to me*. To go from what I was before, to this, felt incredible.

Its like the film The Lion King (stick with me here :) ), where Simba’s Dad Mufasa is killed at the beginning, and you feel so sad, there is such a deep feeling of sorrow at the loss. Then the film progresses and Simba grows up, becomes a mature male Lion, and ends up avenging his father’s death and leading the pride. That emotional high that you feel at the end is a tiny sliver of what it feels like to experience this transformation in yourself. Loss and Redemption.

After this initial breakthrough, I progressed quickly and it wasn’t long before guys began going out with me, to learn from me. I showed guys casually these principles, and they started to have the same success with girls that I had experienced. One guy, Steven, went from a depressed, self-loathing, self-harming shell of a man to a confident ladies man, who constantly met women in real life, online, and had many girls at his work chasing him.

So, after much convincing by the guys I have helped. I’m putting a few of the principles I go by into written form, so that others can benefit from my experiences, learn from my failures and generally shorten their own learning curve.

You might think this includes showing people how to approach girls, how to attract girls and dating women, read on to find out how…

Sorry if things seem a bit haphazard. I’m not the best writer ever, and my mind sometimes wanders off into strange and mysterious places all by itself. I never really intended to write any of this stuff down. That said, let’s get into things – onwards!…

Three Kinds of Men – Which One Are You?

In my experience, there are three kinds of men (or ‘stages of maturity’ if you like), and each one falls into one of the patterns of behaviour below:

  1. The Unacknowledged Hero: Work Hard (job, etc) -> Get or Create Stuff -> Try To Impress Girls
  2. The Pickup Artist: Learn Loads of ‘Lines’, ‘Routines’ and ‘Techniques’ -> Use Them -> Get Girls -> (usually) Feel Shallow and Like You Are ‘Faking It’
  3. The Real Man: Develop Yourself as a Man -> Be Genuine (Attractive Behaviours Happen Naturally, Without Effort) -> Women Are Attracted To You Automatically

The Unacknowledged Hero: Work Hard (job, etc) -> Get or Create Stuff -> Impress Girls

The Unacknowledged Hero works really hard, usually has a great job, and the thought of impressing women with his prowess is at the forefront of his mind. Unacknowledged Heroes buy women chocolates, drinks, flowers, jewelery, and more. All in a futile attempt at getting a woman to like them, sexually.

They try to understand women from women’s perspective (reading Cosmo, etc.). They are nice to women, and will be the first to pipe up about sexism and equality. They think they are being genuine, but the hard truth is women don’t see it that way. This combination of material bribery (buying gifts, taking them out for meals, etc) and standing up for women only because they think it will get them into bed with them is seen by women as creepy and manipulative.

Women will use and take advantage of a guy like this, even though they know they shouldn’t really. And they will string them along with the promise of physical intimacy always just out of reach, getting drinks, rides place, meals out and more all paid for. All the while they have zero intention of ever doing anything physical with the guy, and if they were to tell you truthfully, they are kind of repulsed by them.

The Pick up Artist: Learn Loads of ‘Lines’ and ‘Techniques’ -> Use Them -> Get Girls -> (usually) Feel Shallow and Like You Are ‘Faking It’

So one day our Unacknowledged Hero comes across some resources online that teach techniques for meeting women. He puts them to use and he gets great results. Six months down the line, he is getting girls consistently. He has become a player and is the envy of all external observers.

But inside he feels empty. He has said the same opening lines, stories and routines hundreds if not thousands of times. He feels like it is an effort to ‘put on’ his Pickup Artist personality. This leaves him feeling demotivated, drained and deeply unsatisfied. He wants girls to like him for himself, not for the stories and routines someone else came up with years ago. This is not living, its acting.

The Real Man: Develop Yourself as a Man -> Be Genuine (Attractive Behaviours Happen Naturally, Without Effort) -> Women Are Attracted To You Automatically

So the Pick up Artist takes a look at himself and realises (finally) that he has to get to the *real* bottom of things. And he realises that the real challenges lie deep within his own mind. The focus has to move from external ‘techniques’ to intrinsic principles, values and beliefs. All deeply held within his character. He does this, and all of a sudden he stops having to ‘try’ anymore or put on a song and dance show. He relaxes into just being a *Man*.

