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Some might say that I have a different point of view regarding many things in life. Well, dating is one of them and here’s my perception on the matter. A way of thinking that has allowed me to succeed many times over.

I believe that dates (dinners and drinks) should be reserved for women that actually deserve it. You can tell if she deserves if the following things take place:

* You’re having sex
* You’re having good sex
* You feel something for her
* She’s genuinely interested in you, not in your money/car/apartment/friends etc

Ok, now that we’ve established that let’s see why we shouldn’t do dates and what can we do instead.

Firstly you must realize that everyone and I do mean everyone is taking her out on dates. If you’re doing it too, how are you any different from all the other douche-bags out there that are buying her dinners and drinks week after week?

You’re not.

Many girls are going on dates just because the guy’s paying for them. Just ask your lady friends if they ever did something like this and you’ll be shocked to find out that all of them are basically using men to get free stuff. Don’t you want to be different? If so, you need to show her that from the beginning.

Another reason worth considering is the money. Why would you spend 50 pounds (here in the UK) on a dinner date when you don’t even know for sure if she’s going to have sex with you? We all know that dinner and a movie doesn’t necessarily result in sex, at the end of the day everything is down to how you make her feel.

Naturally, why should you buy a girl dinner and drinks when your success will actually depend on how you make her feel? Wouldn’t it be more wise to do that same thing in any other activity?

So you might be thinking, ok that’s all good but, girls want to go on dates! Sure, let them want that but you can do it differently. Don’t go on dates, GET together!

Call her up/text her/send her an email and tell her you want to get together. If she wants to believe it’s a date, let her, you don’t care, you know exactly what’s going on.

It’s also worth mentioning that when you ask her to get together instead of going on a date, her positive response will increase tenfold. This happens for 2 very distinct reasons: it’s different and she’s not obligated to do anything since it’s not a date. 

In such circumstance, there’s basically no pressure and if there’s no pressure she’s more likely to feel good and if she feels good you’ve got it made.

Ok now let’s look at a few activities that fall within this category:

In a post I wrote last week, called How to Be a Player When You’ve Got No Money  there was a section on how to deal with dating when you don’t have any money.

Honestly, even if you’re the richest guy in the world you should still be doing things like that.

Here’s a few:

Take her out for a walk in the park – to this day this is one of my favorite activities. You walk around the park, talk, make her feel good, even grab an ice cream/coffee from the closest shop (don’t pay for her). There’s absolutely no pressure on this activity and that instantly loosens her up.

Rent bikes and go cycling together.

Do sports together.

Take her to free events – yes it’s full of them around your location. Do a Google search and find out. Not only will you be cost free on this but you will be doing something she’s probably never done before. These are things like art galleries, amateur theatre, live bands etc. She will enjoy this more than you can imagine.

(Side note: Always end whatever is that you’re doing before she does. If you end it while she’s feeling good, she had a good time. If you let it drag on until she ends it (when she’s no longer feeling good) she’ll have a bitter taste in her mouth and its all downhill from there…)

Make her part of your world – This is another one of my favorites. This is what will eventually turn her into your girlfriend and many times it’s what makes her fall madly in love with you. This process is actually quite simple and it’s done by many men instinctively but I’m here to detail it out for you.

After a couple of get togethers it’s probably time to sleep with her. It should work, most of the times it does if you’ve managed to consistently keep her feeling good. Now that sex is out of the way it’s time to make her part of your world.

It’s important to mention that by now you didn’t have any official dates but yet you’ve slept together. Also make sure that when it happens, it happens at your place.

After the act you’re basically left with 2 options. Either ask her to leave or let her spend the night.

What I usually do is give her a pair of my boxers and a T-shirt and get her into the living room. I’ve got some wine and a nice shaggy white carpet we can sit on. I put a movie in, let’s say Breakfast at Tiffany’s and we sit there talking and watching.

You tell me, what girl doesn’t want to sit on a white shaggy carpet drinking wine while watching Breakfast at Tiffany’s?

I’ve got some cool roommates too (all girls), so they sometimes hang with us.

What I’m doing here, is making her part of my world. These are things she does with me that she will never ever have the chance to do with anyone else.

If she stays the night, even better, she’ll be part of my world in the morning. I wake up and, because I eat “healthy” – I cook eggs and bacon. Guess what? She get’s the same; she’s literally experiencing part of my life.

Girls die for stuff like this and this is the sort of things that make her fall in love with you.

It gets even better, if I’ve got stuff to do and she’s got the day off, I take her with me. I nicely ask her to come with me to the car parts store to buy a new bulb for my car, we have a nice drive, talk etc we get the bulb have a coffee somewhere and then I take her home.

And do you know the good part? I’ve never been on a date with this girl.

But do you know the best part? Next time I want to see her, I just asked her if she wants to come to my place and because she had such a nice time…she WANTS to!

Ok, so maybe I took this whole thing a bit too far but you must get the idea. Dates are bad and, I’ve just proved that NOT going on a date with a girl will actually make her fall in love with you.

