Are girls intimidated by good looking guys?

Are girls intimidated by good looking guys? In the past, I have had guys who have said to me “I feel like girls are intimidated by me because I am good looking”. This made me wonder are girls intimidated by hot guys or does it not really matter? Lets take a look…

One common stereotype about guys that are good looking is that they are the guys who do the most cheating. Some women may have a misconception that good looking men are just after one thing… SEX. To be honest, it’s pretty hard not to blame them for thinking that. How many good looking actors have portrayed this image? It’s this stereotype that good looking guys have to deal with and can trigger alarm bells in a girl’s mind.

What is also apparent is there is a fine line between having a cheeky personality and being arrogant, especially when you are good looking. If you don’t nail the first impression straight away, women will create the assumption that you may have a shallow personality. They may also believe that you’re not as smart as other guys or don’t have a good personality in general. I have experienced this kind of assumption first hand. It is due to my good looks that I have had previous accusations that I am not ‘the most intellectual of individuals’; without knowing that I actually have a good educational background.

Many girls can be intimidated by good looking guys as they are afraid. They may feel that you are the guy that easily matches their ‘dream’ guy. Most guys forget that women are just as scared of rejection as you are. Plus they have the added fear that you may just use them for sex. They don’t want to find themselves in a position where they may be rejected. They are worried that they may speak to you and want to take it further with you but feel it ain’t worth the risk of having their heart broken.

In some cases, it may not have anything to do with the fact that they are intimidated by good looks. Sometimes you will find that what may look like intimidation is actually the girl’s lack of confidence on full show. They may feel that they are ‘not worthy’ of being with someone who is good looking. They value themselves to such a poor standard that they will not feel comfortable with good looking guys talking to them or showing them any kind of attention. It doesn’t make a difference whether the girl is attractive or not, it just depends on how much she values herself. Even attractive girls can have a low value of themselves.

So are girls intimidated by good looking guys? Some maybe, some may not. Which ever way, it doesn’t really matter. If you can make women feel comfortable around you then it does not make a difference. This comes down to your personality and ability to create comfort in women. At the end of the day, what women like is a guy with a great personality. Even if you are a good looking guy it doesn’t matter as long as you show you have a great personality to go with it because that is what women prefer.

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Preston Blain

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Alexznumber1

Thanks man. I really needed this right now. I really feel girls are "worried that they may speak to you and want to take it further with you but feel it ain’t worth the risk of having their heart broken." It weird girls are so open when I meet them only by look at their body. They are very open and give me sexually interested body language you know with the wrists, head, and arms thing they are open. I see it. Then I get their number then they flake I consider myself attractive and even more so with my psychical body which is in super shape almost like Taylor Lautner just working on the abs, I have 2.

Preston Blain

I know how you feel. I have had the same problems. I have even had girls say to me "Why are you with me/talking to me". It's like they feel they are not good enough.

Just make sure that you make them feel comfortable around you and basically try to make them realise that they are good enough and that is why you are talking to them/with them in the first place.

Also build a connection with her. Make her aware that you are not just talking to her because of the way she looks but because of her personality. It's all about taking things to a deeper level and not allowing her to think that the whole interaction is built on superficial looks.

Guys think being good looking is plain sailing when it comes to meeting women. That's just not the case... swings and roundabouts.

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