To others he looks like he has always been naturally good with women. He makes it look effortless, and for the most part, it is effortless. Each day he feels alive and fulfilled. Women are everywhere in his life, and he is truly happy.

Don’t Be The ‘Pick up Artist’

Forget about what you are going to say or do to attract women for now. Lets focus on what is going on in your mind.  You need to believe in what you are doing, and become the man that women will naturally find attractive. Everyone has this ‘Alpha Male’ quality inside them, it just has to be nurtured and developed.

How To Let Your Inner Man Shine Through

At the moment you Inner Man is like an animal that has been caged in a Zoo. It has not been well looked after, it is gaunt and its fur is patchy. The spirit has been beaten out of it over many years of abuse and banging against the bars in a vain effort to escape its prison. It’s time to unbolt the door to the cage and let the animal roam free. It’s time to stop trying to force yourself to be a leader, and just relax into it.

How do you recognise your Inner Man when it shows itself? How can you know when you are on track? Well, you could go and watch the Discovery Channel for a few hours and see the characteristics of the alpha male lion (Roar! – fun), or you could just keep reading as we delve into that aspect of mind known as being a Real Man.

Real men are:

  • Leaders
  • Decision Makers
  • Picky and Choosy
  • Always Surrounded by Plenty of Options

Leadership

From now on, in any situation where other people are involved, you are the leader. Any group you are in, you will become the leader without thinking about it. Instantly you will become more attractive to women in the group, and outside the group.

You are the dominant person, everyone looks to you for what to do. You tell people what to do. You know best. If anyone else want to be the leader, they must challenge for it. In the animal kingdom, this results in a fight. With civilised, sober humans, this (almost always) happens verbally. You stand up for what you believe in, and you will admit when you made a mistake, but you do not apologise for it – you acted to the best of your abilities and knowledge at the time.

Decision Making

Part of leadership involves you being decisive. Being decisive is a result of having strong Values. The stronger and more clear your values are, the quicker you will make decisions. Work on developing and becoming intricately familiar with your values (this is a big enough subject for a whole other post, but do some digging around, there are resources online that can help, as can books on NLP). You have this mentality when you are with women. You make decisions and act quickly in situations involving both of you.

Lots of Options

A Real Man is choosy, picky. This comes from the fact that he has lots of options. Having lots of option comes from seeing possibilities everywhere, while everyone else sees only chaos.

Start believing all women are attracted to you. You have options. All women are into you, you are doing the selecting. You have an air of confidence, coming from the belief that you can meet and attract any women you want. This confidence *will be noticed* (consciously or unconsciously) by women. They are biologically hard-wired to pick up on very subtle cues.

Finally

Stop Caring What Other People Think Of You. Get out of your own head. Get rid of that need for others’ approval. Its time to grow into a mature man. A man that only requires approval from himself. If you think it is good, it *is* good. This might be the most important point of this whole post.

Be it people you know or people you don’t, it does not matter. This is especially important when it comes to women. When you approach you will be confident because you can have any women in the bar, club, supermarket etc. (as we talked about earlier).

If you ‘balls it up’ it does not matter. You can go around the next corner and there will be ten more women right there ready to be approached.

Who really cares what happens to you? Do these strangers give a shit about your life? No. But you do, and I do too. So listen when I say stop caring what other random people think of you, and let your Real Man shine through. Stop worrying what people think, and start making the rules yourself.

Listen to some Rage Against The Machine. Start standing up for yourself. Give yourself permission to do the things you’ve always wanted, as long as they are *legal* ;) – anything’s fair game. Stop waiting for someone to tell you everything is ok, and just get on with it.

Filling The Void

The problem is too many people want to learn techniques as a replacement for genuine value in themselves. They are the magic bullets that provide the instant gratification we all desire. Granted, techniques and lines allow you to go out and approach women straight away. The problems stem from the fact that you, like anything in life, must believe in what you are doing. You must think and feel like a Real Man in order to become a Real Man.

Take a professional sportsman for example. Every one of them believes they are, or can be, the best, and that they *will win*. Any thoughts of losing are banished as soon as they spring into existence in the athlete’s mind. This is the attitude you have when interacting with women: I Can Have, and Deserve, Any Woman I Desire.

