How Porn Can Help You Pick Up Women

Most pick up artists will tell you that porn is terrible for your interactions with women. Commonly held assumptions are that it will prevent you from picking up girls for the following reasons:

It stops you going out because it is the easier alternative. Why the hassle of meeting women when you can jump on the internet and with a click of a button…?

Porn & Masturbation (they tend to go hand in hand) relieves sexual tension, which lowers testosterone and therefore desire to meet women. Motivation down the toilet, literally.

Most men feel guilty and ashamed afterwards, which lowers their morale. No confidence – no women for you sonny-Jim.

These reasons are valid. However, ever one to buck the trend, I have managed to find a way to incorporate porn into picking up women, without all the negative impact of the points above.

It does take a bit of self-control, and won’t be for everyone, but if you can pull it off (hehe), then it may just have a huge positive impact on your interactions with women.

I read an excellent article the other day by The Modern Savage called ‘Effects of Male Masturbation on Attracting Women ‘ and he had this great idea of not masturbating for a week (if you want scientific reasons behind the link between masturbation, motivation and sex drive, I highly recommend you read his article).

The main reasoning behind it being that if you don’t ejaculate then your testosterone increases gradually on the first 5 days then spikes on days 6 and 7. This makes you horny as hell and so results in you being more keen to approach women and attract women thus meaning you will probably be more successful in the field.

Great insight, which I totally agree with. However, the idea of going 6-7 days without sex or masturbation could drive an insane man sane. Personally, I don’t think even my ‘Iron Constitution’(tm) is up to this challenge.

So if you want all the benefits of this method – increased drive, sexually charged interactions, more motivation to approach, but like me you don’t want to have to expend loads of effort, or self-control, then I have come up with an alternative ‘ultimate lazy dude’ version.

Here’s the deal: Just before going out, watch porn for 10 minutes or so.

Easy you think? Well, here’s the catch: *No touching* :-)

Not so easy now eh? hehe.

If you can do it (and it may not go exactly as planned first go, but that’s OK just keep trying until you can exercise a wee bit of control), then it will make you all hot & bothered and sexually charged. Boom, instant sexual motivation.

Now deny yourself the usual release for this tension (i.e. touching your willy). And instead, go out into the real world.

Trust me, this makes you wanna approach and attract any female you find attractive. You are in that state of mind. You want to ‘find a mate’ to have sex with, and so you will try that much harder to pull a woman.

Not only that, it also makes you wanna succeed more because you really really want to remove this sexual tension, and the normal way of doing that (i.e. sitting in front of porn on the pc) has been removed entirely.

You will find yourself fired up and much more motivated than usual. You will have more courage, and be willing to push outside of your normal comfort zone easier than normal.

I have used this technique myself, to great effect, and I challenge you to try the same the next time you go out.

Give it a go and let me know how you get on.

Speak soon,
David Black

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Janice

Being a women I am not sure I agree with the whole watch porn and then pick up chicks theory. I read but did not notice if the pursuit is mainly for sex or a relationship? "Sexual motivation"..is not grounds for picking up healthy or clean relationships...If I was out and a guy was all charged up ready to go, I think I would know the one thing he wanted. Now, If you are speaking clearly on picking up chicks to do the nasty than I say go for it! We all like our one night stands now and again!

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David Black

Jess,

In answer to your question, strip clubs are a different kettle of fish.

Their business model is based on making you get really horny (pole dancing, hot girls 'talking' to you), and then charging you money to get you even hornier (lap dances, private rooms, etc.).

Imagine the average guy in a strip club. Is he horny or not? Horny, of course.

Do the strippers go home with the normal guys (the customers)? Of course they don't.

Work and pleasure don't mix.

To separate yourself from a paying customer you have to do the opposite. You have to *not* get horny.

To a stripper, a horny guy = $$$. If she can make you want her, she can get money from you.

It's not a bad thing, it's just the way of the world.

So in a strip club, its more a case of making sure you stay calm, relaxed, and while you remain sexually powerful, you don't get too overtly horny.

If you demonstrate that her usual 'stripper game' ain't gonna fly with you, then you will be well away.

Here's a great quote from an interview with Sinn that sums this up well:

"See stripper game all comes down to the duel between her two sub-personalities. The salesman(Or stripper) and the real girl. This is where the idea of cognitive dissonance comes in because there are only so many things a salesperson can do for you before they start to compromise their beliefs and have to justify that they are doing these things for you not to get a sale but because they like you. So the key is to grow that real girl while not doing anything to make that stripper personality uncomfortable."

