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How Not To Get A Girl On A Night out

Have you ever wondered how not to get a girl. The other day Marni from over at Wing Girl Method wrote a guest post for us entitled ‘what turns women on‘. She explains 6 points that turn women off, meaning that if you do their exact opposite, you will attract more women.

The article gave me the idea to write this post on how not to get a girl. Go check out Marni’s article if you haven’t already. I’ve added another 5 points that will not help you in anyway when trying to attract women.

Let’s get to it then. Avoid these if at all possible…

Trying to buy her attention

Buying girls a drink with a view to getting something in return is a no-no; it’s a fool’s game. In your eyes you think you are being this kind and generous guy who just wants to buy a girl a drink. However to her you come across as a guy wanting to buy her drink so that you can get her into bed. Can you really blame women for thinking this?

If you can answer the following question without getting the answer, “cos I wanna sleep with her” then you are one of the very few guys out there who are genuine when it comes to buying girls drink and does it just to be nice.

That question is: Would you buy a girl you don’t fancy a drink on a night out?

One other point to mention. Once you have been chatting to a girl and you are both getting on well then you may want to buy her a drink if that is the type of person you are. The problems come if you open up the interaction by offering to buy her a drink or if you try to buy her one before you have gotten to know her better.

Most likely scenario in that case is she accepts the drink, maybe chats for a minute or so (or not at all, depending on how ruthless she is), and then disappears, never to be seen again.

Showing lack of confidence

Women want guys who are confident. They want someone who will just walk up to them and start talking to them.

When women go out they want to be approached. All that pretty hair, make-up and expensive clothes, shoes & bags serve a purpose you know.

At the end of the day women don’t dress nice just for themselves. They are competing with all their friends & the other women in the bar/club for all the attention. They are dressing nicely so that they can attract guys.

Side note: Guys who have got the balls to approach women on a night out are already seen as higher value because it automatically shows confidence.

Trying way to hard to impress

On a night out, avoid the tendency to go OTT trying to impress girls. If you are totally crazy and try all sorts of tricks to try and impress girls, it can definitely come across as try hard which is actually a huge turn-off.

These women want to be approached. You really don’t need to do anything extra special. You want to come across as a cool, fun, calm and exciting guy without the need for crazy antics. You want to be different enough that you stand out but not so much that you look try hard.

Boring Conversation

What is a boring conversation? Well it can depend on the girl. But there are certain things that most girls respond to. A girl who is bored by the conversation will lose interest faster than a BP oil platform catching on fire and sinking.

So make sure you talk about things she likes. Talk about a lot of different subject and once you hit one she likes then talk in more detail about that. Pro tip: make sure you pick a subject you like as well. If you don’t, you’ll be bored, and that will kill the interaction too.

Acting Weird

‘Weird’ is a subjective term. But there are certain things that are sure to trip her ‘creep alarm’, here’s some examples:

Sitting there watching her for ages before approaching. Whether that’s talking to her friends or dancing. Although women want attention, they want the right sort of attention. They want guys to come up and talk to them. They want to have fun conversations with them. They also want to dance with these guys and have a great evening. They don’t want some guy sitting and ogling them for ages and you don’t want to be that guy because it makes you look rather creepy and strange. Also if you sit and ogle and then decided to approach after this they might be less responsive cause in their mind you are already this creepy weird guy.

Getting right in her personal space in a clumsy and careless manner. Nothing turns a girl off quicker (other than Simon Cowell’s y-fronts).

Not making eye contact. What are you trying to hide? Look that girl in the eye & make her feel the power.

Staring at her too much. Wait? Didn’t I just say look her in the eye. Yep, but not too much. Blink every now and then, and show some emotions. We’re going for the classic ‘seducer’s gaze’ here, not the creepy-pedo-glare.

Final Thought

Knowing how not to get a girl can really improve your chances of success. Being aware of what not to do is half the battle when interacting with women. Remove the stuff that makes women lose attraction to you. You’ve worked hard to push her attraction buttons, so let’s keep that ground work intact.

Preston Blain

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