I’ll end with one of my favourite quotes of all time. As, the fabled Rick H, speaking at David DeAngelo’s Advanced Dating Techniques seminar said, ”It’s Something I Am, Not Something I Do”.

Hope you enjoyed reading ‘How to attract girls’. Now stop trying and start being!

Speak soon,
David Black

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  • http://www.TwoMakingUp.com Ken

    Wow, great blog. A very thorough and informative post.

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  • Sadikmetalhead

    You are a master minder………….

  • http://www.sowhatdidyouthink.net Admin

    This post is totally true. Each time a situation has presented itself to be what you talk about, it has paid off big. It has nothing to do with how you look, or talk, or walk but has everything to do with your attitude and confidence. A great post.

  • NYman

    I disagree. Looks matter alot. Women are just as visual as men these days and you cannot discount that. Women do not have calendars of Danny Devito in their cubicles but they do of Brad Pitt. So you are going to tell me that looks dont matter? They are at least 50% of more so.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Looks might matter in selling calendars. A few decades of cultural change (towards a more materialistic view of men by women’s magazine’s) is not going to override thousands of years of biological hard-wiring that makes women attracted to certain traits in men. Looks are nowhere near the top of the list.

    The only difference good looks make for guys is getting a bit of interest from girls that say things like, “Have you seen that hot guy from…?” to each other. Most of them never speak to or approach the guy.

    I’ve seen some ugly-ass dudes with some hot women. Bald, short, skinny, it doesn’t matter. Personality and character can more than make up for any ‘shortcoming’ any guy might think he has. For examples in popular culture, see Dudley Moore (short as fuck), Joe Pesci (ugly as fuck). Jack Black (fat as fuck) – all have smoking hot girlfriends or wives.

  • NYman

    David,

    I understand about Dudley Moore, Joe Pesci, Jack Black and all thats guys but it really goes against all this evolutionary theory we are thought in tandem with pickup. Every course I have taken makes one read say The Selfish Gene or The Red Queen or some evolutionary book that overtly suggests that women will go after the taller, fitter male.

    I am really confused here David. Why would a hot woman – lets say a Selma Hayek or Giselle or any conventional hot women twin, want to date a short balding guy if she can date a taller better looking guy (say a Brad Pitt). It goes against all evolutionary principals. We are taught that women are going to go after the “best sperm” possible if we are to believe all that Darwin theory. So if you can, can you explain to me why a woman that has the choice of any man in a room or area would date a man “biologically inferior” to what she is supposed to go after? I am really confused here.

    You seem to have a good grasp on all of this. Please let me know.

  • NYman

    I have noticed with online that height (which I consider a bit part of the looks thing) is heavily evaluated beyond the norm. I have put up my same profile with various heights (anywhere from 5’10 to 6’2 for I am around 5’6) and not only did my emails and “winks” get responded too by hot women but I was sent unsolicited emails from them directly. This as opposed to my actual height being in my profile which is maybe a couple of responses a month and not from the women I am truly attracted too.

    I understand that this is one dimensional and that women are using the logical sides of their minds, but they are still using something in their mind to answer the “taller me” vs. the “shorter me.” There must be something in them to want to reply and send me emails that way. Its the same profile and person, just a different height so I have to think that the looks component of height has to be something they are overtly attracted too. Something biologically hardwired.

    Women have always been swayed by handsome men. Read Victorian novels novels and look to stories of bold, handsome and dashing knights.

    Can you comment on this?

  • http://social-masters.com/blog Preston Blain

    I thought I would jump in here. When I was younger I was tall, had glasses, gap in my teeth from surgery, was skinny and had a lisp. I thought that women didn’t like me cos of the way I looked. I obviously had little confidence.

    By the time I was 21 I had an implant placed in my mouth, beefed up down the gym, had laser eye surgery and my lisp had died down. I stood 6ft 1inch and was now being told how good looking I was.

    Did I get laid? Did I fuck…

    I soon realised that looks were not going to help me. I needed to get my inner self sorted. 2 years later and I got laid for the first time, few months after that the second time and few months after that the third time.

    Looks helped me as much as a chocolate Tpot compared to becoming a confident, funny, interesting guy.