So next time you get this girl’s number, don’t ask her on a date, tell her you want to “GET TOGETHER” and do any of the activities mentioned above.

This is the sort of mentality I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out.  If you want to increase your success with women visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com - a place where the “dating” mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of meeting and seducing women.

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It’s a basic principle of the common pickup theories and various dating gurus, that “you can succeed with women no matter how you look”.

It is, first of all, a great marketing strategy, because it’s very difficult to change our physical- natural looks, but it is much easier to sell guides and manuals about changing our behavior.

But is it really true, that a basic process such as love and attraction has nothing to do with how we look?

In this post I would like to discuss the importance of physical looks in attracting and dating women.

Scientific Support

Let’s begin with what science has to say.

Many studies in behavioral sciences have supported the approach that the attraction mechanisms of men and women are completely different. While men are mainly attracted to a woman’s physical traits, those studies have shown that a woman will be checking a man, mainly according to his masculine behavioral qualities.

I can give an example for this in a study, that checked the effect of a man’s profile photos in online dating sites.

A group of women was given several profiles of men, and their task was to rank – how attractive each man was.

The results of the study have shown that the profile picture had very minimal effect on the ranks. The same profiles, but with different photos – received the same rankings.

The study’s conclusion was revolutionary – what the women focused on was primarily the description that men gave about themselves, not their photos.

The Biological Cause

Evolutional-Psychology is an approach that attempts to explain psychological and sociological processes by following the human evolution.

Using this approach, a common way to explain the differences between men and women is to go back thousands of years ago, when human beings used to live in tribal communities.

These were hard times for humans. Surrounded by dangerous animals and rival tribes, and being short on resources – the chances of survival were low. In order to give birth and take care of her baby, a woman needed a strong man to protect and support her.

Regular, “nice guys”, were simply not good enough for survival. A woman needed a strong man, preferably the tribal leader or one of his friends.

Women didn’t care about looks or beauty in men – they needed a masculine powerful man. In our ages, women can survive without being with such “alpha man”. In fact, a “nice guy” could be a great partner.

Nevertheless, women are still affected by the same mechanism that was carried through their genes for thousands of years. They want the strong guys, not the nice ones.

You should be lucky then. While men are naturally interested in a woman’s physical looks (this is also explained by evolutional psychology), women are mainly interested in your behaviour. And behavior is usually easier to fix.

How Do Confident Guys Look Like?

When you meet a guy who’s successful with women, it’s easy to see something different about him. You can usually see that women will love this guy within seconds.

 However, it’s not really his physical looks that matter. So what is it that’s makes women fall in love with these guys?

Well, Attractive men have a unique way of looking at people with their eye contact; you can almost smell the arrogance in their behavior. They are full of confidence and you can easily see it in their natural posture.

They aren’t afraid to do “unusual things”, they have an attractive body language, and they even dress in a way that immediately attracts attention.

Sometimes, working out at the gym can give you some points, but that’s not the big deal about attraction.

Successful guys simply behave differently.

Final Words

Most men spend their time and money on workout plans, buying new clothes and perfumes, taking care of their hair (and shaking to death if they seem to begin balding), and more.

However, it’s time to admit that our physical looks have very little effect on dating success.

Richard Liso

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BUT, if you do any one of the following 10 things, women will lose their attraction for you faster than a fat bitch who sat down too fast. Yes, that is an Eminem reference.

So without further ado, let’s get to the LIST…

1. You’re the real life Jack Horner

If you don’t know Jack Horner then all you need to know is that he sat in the corner. I use to be one of these guys who use to sit in the corner of the room to afraid to talk to anyone.

This makes you look unsociable and not very confident. Women who see this type of behaviour will pick up on it straight away and before you know it you have very little chance of being able to pull a woman.

So get the fuck out the corner and start mingling with hot women. You need to make sure that you interact with girls. By doing this you will become naturally more attractive. Not rocket science eh?…

2. “God, she is the most perfect woman I have ever seen”.

If there is more of a demonstration of putting women on a pedestal then I would like to hear it. If you put a female on a pedestal then you are setting yourself up for failure.

By doing this you are saying that she is better than you and that you would be the lucky one to have her, rather that the other way around.

You need to start seeing yourself in a different light. You need to be the one who is the catch, not her. This will show that you are confident, self assured, decisive, etc. All the things that make women attracted to men.

3. “Ummm… Hi… Ummm… How are you… Ummm…”

Saying um is probably one of the worst things you can do. Whilst at school one of the only thing my English teacher taught me (I learned the rest when I started blogging) was not to say um when talking.

There are 4 main reasons why we say um[1]. They are:

* It’s a habit in normal speech.
* It’s a way to hold the floor.
* It’s a nervous habit.
* We are afraid of silence.

What you must realise is that these all demonstrate a lack of confidence in your ability to talk to other, as well as thinking what you are saying is not worth their time. These two things will make any girl lose attraction in you.

4. “I knew you were going to do that.”