From: http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/03/28/...

In other words... Get in touch with her 'real girl' side, without being a dick about her trying to get dough out of you.

Hope that helps, thanks for the comment man.

Jess Owen

Dave, I like the concept and I personally vouch that abstaining from sex and masturbation increases motivation to talk to chicks.

Tell me something though, surely this theory can be incorporated into going to strip clubs etc.

daggaz

typod there, the clergy men thing was a paper looking at long term celibacy, including masturbation.

David Black

daggaz, thanks for your detailed comment.

First off, I didn't say to masturbate or not masturbate. I actually said I would probably be unable to not masturbate for 7 days straight (like 99.99% of other guys out there, I would wager).

If you wanna wank every day, do so, whatever. It's natural, healthy, normal.

My point was to get aroused by watching porn, and then whilst in that sexually charged state, go out, rather than following your normal habit of masturbating.

This seems to have passed you by.

Although I did mention hormones and testosterone in the post, it's not really the focus of what I'm talking about. What I'm on about is your attitude; your mood; your 'state' of mind when you are out there in social situations.

Whatever hormone cocktail is controlling it, I *don't really care*. All I'm concerned with is feeling powerfully masculine and sexually aggressive when I'm around people at a public gathering.

As you said, there is little or no research in this area in the timescales we are talking about - i.e. in the period leading up to about 8 hours after 'exposure' to porn. So the scientific argument holds little or no water here.

You mention research on medium and long term effects (but do not cite sources), yet these are irrelevant with regard to our purposes here.

Don't get me wrong, I base many of my decisions in life on peer reviewed double-blind studies (from nutrition, to psychology and strength training). I am a *huge* advocate of proper scientific method.

In this case, however, all we have to go with is our own personal experiences (of which you fail to mention your own) with watching porn before going out.

We are on about watching for 10mins, then going out the house straight into town. You could literally be out there interacting within 5 minutes. Notice what your state of mind is if you view porn before going out, compared to if you don't.

Have you tried this yourself? What was your outcome? How did you *feel*?

We can all read journals, think and hypothesize all day long, but unless you are out there 'experimenting' for yourself, you ain't gonna see a single woman more enter your life.

daggaz

Dont get me wrong here, Im not ragging on your idea specifically BUT..

The whole idea that masturbation reduces testosterone levels? NOT TRUE. It actually increases them, both in the blood and the semen, tho testosterone is not one of the hormones that increases the most.

There is absolutely NO scientific, peer approved literature that supports the original hypothesis, and plenty of it (literally, dozens of contemporary research articles) which flat out refute it and prove the opposite.

Now I havent seen papers that look into medium term effects (a week or so) but I have seen papers that focus on men who do not have sex or masturbation in which there is not discernable change. (clergy men, ok they may be lying about it.. but the guy even worked that into the statistical analysis and it still came up unlikely.) At any rate, there are lots of other medical reasons which would indicate as well that there wouldnt be any major surge in hormone levels due to lack of ejaculation. As well, testosterone, which is ALWAYS cited singly cited in these theories, is not even close to the only hormone that controls our sex drive. The whole thing just reaks of junk science.

By the way, I am majoring in Nanotechnology with an emphasis on genetics and human cellular biology, so believe me I do know what I am talking about here.

Phsychological aspects aside, as far as hormone levels go, wank to your hearts' content, guys.

Infinity

Awesome...and so true. I'm definitely going to try that one out.

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David Black

Matt, I just had an image of rows of 'new recruits' all dressed in club gear doing star-jumps in front of huge movie-screens showing porn and then hustling out the door to go out... ;-)

Back to reality though, this is good stuff. That there's scientific reasoning behind this working is great. What you explain makes good sense.

Just wondering how long the increased testosterone boost lasts for, as I am totally considering putting porn on my iPhone, and looking at it whilst talking to a girl.

Her: What you looking at?
Me: Porn, duh. I'm boosting my testosterone, adrenaline and pheromone production. God don't you know *anything*?

I reckon I could pull it off :-)

Matt Savage

It's funny because I was just thinking about this same concept the other day. Though I don't usually watch and restrain from porn before going out, but the concept does make sense based on some of the research I've done.

When heterosexual males view naked females, they get a small quick boost of testosterone and adrenaline, along with an increase of pheromone production, though this would need to be released through the sweat glands.

So maybe, the ultimate way to hack ones sexual state before going out to meet women is to do push-ups while watching porn :)

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