David Black Social Masters Blog

When a women does something strange or unusual, chances are you will not be the first one to experience such strange behaviours. A close friend of mine this past Easter Sunday experienced something rather strange, and he wanted me to share it with you, so you could learn from his experience…

A girl he met a few weeks ago wanted to meet up with him this weekend (he’s only met her once before). She told him that it was going to be her and two female friends.

Now my friend had never been out on his own before but he manned up, thought ‘what the hell?’. And off he drove to meet up with them on his own.

He got into town and text the girl who said she was in a club called Syndicate. He made his way down there and went into the club.

He sees the girl, who is a hot petite brunette. He goes up to her and says, “Hi”. She is really happy to see him, and introduces him to her friends.

So far, so good…

Well yeah, thing is, it kinda went down hill from there. He suddenly noticed this short, bold, weird looking dude who was built like a brick-shit-house just staring at him. My mate just acknowledged him with a nod, and moved away. Bit weird.

Then, the next thing he knows, some random other guy has grabbed him by the shirt and starts pushing him back and threatening him.

Lucky my mate has a way with words and calmed this guy down before all hell broke loose. Phew. Remember:

• Don’t try to ‘out-intimidate’ the guy. Meaning don’t try and stare him down. Use eye contact to keep track of what he is doing but don’t stare straight into his eyes.
• Instead, diffuse the situation by being the cool one. My mate said that he just asked him what it was about. Nothing fancy. Just be cool, calm and collected and find out why this oaf is threatening you.
• Use your intellect against his brawn. You will win every time.

Suddenly, the brunette runs over and tells him that this is her boyfriend. Hmmm… She invited him out implying that it was her and two female mates, and suddenly it is her boyfriend and his mates.

He was thinking that she had set it up so the two of them could talk together, while her two female mates could go off somewhere else. It was a bit of a shock for him. Why would a woman do this? Why would she lie?

Maybe she thought she would get a bit of an ego boost if she could make her boyfriend jealous. Maybe she didn’t plan for her boyfriend to be there. Who knows?

The thing to take from this is everybody has negative experiences. If it happens to you, don’t beat yourself up about it. Get the positives out of it.

In this example, my friend had gone out clubbing for the first time on his own, managed to prevent getting his ass kicked (a great way of learning to think on the spot), and came out on the other side a more mature man.