    I highly recommend reading http://social-masters.com/blog/preston-blain

  • NYman

    I did listen to your audio. Very good and thank you for the download. Many good points. The only sin I think I am guilty of is outcome dependence. I am guilty of that one. I guess you can call it competitive spirit! That is something I do need to work on most true.

    Preston I appreciate your metamorphosis story. However that does not really answer my dilemma here. Yes “inner game” is important if not the most from a self intrinsic standpoint if you are say in an interaction with someone or they get to know you over a period of time. The young lady can get to know you and something can happen. However that does not help me with my issues say via online or in a bar, club or some immediate social setting. The curve there is very small.

    I need to know (if you can help me, great) why would a hot woman pick an average to a little below average looking guy over some hot guy? It goes against every evolutionary thing we are taught in this community. If personality and “quality traits” are so important, then why do women overlook this say via online profiles if a guy is not 6ft tall per say? Just saying look to inner game is not going to answer that….

    This is what I need to know if you can answer.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    First of all, if you are exhibiting any of the 7 Dead Sins, it will KILL your chances, so get a handle on it if you want to stand any chance at all. Perhaps try reframing any limiting beliefs you have.

    Secondly, you say it goes against “every evolutionary thing we are taught”. I don’t think you understand what ‘evolutionary things’ these are. They are traits displayed by men that show they would make a good mate for a female. You seem to have this confused with physical appearance, which is a TINY subset of this.

    Here are some examples of traits that women find attractive:
    *Being someone who they feel can protect them.
    *Being someone they look towards for leadership, i.e. If they are unsure, you are the one they folow.
    *Seeing that there are other women that are already interested in you.

    These are just three examples off the top of my head. These kind of things TROUNCE any physical characteristics when it comes triggering attraction in women.

    I am average to below average looks, and plenty of hot women have chosen me over pretty-boy-muscle-jocks in clubs on many occasions.

    As for women ignoring guys below a certain height on dating sites, yes it happens. They just have to have criteria they filter guys by so they aren’t left with thousands of results. This is a sad result of societal conditioning, but is reality so you have to deal with it. Get over it. Put you are 7ft tall and then take the piss out of them for being so gullible when you meet in real life. Or stop bothering with dating sites and GET OUT IN THE REAL WORLD.

    You’ll see that this height/looks issue is only true in your head.

  • NYman

    David

    Is not protection a thing women look to for the size of a man? You cannot tell me that a woman is going to feel more protected with a guy 5’2 vs. a guy 6’4 unless the guy is Bruce Lee (who was 5’7 and is a bit of an anomaly). Also I do go out into the real world. I approach in the real world all the time. Daygame, night time. I have done tons of bootcamps – you name it I have done it over the last decade.

    Height is not in my head guys. This is an easy way out. Its a reality just like if I was bald or something other situation. Its reality. So how do I deal with it.

    Women in the real world in situations of before or perhaps after a couple of dates will tell me something like “its just weird when I wear heels. I just feel uncomfortable that I am taller than you with heels.” I try to reframe to the best of my ability (I have studied a ton of NLP from Bandler and Ericksons work and all, read most of their books and products, Mindlines,ect) and its almost impossible if they get this in their head.

    I am at a loss. I understand I have to deal with it and I accept that. However there has to be some way to overcome it and at this moment I do not have any answers even remotely.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    > Is not protection a thing women look to for the size of a man?

    Like I said before, your physical appearance is way, way down on the scale of things that influence how a woman feels about you. What makes her feel *much* more protected is: being with someone who is confident in unfamiliar situations; someone who is not afraid to stand up for themselves when someone transgresses their values (e.g. cuts in line in front of them); or even things like small gestures at a club (e.g. physically ‘shielding’ her when someone brushes by you in a crowd). Get off this obsession with looks.

    You say it’s reality, but reality is meaningless in and of itself. It’s the meaning we apply to reality that counts.

    > I have done tons of bootcamps – you name it I have done it over the last decade…
    > I have studied a ton of NLP from Bandler and Ericksons work and all, read most of their books and products, Mindlines,ect

    If you have done all this and are still having problems, you’re not going to find the solutions you are looking for on a blog’s comment section. Reframing is *the answer* to your limiting belief (which is that women don’t find you attractive because you are shorter than them). If you really have worked through all of Mind Lines, and attacked that belief from all possible angles, and it hasn’t helped, I suggest you go and seek proper professional help such as a hypnotherapist.

