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What To Do If You Don’t Know What To Say!

I was over at Bobby Rio’s blog ‘How To Make Small Talk Sexy’ and started reading a post about avoiding awkward silences. Check it out here: Tip for Avoiding Awkward Silences

This has to be one of the biggest fears for a lot of guys. If you don’t know what to say then it can feel as though you want the world to swallow you up. When I first started getting into this stuff I had many times when I had the nightmare situation of an awkward silence. I would imagine a lot of you have too. Those moments where everything is suddenly quiet, and you’re just waiting for a tumble weed to slowly roll across the screen.

I would love to write a long detailed article on awkward silences. However, I said I would spend the weekend with my girlfriend so I have had to sly off to one side and post this quickly on my iphone. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her now will it :-)

There are things you can do that will help remove the awkwardness from this situation. However I will go into the other options at a later date. Instead I just wanted to say that Bobbiy’s little tip is very effective, and is something that you should keep in your arsenal. At least if you have one option for if this situation occurs, then you are equipped to handle it with relative ease.

If you are still reading this and have not already jumped ship to Bobbies site (your my fav type of reader) then let’s go into more detail about this technique. It is all about calling out the fact that there is an awkward silence in a numerous way. Sounds simple and it is.

If you imagine, you are in a room talking to a girl and you are both having a good time. If you suddenly both stop talking and just sit there she will begin to feel very uncomfortable. She will start to feel as though the two of you don’t have much in common. This is not good for building comfort and rapport with a girl.

Doing something such as pointing out the fact that you are in the middle of an awkward silence does two things:

Firstly and foremost it breaks the silence. As I always say, “If you don’t know what to say then just say the first thing that comes to your mind”. Trust me when I say “Saying something is better than nothing”. Saying nothing is definitely going to make her feel uncomfortable. Anyone who has (which is probably most of you) been in an awkward silence situation will no it can be very unpleasant. Whereas saying something has got better odds of retrieving the situation.

Which brings me onto me nicely onto my second point. By pointing out the awkward silence, it actually gives you something to talk about. Instead of sitting there with nothing to say, you now have a conversation about the awkward silence. Maybe not the most thrilling of conversations but it keeps the interaction going and you then you can move onto something else afterwards. Most girls will find the fact you pointed amusing, it out as long as you say it in a humorous way as mentioned earlier. Definitely not a bad thing.

Ok guys gotta go. Hope this little tip helps you out and that you never need to have that dreaded feeling ever again. Don’t know what to say? Not anymore :-). Make sure you visit Mr Rio’s site to check out his article ‘Tip for Avoiding Awkward Silences‘ and leave a comment. Bobby is definitely one of the good guys.

Speak soon,
David Black

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