Being predictable and boring is a turn-off for any woman.

Now you don’t have to be Mr Impulsive and keep doing random shit all the time. Instead you should try not to get caught into a particular “boring” routine.

Women want a guy who they can depend on as well as someone who is going to be a little spontaneous and exciting. Again this is why the bad boy is so attractive. He has the spontaneity to do things that are a little off the cuff, and different from his normal routine.

5. “Are you for real?”

If you are overly nice and fall into the category of being ‘Mr Nice Guy’, then you have to realise that women might not think you are for real.

Being overly nice can come across as fake. What I mean by this is will she be thinking, ‘This guy is only being nice to me because he wants to get me into bed’ or something else along those lines.

I am not saying that you have to be a twat. You want to try and show that you are just a cool guy without coming across as someone who is just overly nice all the time. Check out how to become a bad boy for more information on being bad but still treating women well.

6. Bob the builder – “Can we fix it?”

Trying to be perfect and showing no flaws is disconcerting for a girl. No one in this world is perfect, everybody has some flaws.

Just because you have flaws doesn’t mean that you are in anyway broken and that women won’t like you. In fact it has the opposite effect because women see a vulnerable side that shows you are truly human.

She is then most likely going to try and help you to deal with this flaw because women like to try and fix problems in guys. It might be because it means that they don’t have to see the flaws in themselves.[2]

7. Is your shit together?

Cos’ if it ain’t son you got problems. Women want a guy who has his shit together. For example having a job you like, living in your own place, doing the things you like to do, etc.

Now these are not a deal breaker (I got my first girlfriend working as a customer CA and living at home aged 23), though it might be something that women may look at and just lose that little bit of attraction for you.

If you aren’t there yet, then at least showing that you are ambitious and actively taking action towards changing your circumstances for the better is a good stand-in in the meantime. Ambition, passion and drive are all attractive qualities for you to demonstrate.

Being independent of your parents and having a job that you love and are passionate about are the sort of things that are completely in your control. Therefore you should strive to get these things sorted as well as trying to learn how to attract girls.

8. She don’t like your genes boy

Let’s just clarify, we aren’t talking about a pair of Levis 501s here. Though if your jeans are grubby, ripped and look like shit then maybe it is the reason she don’t like you ;-).

We are talking about genetics. It’s important to understand women are strongly motivated to ensure that the children they have will have the physical and psychological traits necessary to survive and to be able to reproduce successfully (Looy, 2001)[3]

Therefore you need to be able to show that you have those qualities. If you don’t then the chances are, women are not going to find you very attractive as a possible mate.

9. Your Paranoia kicks your Confidence’s ass…

If you have never seen the British sitcom ‘Red Dwarf’ then you should check it out cos’ it’s fucking hilarious. There is an episode where the main character, Lister, has his paranoia and confidence become real-life people. It shows him what these two sides of his personality are truly like, and that both, taken to extremes, are self-destructive.

Let’s focus on paranoia. If you are always on the cautious side then you are never going to take the leap and get a girl to go out with you. You also will probably never do anything really cool and a little dangerous because you will be too worried about what might happen. Women like guys who take the world by the scruff of the neck and get shit done.

A good example is riding a motorbike. If you always worry about what might happen then you will most likely never take your test. Riding a motorbike is attractive to women because it has got that whole bad boy stigma attached to it.

10. “For god’s sake please touch me…”

You don’t make any physical contact with women. You are the sort of guy who finds it hard to hug women or make the first move physically. This makes them think you don’t like them, and fills her mind with self-doubt. This… is bad.

You need to be able to show that you are capable of making the first move toward taking the interaction to the next level. Very rarely will the women do this. Don’t try to rely on it. That’s for suckers.

If you don’t do it, then there is a good chance that the girl will lose confidence, and interest in you and you will be up shit creek without a paddle. From your talk she thought you were confident – back it up with your actions too.

Final thoughts

Is it worth trying to furiously go out and meet someone just for Valentines Day? Probably not. It’s just any other day really. But maybe you recognised yourself in a few of these points. Maybe it makes you realise you need to get your shit together.

Don’t fret. There are many ways to improve with women. Learning to be more naturally attractive around women will help you be that guy they want to spend time with. Check out Death Of Game right now to learn how to be more naturally attractive.

Speak soon,
David Black

Resources

1. ^ Why you say ummm when you speak – Speaker Confessions
2. ^ 12 Reasons Women Can’t Stand Nice Guys – Your Tango
3. ^ Evolutionary Versus Social Structural Explanations for Sex Differences in Mate Preferences, Jealousy, and Aggression – Personality Research

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Do you want to know how to get a girl to go out with you? Especially that one particular girl that you really like. Getting the girl you want will require you to follow certain principles in order to be successful.

In my eyes, it’s all about putting a chain reaction into action. What I mean by this is if you go up to some random girl and ask her if she wants to go out on a date with you then you are probably going to have a low success rate. Instead you need to start with an effective strategy of getting her ‘motivated’ to go on a date with you first.