    Don’t give up. There is always a solution. You’ve done all this work with the bootcamps, etc. You won’t find the answers you are looking for sat in front of a computer on a website. Go get the help you need. No matter how bad you may feel things are for you, there is a way through this.

  • Leo

    I love you man,thanx a lot……!!!
    i am damn confident and my energy levels are boosted,yea i see soo many girls around me going out with dumbest of asses and i thought im good looking atleast better than them,so if im unlucky ??? my friends told me i dont approach girls ,thats the problem,but most of the time i don’t want to approach them is because of the fact that it seems all of the girls have boyfriends or are committed….thats a little problem for me,otherwise i must say ur words helped me..Thanx a lot bro…!!! cheers…

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Thanks Leo. Your friends are right, you need to approach and talk to girls in order to stand any chance. They will hardly ever make the first move. Yes most girls have boyfriends, but that doesn’t stop you being cool and sociable towards them, and if they end up choosing you over him, then so be it.

  • Anonymous

    So, how to pick up women online? Is it really possible through online dating?

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    i have a question me and this girl were talking on the phone for about one year.the last time she called me was in august 2010,she admitted to having a crush on me and shit.she gave a kiss on the cheeck through the phone.she promised to call back…she never did….explain to me.what i did wrong? i didn’t do shit to her

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  • http://social-masters.com/blog Preston Blain

    Did you try and ring her? After she admitted having a crush on you she may have gone shy. Don’t wait for the girl to get back in contact with you, take the initiative and phone her.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog Preston Blain

    Yes it’s possible. Here is a link to our article online dating tips for men. Check it out and see if it helps you out.

  • Neboteen

    The problem for me isn’t walking up to a girl it’s what I have to say , you said in the mp3 , like rule number 7 ; How old are you, Where do you work , what school do you go to… ?  That usually my starting questions , got any idea what to say instead and begin a conversastion ?

    (Ofcourse I say hi my name is thought)

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    You want to be interesting and unusual. If you ask normal boring things then 1. She isn’t going to respond *emotionally* and 2. She isn’t going to remember you.

    Be playful and lighthearted. Say something with a wry smile and stick to your guns if she comes back with a witty response – that’s a good sign.

    Some examples might be:
    *Playfully make fun of whatever she is doing.
    *Accuse her of being up to no good, e.g. “I know what you’re up to. You might have everyone else fooled…” etc.
    *Make an observation about something she is wearing/her style/something she is holding. Use your observation skills and quick-thinking. E.g. (If she is carrying some shopping bags) “Hope you remembered to get my birthday gift. I haven’t forgotten last year.”

    If they laugh, or have some other kind of emotional response from the get-go. You know you are on to a winner.

  • Lion

    Thanks a lot for this article! But I have a problem. I don’t know how to stop caring about what other people think about me. I’ve tried telling myself that’s it’s stupid and I shouldn’t care MANY MANY times, but it doesn’t work. Any advice?

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Ok, the mistake you are making here is ‘telling yourself it’s stupid’. The more you battle with yourself, the harder your psyche will resist any changes or suggestions.

    The key is to actually train yourself to not care. To do this, start small. Perhaps wear something in public you wouldn’t normally wear. Then, once you’ve done this, and experienced the fact that, guess what, nobody cared what you wearing, just ramp it up.

    Start acting goofy in shops. Go to a toystore and play with some toys. Wear a stupid costume on a night out. Shave your head, or style your hair crazy. Just build and build, like training weights at the gym.

    This will gradually teach your mind that it’s all gonna be ok, everybody is so involved with themselves that nobody has time to really pay much attention to anyone else. You will be convinced through action, and proof demonstrated through your own eyes that what other people think doesn’t matter one tiny little bit.

  • Heartmind24

    Thanks…quite informative…

  • Anonymous

    Do you think that long distance relationships is possible? because I live in another state and I think that the girls from the other state they are more beautiul and there are more latinas and asians there and i live four hours from they the other state, and my sister does live in that state so I can vist like in summer vacation and maybe more, do you think its possible? and do you have an article about long distance relationships? and do you have an email address I can use? and thanks for your articles man.

