To Drink, or Not To Drink? That is the Question.
Booze, or no booze? The eternal, endless debate…
“Yes, you should drink to have fun and be sociable.”
“No, you shouldn’t drink because it hinders your ability to meet women effectively.”
“It’s ok to have a few to loosen up, but don’t get drunk.”
When it comes down to it, I’m not here to preach to anyone. Whatever you decide to do, that’s cool with me.
Here’s how I roll…
Personally, I don’t drink very often. I prefer to have my wits about me when out.
Case in point: I was out this weekend and was talking to two pretty hot girls in a classy bar. A few minutes after starting the conversation, one of the girls said to me, “Where’s your drink?” I looked at her casually and said, “Oh, I’m on drugs.” she laughed, and I steered the conversation in another direction. She didn’t mention it again.
Minutes later we were laughing, playfully pushing each other around, and at the end of the night we made plans to meet up again at a later date.
So bottom line, it’s not an issue if you don’t make it an issue.
There are two main hurdles to confront when you don’t drink. The first is feeling like an unsociable git, and the second is feeling anxious while you are out.
Recently I read a post by Jsmooth and he had a solution to the unsociable side. He suggests having drinks that look like they contain alcohol.
Read the full post here: http://jsmooth26.blogspot.com/2009/03/appearance-of-drinking.html
This is a great idea if you are really dead-set on having a drink in your hand. Personally, I don’t take any notice of what others think and don’t mind confronting the issue if it arises.
I know it can be frustrating when people keep asking you why you aren’t drinking. What you must realise is the people who need drink to enjoy themselves believe it is the only way. Not drinking is so far outside of their current model of reality that they often will treat you like some kind of freak if you don’t drink.
The main thing to remember is to stick to your guns. Say something like, “Most people feel like they need to drink to relax and have a good time. I’m not one of them.” Say it matter-of-factly and usually people will be respectful. If they aren’t, then call them on it, and they look socially akward.
For the second point about relaxing and removing anxiety we are going to get a little bit technical (but not much). When you drink it lowers your inhibitions which in turn releases chemicals (hormones) into your body making you feel good, causing you to have a good time.
What people often don’t realise is this can be done without using alcohol. You just need to lower your inhibitions and start having fun. Yes I know this is easier said than done.
You might feel stupid at first, but sooner or later something magical will happen… You’ll start to get into that party-mode, and start having an awesome time, just like when you get tanked up on booze.
Bear this in mind when you are out: Everyone else is usually plastered out of their minds, blind-drunk. What does this mean?
It means that:
one, they are not going to give a shit about you because they are having a good time, and…
two, if they see you dancing like a mad man they will just assume that you are having a great time too.
This allows you to shout, dance and do whatever you like because you know nobody will give a shit. You will magically start having a great time which in turn lowers your inhibitions and gives you a dose of those beautiful chemicals that make you feel sooooo good.
Natural highs all the way baby…
Till next time,
David Black
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