Build attraction

First you need to be able to talk to a girl and get her attracted to you. Knowing how to get a girl attracted to you is the first step in order for you to get a girl to go out with you.

If you can build attraction the girl will:

1) Want to be around you
2) Want to talk to you
3) Therefore be more willing to go out on a date with you

You can build attraction with any girl you speak to. Whether that is a girl that you have met in a pub, on the street or at work. It does not matter where you meet them there is always the possibility that you can get a girl to like you.

So how do you build attraction?

Attraction is built by showing certain qualities that women find attractive. If you can display these qualities to a girl then ultimately you are giving yourself the best chance of getting the girl you want.

If you want loads of specific tip on how to get girls attracted to you then check out how to attract girls. This article covers everything you need to know in order to build attraction. After reading this you can start implementing the principles in order to become the type of guy women are attracted to.

Once she is attracted

After you have built attraction you need to suggest doing something together at a later date. The most obvious way is just directly suggest something. Use the magic word “let’s”. Something along the lines of “Let’s go (bowling/for a walk/etc.)”.

There are other ways to word it too. Ways that emphasis the qualities that you want to portray to the girl whilst asking her to meet up.

For example, “You and me should meet up this weekend. When are you free?”. You are making it sound as though you and her are going to go out this weekend and you just need to clarify when she is free. This shows leadership qualities, confidence and go getting attitude. All very attractive indeed. Also if she is busy this weekend she will normally say “I am busy this weekend but how about…”

Another example is trying something like, “There is a party at my friend’s house this weekend, you should come along, and bring your friends.” Instead of making her feel as though you are asking her out, you are just making it sound like you like her company and that she should join you at a party. This is less threatening than a ‘date’.

Final Thoughts

You now know how to get a girl to go out with you. You must always build attraction first otherwise you are going to be struggling to get any success asking a girl out. Make sure you read how to attract girls so that you know exactly how to get a girl attracted to you.

Speak soon,
David Black

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Once you start getting good with women, you might start thinking about the fact that you need to improve your skills in the bedroom antics department.

Learning how to be good in bed is something that can help you to be confident when meeting women because you know you are going to rock their world in the bedroom.

Or maybe you already have a girlfriend and you are wanting to learn some good techniques in bed to make sure that you keep her happy and stop her looking elsewhere.

Either way, the tips below should help you to gain some insight into how to be good in bed and make sure you have the girl riding around in ecstasy. Let’s get to it…

Don’t worry you are not alone

When I first starting learning how to get a girl, I was so nervous and about talking to women that I didn’t really worry about anything else. However once I started to get comfortable at talking to women I soon realised that I was concerned that I might not be good enough in bed.

Trust me, if you don’t feel that you capable of being good in bed then your confidence will be lower. You might even miss opportunities because you are so concerned with whether or not you are going to be able to perform in the bedroom that you self-sabotage the interaction you are in.

I have done this myself and it SUCKS!!!

I have been in situations where I was pretty much guaranteed to get laid and yet I somehow seemed to fuck it up. I soon realised that I was just not confident when it came to the bedroom.

This does not need to happen to you. I am going to tell you some of the things that I did to help me gain the confidence to sleep with women and not have to worry.

Let’s crack on with things to do…

Practice

When most guys masturbate they have one goal in mind – to ejaculate. The problem when you do this, is your body gets used to cumming quickly. It feels the simulation and reacts in the same way as always. Therefore when you come to have sex, the same thing will happen.

To last longer in bed, practice. Whenever you masturbate, practice lasting longer. Maybe 30 minutes or so in the evening when you have nothing else to do. Take your time and masturbate and try to last as long as possible. If you feel the urge coming then stop, breathe, and when it goes start again.

Buy a fleshlight

Another way to last longer in bed is by using a fleshlight.

This is something I bought and it was a godsend. I bought it solely as a training tool and it helped massively. It’s much more like the real thing than using your hand. The first time I used it I lasted fuck-all time. Then with some practice, as mentioned above, I was soon able to last for the entire 30 minutes.

This means that when I have sex I am able to perform for longer than average. Not always as long as 30 minutes, but then again you have got a hot woman bouncing on top of you. That does seem to make it slightly harder to last ;-).

Focus on the girl

It’s not all about being able to last a long time. In fact you could give a girl a good time without using your penis at all.

Firstly kissing the girls neck, nibbling on her ear, etc is going to help turn her on. Girls are much more mentally and sensually focused when it comes to having orgasms so being able to turn a girl on by using your mouth to kiss and nimble is really going to help your cause.

Running your hands over her body is another good way to get her turned on. Women love it when a guy runs his hand up and down her body. It shows her that he wants her.

Then of course there is using your tongue and fingers to simulate her pussy. Learning good techniques in this area is worth the effort cos’ it takes pressure off having to last long. Many girls are more likely to have an orgasm from this type of stimulation than intercourse as well. Therefore taking the time to learn to use your fingers and tongue correctly in this situation is a must.