  • Anonymous

    Do you think that long distance relationships is possible? because I live in another state and I think that the girls from the other state they are more beautiul and there are more latinas and asians there and i live four hours from they the other state, and my sister does live in that state so I can vist like in summer vacation and maybe more, do you think its possible? and do you have an article about long distance relationships? and do you have an email address I can use? and thanks for your articles man.

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  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Rejection is totally part of the game. The more you can get rejected the more success you are going to have.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Rejection is totally part of the game. The more you can get rejected the more success you are going to have.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Rejection is totally part of the game. The more you can get rejected the more success you are going to have.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Rejection is totally part of the game. The more you can get rejected the more success you are going to have.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Rejection is totally part of the game. The more you can get rejected the more success you are going to have.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Rejection is totally part of the game. The more you can get rejected the more success you are going to have.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Rejection is totally part of the game. The more you can get rejected the more success you are going to have.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Rejection is totally part of the game. The more you can get rejected the more success you are going to have.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Yeah, great advice. Get out of your own head, for sure. The ironic thing is, it enables you to get som much more of what you want out of life, which was part of your motivation for being so self-centred in the first place.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Yeah, great advice. Get out of your own head, for sure. The ironic thing is, it enables you to get som much more of what you want out of life, which was part of your motivation for being so self-centred in the first place.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Yeah, great advice. Get out of your own head, for sure. The ironic thing is, it enables you to get som much more of what you want out of life, which was part of your motivation for being so self-centred in the first place.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Yeah, great advice. Get out of your own head, for sure. The ironic thing is, it enables you to get som much more of what you want out of life, which was part of your motivation for being so self-centred in the first place.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Yeah, great advice. Get out of your own head, for sure. The ironic thing is, it enables you to get som much more of what you want out of life, which was part of your motivation for being so self-centred in the first place.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Yeah, great advice. Get out of your own head, for sure. The ironic thing is, it enables you to get som much more of what you want out of life, which was part of your motivation for being so self-centred in the first place.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Yeah, great advice. Get out of your own head, for sure. The ironic thing is, it enables you to get som much more of what you want out of life, which was part of your motivation for being so self-centred in the first place.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Yeah, great advice. Get out of your own head, for sure. The ironic thing is, it enables you to get som much more of what you want out of life, which was part of your motivation for being so self-centred in the first place.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Thanks man, glad you found it useful.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Thanks man, glad you found it useful.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Thanks man, glad you found it useful.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Thanks man, glad you found it useful.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Thanks man, glad you found it useful.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Thanks man, glad you found it useful.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Thanks man, glad you found it useful.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Thanks man, glad you found it useful.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    The grass is always greener…

    Long distance relationships can work, sure. But you gotta ask yourself why do you feel you need that, rather than finding a girl on your doorstep? Unless you live in the middle of nowhere (in which case, move), then I am 100% certain there are hot girls in your town.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Great point. Just look at the kind of thing girls talk about all the time. To us guys it is mostly boring stuff. Clothes, soap operas, etc, etc. It’s totally all about the emotional experience for them. Big time.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    Thanks dude, appreciate the sentiment.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    …and bater.

  • Anonymous

    Do you think that long distance relationships is possible? because I live in another state and I think that the girls from the other state they are more beautiul and there are more latinas and asians there and i live four hours from they the other state, and my sister does live in that state so I can vist like in summer vacation and maybe more, do you think its possible? and do you have an article about long distance relationships? and do you have an email address I can use? and thanks for your articles man.

  • Anonymous

    Do you think its possible to be friends with a few cute girls like Asians and Latinas and etc, but it is to me really hard to tell girls age especially the asians to me, I may get the mistake of thinking that shes to young for me because of the height and how young they look (the asian girls). and sorry but I really don’t understand your message too.

  • http://social-masters.com/blog David Black

    My message is find girls locally, they are out there. My experience is that you only need to move if your home town has a population of less than 50,000. Any more than that and there are hundreds, if not thousands of really attractive girls out there for you.

