Having The Right Mindset

Hey guys just read a great post over at Big Send World entitled ‘How I’ve Achieved Bulletproof State’ by SPG (This was a link to the article but has been taken down for now while the site is under maintenance). What you must realise is that having the right attitude can make a huge difference to meeting and attracting women. Sometimes it is the difference between success and failure.

There are so many guys out there who learn this stuff from the internet. They explore every nook and crannie out there. Then instead of going out and using it in the real world, they stay at home. They are the sort of people who spend more time on forums than in the real world. They chat about pick up and give out advice to others. When really they should be out there meeting women.

What is it that stops these guys who have all the knowledge going out into the real world and actually meeting women?

Simple: State of Mind

The brain is an awesome tool which should be used to its full capacity everyday. It can do so much to help us in life. However it can also hinder us which is why you struggle to go out and meet women.

Our brain stops us from doing stupid irrational things. Such as jumping off a high building or stepping out in front of a moving vehicle. This function of the brain is there to protect us. However the problem comes when you want to do something like go and speak to a girl but your brain stops you. It stops you because of very old patterns.

Back in the caveman day if you approached the wrong girl for whatever reason then you could, and probably would have been killed. So the brain developed and said we have to be careful about which women we approach. Nowadays the worst thing that can happen is you get told ‘No thanks, not interested’. Hardly life threatening. Yet your brain, even today, still thinks like it did back in the day. Fucked up I know.

This is why the brain comes up with all the worst case scenarios. It is trying to prevent you from getting injured or killed and so gives you all the reasons it can for you not to approach. This mindset has become outdated in relation to approaching women. You need to change your patterns of thinking.

You need to have this attitude that you do not give a shit and that you do not worry what is going to happen. You do not need to worry because nothing is going to happen.

Here is a quote from SPG:

‘And I don’t care what happens during the interaction. If we make a connection, that might be cool. If it’s a nothing conversation, no big. If I spill my coffee all over the break room, as happened today (fortunately nobody was injured), it’s a brain fart and a bummer because I don’t have the coffee, but not the *slightest* bit of embarrassment or self-doubt. I just laughed, cleaned up my mess, and went about my conversation and my day, only now looking back and thinking how that used to be something that would embarrass me.’

This is the sort of attitude you need when approaching women. If it goes well then awesome. If it does not go well, then learn from it and move on. No biggie.

Lastly I hope you can see here that this attitude will not only help you when trying to meet women, but will also help you in everyday life. Very powerful stuff indeed.

Speak soon

David Black

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David Black

Thanks Leroy. Sent you an email mate.

Leroy Douglas

This post is pure gold...many, many thanks for the time & effort you put into posting these entries. I guess I should give you more feedback as I've read everything that you've posted so far...all I can say is it would be cool to meet up with you and just chat about whatever..you seem kinda grounded...yeah, keep up the good work, I'm looking forward to reading more of your thoughts.

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