The mind matters

Women are all about mental stimulation[1]. If you don’t believe me, then think about it this way: Men have porn magazines/porn videos to excite them. These are obviously very graphical in nature. On the other side of the coin, women read erotic novels. These are not graphical at all (no pictures, aside from the front cover), instead they describe the events happening.

Because women are so turned on by mental stimulation, you need to make sure that you get into her mind. I am not talking about Derren Brown crazy mess-with-her-mind shit. I am talking about making sure that you stimulate her mind as well as her body.

My last girlfriend loved me whispering into her ear while we had sex. In fact I gave her an orgasm on a number of occasions without touching her at all and just whispering in her ear. This shows the true power of turning her mind on rather than just focusing on her body.

If you do both though, you are onto a sure winner.

Choice of condoms

Wearing a thicker condom will help you to last longer when having sex. I use durex extra safe as it reduces the chances of breaking, whilst helping you last longer. If you aren’t worried about catching something or her getting pregnant, it allows you to focus more time on actually having sex. As well as the thick condom numbing the sensation of intercourse. For more information on condoms check out: using condoms, condom types and sizes.

However in your question to learn how to be good in bed, I don’t do the following:

The use of ‘performance-enhancing’ drugs

Using drugs like Viagra, or any other drug for that matter, is a short term solution that will most likely turn into a lifetime problem. Unless of course you have erectile dysfunction which is a whole different matter.

You will most likely become reliant on these drugs to get you aroused if you have no medical reason to take them. This can then lead to impotence in the future. There are also other possible side effects to taking something like Viagra which can be pretty serious including heart attacks.[2]

Numbing sprays

These sprays numb the penis so that you don’t get as much stimulation from intercourse. At first thought, this sounds great and an easy solution.

But, think about the long term. It will become a crutch because you need this spray to feel like you can perform in bed. What happens then in you meet a girl and she wants to have sex with you there and then. Do you not bother because you forgot your spray?

What about when you are ready to have sex? The extra ball-ache of trying to be sly and spray this stuff on is not going to make for spontaneous and great sex.

Final thoughts

Make sure that you learn how to be good in bed by putting a bit of hard work upfront and learning to improve the foundations of being good in bed.

This means learning how to be good with your fingers and tongue. This helps take the pressure of having to last for a long period of time during intercourse as well.

Also make sure that you practice being able to last longer. No more 30 seconds quick relief. Train yourself to last longer by taking your time.

Resources
1. ^ Yes, Yes, Yes! How women can think their way to an orgasm – Daily Mail
2. ^ How Viagra works – How stuff works

Additional Resources
1. ^ Giving Her Oral – Ask Men UK
2. ^ Sensual Biting – Ask Men UK
3. ^ Sex Advice – All Experts
4. ^ How to get a girl – Social Masters

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Nicknames are the hallmark of flirting. If you can call a girl a comedy name that is also accurate, she’s go weak at the knees for you. Especially if she’s really attractive and you’ve got the balls to do what other men wouldn’t dare.

Here’s my top 5…

5. Missy

This is a good generic name to call any woman. If she’s being a little bit on the fiery side. Missy is a great, affectionate yet flirtatious name you can use on pretty much any girl, young or old.

4. Cheeky

Cheeky is another nickname, similar to missy. If she’s giving you a bit of ‘attitude’, just smirk and called her on it, “Cheeky.” You can look at her in mock disapproval for added effect.

3. Feisty

If she starts really getting her arse-out (that’s british for getting bitchy), then crack out the fiesty card. Stay ice cool, smile a bit and say something along the lines of, “Fiesty girls like you are the best.” This will build a huge amount of tension between you. She’ll get even more annoyed that she isn’t having any effect on you. The crucial thing is to not cave or give in. Relentlessly continue to call her on it and not be affected.

2. Misery-guts

If a girl is being a bit miserable, just call her on it in a playful way. This lets her know subtly that she is bringing the whole mood down, and also displays courage, in that you’ve had the balls to mention something that most other guys would just let her get away with.

It’s useful to think of yourself as the ‘bad girl behaviour police’. Any time she breaks any social etiquette, call her on it. You will gain her respect, even her admiration.

1. Smarty-pants

By far my favourite nickname. If a girl thinks she’s getting one up on you, call her a smarty pants. This is subtly ribbing her, saying in effect ‘don’t get above your station’. It brings her down a peg or two, all in a loving, flirtatious way of course. This works even better if she’s smarter than you (so I’m told – I’ve never met a girl smarter than me yet – yeah right ;-)

Final thoughts

So that’s the top 5 nicknames you can use on pretty much any women you encounter.

Keep in mind, specific nicknames are better (for example, you could call a girl ‘muscles’ if she is a bit of a gym freak), but the five above make great fail-safes, either early on when you don’t know enough about a girl to create a unique one, or if you need something on the spot and your mind draws a blank.

Speak soon,
David Black

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Learning how to be the bad boy seems to be a very popular subject when it comes to getting girls. Especially in today’s society where we seem to be exposed to these so called bad boy types all the the time.