    Stop thinking about reasons why a girl wouldn’t be interested in you. It’s not against the law to talk to girls, no matter how old they are. If you find out they are too young for *you* then that’s where it stops.

    Instead, think about all the reasons why they will like you. You are cool, funny, confident, socially-savvy, you have a lot to offer them, and their lives would be better if they were with you.

  • Stephan Hvolboel

    David Black. I dont get it. Last couple of days I’ve been reading a lot of your blogs and posts, and I find them very understanding and helpfull! THANKS! Alot of what I read , I already find in myself. I am good interacting with women, sometimes I even talk TOO much with them and we become friends, and sometimes we talk too much and the flame dies.. I am a good looking guy, and I am good teasing them and so on. What I DONT GET, is.. why are they never contacting me, why are they hunting me, why are they not showing their interest in me? A question I simply CAN’T answer when looking at myself. Hope for your help and a professional advice. Kind regards!!! and again, great work!

  • http://social-masters.com/blog Preston Blain

    At no point have you mentioned that you make advances and they turn you down. 

    Sounds to me like you need to be more proactive in showing your interest in them sexually. If you talk to them and tease them but never make your move then they probably think you are not into them in a sexual way. They will probably asume you just want to be friends even if they have the hots for you.

  • Stephan Hvolboel

    Preston, thank u – you’re absolutely right. I think my anxiety of making a move comes as im afraid of being labeled as a pervert and as a desperate. Well, still I don’t know how to be proactive sexually. It sometimes feels a bit akward when I want to kiss them etc.? Any post og advices you could support me with here..? I think that would be the trigger. Thank you again Preston for your advice, very good observed without knowing me irl :D

  • Miamismostneeded

    i cant figure out my problem. i am (excuse me if this sounds smug) tall, confident, smart, have good job, good looking. i have no problem meeting girls getting numbers etc. but it is never the girls i want.(not a case of the grass is greener..) each situation of a girl im actually into or find really attractive falls through for one reason or another.( i do not come across as needy only confident)
    sry for length of example but…recent case was last night. i went out with a girl i had met through a different girl. went to her apartment to eat and there were 6 average/good looking girls and 1 slightly more. i went out with 1 girl i knew and 2 i didnt. come to find out there were 2 other guys that they had invited so it ended up being more guys to girl ratio than i like  3:3. i find it hard to be around 2 many guys around girls b/c they get sensitive and ego crazy…anyway i was bouncing around the club doing well when i met “my type of girl” tall, confident, liked interesting things etc. she was giving me ioi’s from the start, so was her friend… then out of know where she was like” we are going to make this a girls night.” i backed off and said nice to meet you blah blah…i saw her several times that night but she would even look at me… part of weirdness of the female mind of something else? its happened before, a sudden and obvious change but its only with the ones i like.what can i do to find what im doing wrong?

  • ERIC

    Thanks alot david im 16 and i feel i should of learned this when i was 12, I will be a social a master!, i will be the man! i would go outside to talk to some chicks but its 12 am no chicks outside thankz again dude

  • Deen

    Thanks a lot for the blog dude, am 17 approaching 18 next month and well its my last year at college, since losing my ex i used that almost as an excuse to try and get girls always knowing am just getting them to pity me, but i finally feel good and me again after a year of thinking a lot and hopefully these techniques will help me build some self confidence and try and get a girl, its the one thing i really lack is self confidence :/

  • akhil abrol

    hey….!!! thanx for the tips man…but i really tried that line that u said..”did ur parents not give u enough atention..” i dont think it really worked….because gal after hearing this immedeiately shoots back..what makes u say so…or so many questions…ofcourse she shoots back instaneously..but how 2 defend that……!!!!!!! what should be said to cover up that..!!!!!

  • Kgkyzer

    this topic isn’t about biological superiority.  Simply put, if you can come across more confident than the next–more sure of yourself than the next, you’re the winner.  No, this doesn’t apply if you’re ass ugly and looking for Selma Hayek, but it will definitely get you out of your league. 

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  • Ravindra Sharma007

    Hi David,

    I want to know is there a way out  to get a girl back in ur life,, who doesnot love u anymore.
    Means a  girl use to love me very much now she doesnt…..

  • Anonymous

    Cool stuff! Now I know how to attract women.

  • Anonymous

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