You see them constantly on the news, some macho, cocky, arrogant sort that seems to be playing women for fools. Yet women still love these guys because they are attractive in so many ways.

I wrote an article a while back detailing how to become a bad boy. If you haven’t read the article then I highly recommend that you check it out. It will give you a good starting place to learn how to be the bad boy that will have all the women chasing after you.

Today I am going to discuss a few more things that I have come to realise make up the bad bad boy that women will love. These are things that women find so appealing about the bad boy mantra.

One quick thing

As well as going into this in the article I linked to above, I think it’s something that needs repeating as it’s very important. Here is a quote from that article:

“At the end of the day, being a bad boy doesn’t mean you need to do some crazy, dangerous or bad ass stuff. It don’t mean you need to treat women poorly or with no respect.”

Being a bad boy is not about being mean on purpose, or treating people badly. Here at Social Masters, we believe that you should always treat people how you would like to be treated yourself.

However this does not mean that you can’t be a bad boy, it just means that you need to think about what you are doing before you actually go out and do it. Here is a quick list of the things from the other article so you can recap what we are talking about.

Confidence

All bad boy’s are confident. You need to believe in yourself and truly feel and act like you are god’s gift to women. This needs to be done without going over-the-top and coming across arrogant (which can sometimes be a very fine line).

Sexually switched on

Being comfortable around women whilst getting sexual is very attractive. Showing that you are not afraid to take things to a sexual level and showing you know what you are doing will make women want you.

Don’t care

If someone does not like you for the way you are then who gives a shit. You don’t apologise for the way you are because that’s who you are. In this life you will come to realise that not everyone will like you, so there’s little point in trying to act differently to please others.

Don’t take crap

Women love trying to test you. If you give into these tests then you are just a chump like 90% of guys out there. You need to take control of interactions and relationships and be the dominant alpha male.

Mystery

Women love mystery, so make sure you keep her guessing. Don’t lay your cards on the table. Don’t always give straight answers to her probing questions.

Desperation no-no

You can’t come across as desperate. Women will pick up on this and lose any attraction they might have felt for you. Instead you need to get them wanting you more than you want them.

Ok so that was a quick recap. If you want some more detail check out the original article here: ‘How to become a bad boy’.

A few more key characteristics

Here are a few more things that we can add to the list in order to make ourselves more attractive to women:

Availability is scarce

You don’t want to seem like you are always available to women. Bad boys tend to be short on time because they are the sort of guys who have places to go and things to do. They are doing cool things such as going rock climbing or getting into shape by hitting the gym.

If you always seem to have the time to meet up with women, or are always hanging around women constantly, it may come across as if you have nothing better to do and that you are just vying for their attention. This can come across badly.

However you need to have a fine balance though. You need to at least spend sometime around the women you want cos’ otherwise they might get the impression that you are not interested in them.

Caring too much is bad

Firstly lets get one thing straight. I am not telling you not to care. Caring is a good thing and you should care about the things that matter to you. Things like family, performing to the best of your ability, doing well in your career, etc.

However I am talking about the sorts of things that can be irrelevant. Caring what others think of you even though they are not important in your life. People are always going to judge you no matter what you do. However only those who truly matter to you are important opinions. The rest are worthless.

Also try to stay calm and don’t get too rattled if bad things happen. I particularly find this hard to do, but I know from talking to others that accepting things will go wrong from time to time is just the way of the world.

The bad boy attitude might be associated with those who don’t give a shit about anything. However in my humble opinion, I believe that even that baddest of bad asses have certain things that they care about. They just don’t waste time caring about things that don’t really matter.

Don’t seek approval

You should not seek approval from others. If you have a strong set of values and beliefs then this should be relatively easy.

Being a bad boy is all about doing what you believe is right because of your values and beliefs. You don’t stop doing something because others judge you on it (unless of course it’s illegal or wrong in some way). Instead you know what you want to achieve in life and you stand up and grasp it with both hands.

Be strong emotionally

Being able to deal with things emotionally is very important. If you just result to complaining, whining, etc then you are not really a bad boy.

For the most part you need to be able to deal with bad situations (including rejection) without it affecting you to bad on an emotional level. You don’t want to have something like a girl saying no cause you large amounts of stress.

However bottling things up that are worthy of a release is a bad thing. If, for example, a close family relative passed away, then it’s ok to cry. I consider myself a bit of a bad boy, but if one of my family or a close friend passed away then I would be in floods of tears.

Remember being strong emotionally is not about stopping yourself from getting upset, but knowing when it’s appropriate to show emotions.

Getting your appearance sorted

Wearing dull boring clothes is not going to make you look like a bad boy to women. Although style is not as important as attitude, if you want to pull of the bad boy look, then it’s time you got some bad boy clothing.

Obviously you need to be aware of what things suit you. There is no point where something that is considered to give you the desired look of being a bad ass, if it doesn’t suit your style. If you need to learn how to wear the right clothes then check out: Seduce with style. It will help you find the right clothes for you and then you can wear the ones that make you look like a total bad ass.

Also get down the gym and get into shape. Take the film titled ‘Bad Boys’. Will Smith is a true bad ass and you only have to look as him to see this. This comes down to his style of clothing and also the fact he has huge muscles.

Become a leader and be decisive

I have already written an article called ‘How to attract girls’. This article covers the main aspects of why we need to have the qualities of being a leader and making decisive decisions. It’s something that alpha males have been doing since the dawn of man. Time you did the same thing.

Final thoughts

There you have it, how to be the bad boy women will love. Reading this and the article how to become a bad boy, you should not only improve with women but also in all aspects of your life. These things are important for success not just with women, but success in everyday life.

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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I am talking about a key part of being good at anything. Having the will to go out and be the best you can be. To back me up I have got a quote from one of the most successful American Football coaches ever, the late great Vince Lombardi:

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will.”
(Vincent T. Lombardi) [1]

What can you take from this

The possession of willpower and self discipline or their lack, play an important role in every-one’s life.[2]

Having willpower can help you to achieve things that you never thought were possible. There are many things that you can be truly exceptional at even if you lack the true natural talents that you believe would make it possible for you to be great at that particular skill.

If for example you lack strength then will can overcome this. If you want to get stronger you get down the gym. Same thing with knowledge. If you want more knowledge then look thing up on the Internet. This goes for pretty much anything you want to improve at.

If you want to be amazing with women then you need to have the will to learn what you need to do and then the will to go out and put what you have learned into action.

Handed to you on a plate

When it comes to getting things you want, don’t expect them to be handed to you on a plate. You need to work at them and be willing to put in the hard grind to become the best you can be.

The Internet nowadays is full of people claiming that they can bring you the success you want without any effort at all.

Yes there are ways to do things that make your life easier, but there are no short cuts when it comes to getting good with women.

No matter method you learn you still need to put some effort up front by putting that particular method into action.

Final thoughts

Just having will alone won’t make you the best in the world if you lack the necessary skills or knowledge that are required. I believe though, that anyone can achieve a level of skill that is of a very high standard if they are willing to put the time and effort into it.

When it comes to women if you are willing to put the effort in then you can become great with women and have the success that you desire.

If you want to improve your will power then check out: ‘Will Power: How to improve your self discipline’.

Catch you laters
Preston Blain

Resources
1. ^ Inspiration Quotes– Wikipedia
2. ^ Will Power and Self Discipline – Success Consciousness

Additional Resources
1. ^ Vince Lombardi– Wikipedia
2. ^ Willpower– Wiktionary
3. ^ Three effective ways to enhance your willpower – Zenhabits
4. ^ Willpower part 1: The force of greatness
5. ^ How to get a girl – Social Masters

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Whoever she is, you’ve come here to find out how to work the magic that will convince her that you’re the most awesome guy since Justin Bieber’s better-looking cousin. You want to know how to get the girl of your dreams to like you. And I’m here to tell you the secrets to get the girl of your dreams…

I’ve got some great resources and techniques to share with you on how to get a girl to be attracted to you. Here we go:

Talk to her

If you really like this girl then talking to her is key. You have seen this girl enough to know that you want to take things further and to do that talking is a must. You want to be interesting and attractive to her by telling cool stories, like how you went rock climbing on the weekend for example.

You don’t just want to talk to women, you also want to be a good listener. Women like guys who can listen so it’s worth lending your ears to the conversation as well as your mouth. It’s crucial though, not to let her dominate the conversation and have it become an outlet for her life.

Flirt with her

Flirting allows you to demonstrate to her that you are interested without being too upfront. Flirting is about showing the girl that you are playful and fun to be around. You will be able to demonstrate that you are an attractive man. This will be cause them to be attracted to you and there will be nothing they can do about it.

Check out: ‘How to flirt’ for more information on perfecting your flirting.

Show confidence

Women like confident men. Even if you feel you are shy, you still have the potential to be confident. All guys have this potential, you just need to learn how to demonstrate this to the rest
of the world and this one particular girl.

If you don’t believe me, then imagine a time when you were doing something that you were really good at. Maybe playing the guitar in your bedroom or cooking a meal for some friends. If you were confident doing these things then once you learn to be good with women you can experience the same confidence.

Make sure you check out: ‘How can I get a girl if I lack confidence’

Plenty more things you can do

The above points are a good starting point for you to start your campaign of attracting this girl.

For more information on how to get the girl of your dreams, here are some more articles that you should definitely check out. These will help you learn how to get the girls you want:

* How to attract girls
* How to approach a girl
* How to get a girl in 8 easy steps
* 7 Ways to get a girl using style
* How to get the girl 10 top tips

Final thoughts

I want to give you some ‘tough love’ and let you in on a secret that may not be exactly what you want to hear but will help you in the long run. Ready?

That girl isn’t special.

Ouch. Sounds pretty harsh doesn’t it? Yeah I know she’s attractive. Maybe you have noticed something about her that few other girls possess – the way she looks, or that cute way she smiles.

The truth is, the most attractive guys – the ladies men if you will – these guys hardly ever get the time to develop a ‘crush’ with one girl in particular.

They know their efforts are better spent improving themselves and becoming more attractive to all women.

So if you have asked the question how to get the girl of your dreams to like you, then it can help to devote time to becoming better with women in general. Don’t dwindle your time trying to please one girl. Instead work on yourself and becoming amazing with women. One of 3 things will most likely happen:

* You get good with women and get the girl you wanted.
* You realise that she is not actually your dream girl (high possibility) but who cares cos’ you got the skills to meet other women.
* You get good with women but don’t get the girl. However you get other girls and one day you do find the girl of your dreams.

All happy endings, but with one key point. You get good with women…

Speak soon,
David Black

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Due to human biology, women can’t choose who they are attracted to. Women tend to be attracted to a certain type of man and that is what makes some men very successful with women. If you want to get her to chase you then you need to:

Take control

Women don’t want guys who are easily controlled. You have to take note that women are just not attracted to men who are like this.

They are not attracted to men that they can easily control because attraction is based on guys who make decisions and lead from the front. If you are quite happy taking orders off women, then they will most likely use you like a doormat, with the implied notion of intimacy perpetually dangled just out of reach.

So in order to get a girl to chase you instead of chasing after them, you need to change the way you think about attracting women. You need to take control of your life and learn to become more attractive by being and doing the things that attract women.

Remember, you are always in control of your life. It’s up to you to become more attractive and thus get girls to like you.

Why are bad boys so popular?

It has always been a fact of life that bad boys are good with women. Why? Because they demonstrate so many key things that are attractive. If you want to find out more then I suggest checking out: ‘How to become a bad boy women will love’.

You need to believe that you are becoming a bad boy that women cannot control or figure out. This will increase your chances of attracting women. You have to realize that women will not be engrossed to men that are way too good to them. It is best to do something that is far more subtle. You have to learn all the techniques that complement this bad boy mindset.

Sometimes this can seem counter-intuitive. However if you are currently a nice guy and keep doing the same thing over and over and you are still not getting results then maybe it’s time you try something different. Remember, I say this a lot so get use to it, that the definition of insanity is doing the same shit over and over and expecting a different result.

So if you really want to learn how to get a girl to chase you, you need to start thinking differently to what you are right now.

If you read the article above about becoming a bad boy, then you will know that I am not talking about being a dick to women. Women deserved to be treated well, however there are key factors that you must demonstrate in order to be attractive to women.

But reading that article again, I realised that there are a few things that can be elaborated upon. Now I will be posting an article soon to add to it and hopefully I will add a link here when it’s finished and posted.

However there is one thing I want to go into great detail right now. I consider it to be quite a key concept when it comes to learning how to get girls to notice you and thus learning how to get a girl to chase you. If you can get a girl to notice you and likes what she sees, then there is a good chance she will want to be with you.

A key concept

Whilst writing this article I thought of a good example of from a great film that demonstrates one of the key factors when it comes to being truly attractive to women.

I remember watching the scene and thinking that the way he handles the situation is great. Also when you consider what the one scene entails, being able to remember what seems like such a tame scene in the film.

I am talking about ‘127 hours’. If you haven’t seen the film then check out IMDB to see what all the fuss is about.

Now in the film there is a great scene where he interacts with two girls: Kristi and Megan. During his interaction he does everything that will make a woman want to have sex with you there and then without even trying.

He is not trying because he is just being that person. At one point we hear one of the girls (I can’t remember which one) say something along the lines of “We didn’t even figure in his day”.

Now bear in mind that he has spoken to these girls, he has agreed to meet up and thus there is a distinct possibility that he will get laid and yet it still is not the most important thing to him.

That my friends is the key concept.

Getting laid is not the most important thing to him because he is this awesome guy. He does amazing things, demonstrates that he is of the highest value, does what he wants and gives them an experience that the girls will most likely remember for the rest of their lives.

A word of caution

Although he demonstrates some great qualities, the lead character Aron Ralston has some very poor qualities. For example being reckless is extremely risky behvior. Let’s be honest if you have seen the film then you already know the results of being reckless.

If you haven’t, then you should definitely watch it because you can learn a lot. Not just about what you should do, but also what you should avoid doing as it it can lead to bad results.

Final thoughts

If you are looking for effective methods on how to get a girl to chase you, you simply have to change your attitude towards them. Most guys believe that being mister nice guy will help them to get women into bed.

This however is not the case. Now like I said earlier, you don’t have to be a c**t, however you do need to demonstrate some of the key qualities that make women attracted to men. This includes having the same qualities of Aron and being someone who is fucking cool and doesn’t let women get the upper hand on him by basically having other more important things in his life.

Check out these articles for more info on how to get a woman to like you.

* How to attract girls
* How to get a girl to notice you
* How to get the girl: Top 10 tips

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