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101 Ways How To Get a Girl

David Black — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 18:36:55 +0000

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So, you want tips? I got more tips than your body has room for right here. Here’s 101 ways how to get a girl…

Get some style

1. Get a decent haircut. One that suits you and makes you feel more comfortable.
2. Ensure your facial hair is under control, including eyebrows, beard, mustache, etc.
3. Wear clothes that fit you correctly. Everyone is a different size so make sure you buy clothes that fit you well and make the most of your physique.
4. Wear clothes that suit your style and are the correct colours. This will instantly make you more attractive to women.
5. Dress appropriately for your age. We all get older and therefore we need to adjust the style of clothes we are wearing.
6. Make sure you have a decent aftershave. How you smell is hugely important as it can cause huge attraction in women.
7. Wear something that makes you different. Don’t just follow the crowd and wear what everyone else does. If you wanna show off your personality then go for it.
8. However, don’t wear something stupidly ridiculous because 1: It ain’t cool & 2: It looks way too try hard. Check out 5 Tips To Improve Your Fashion Style

Improve your body language

9. Get your posture sorted. Good posture shows you are a strong, dominant man.
10. Make sure you stand relaxed but purposeful.
11. Confident bodylanguage is key. I am always mentioning in posts that confidence is one of the key factors to being successful with women.
12. Smile. I think people underestimate the true effect of a smile. A smile shows you are a warm & friendly and therefore someone they will feel comfortable having approaching them.
13. Keep your head up. Keeping your head up shows you are confident and not afraid of being seen.
14. Keep good eye contact.
15. Don’t fiddle as this is nervous behaviour. Any signs of nerves does not come across very attractive to women.
Side note: Check out Using Body Language for more info on body language in general.

Learning how to approach

16. You need to get out into the real world and approach real women. You can learn all you want, but at the end of the day you to need to go out and do it. One option is to start with routines. This takes away the problem of knowing what to say and just allows you to focus on doing the approach.
17. Start simple and progress. Ask girls the time, then maybe directions, etc. Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in the ‘just asking questions’ loop. They are just to help you gain confidence to approach. Make sure you keep progressing with the interactions. Check out: Art Of Approaching for more info

Think about using routines to start with

18. Routines help you to gain confidence, tho don’t become dependent on routine based methods. Only good for the short term.
19. You can progress very quickly and therefore get instant results. Never a bad thing :-)
Here are some routines for you to try out: A Collection Of PUA Openers

Become adept at reading a girls body language

20. Know when she is interested what you’re saying.
21. Know when she is bored.
22. Know whether she wants to take things further.
23. Knowing if she wants to be kissed.
24. Knowing if you are creeping her out.
25. Know if you are coming on too strong. Check out Reading Body Language over at Become A Player

Get down the gym

26. Start a fitness regime and stick to it. Women are attracted to men who are in good shape.
27. Include cardio to lose weight if needed or high intensity interval training.
28. Swim. Swimming has been proven to be an excellent way to lose weight and improve the strength of your heart. If you can’t swim then learn. You never know when you might need it.
29. Lift weights to bolster those muscles. Women love guys who are in shape. It’s not that they are superficial, it’s just having a nice body shows you care about yourself and will therefore care about them.
30. Don’t go overboard with weights as women don’t like men who are too muscly. Sometimes being too big can actually be detrimental to how attractive you are.
31. Keep up with your training on regular basis. Steady and consistent workouts will reap the most reward.
32. Get professional help. Check out the Adonis Effect.

Learn some new skills

33. Women love men who posses skills.
34. Learn musical instrument. E.g women love men who play guitar.
35. Learn something cool such as magic. Check out: Puma skills
36. Improve your dancing skills as it’s both practical and attractive.
37. Poetry is a great skill to have. Women love poetry and love guys who can recite poetry.
38. Make sure though it is something you enjoy & not just for the sake of getting some nookie.

Have fun

39. Do some Karaoke. Doesn’t matter whether you can sing or not. Sometimes it can be better when you can’t sing because it will make her laugh and show you don’t care about what others think of you.
40. Semi extreme things such as surfing, mountain climbing, biking, sphereing, etc. All great fun and all adrenaline filled which girls love.
41. Explore new places.
42. Seasonal fun. Having a water fight in summer, kick leaves in Autumn or make a snowman in Winter. Fuck Spring :-)
43. Make the boring stuff like furniture shopping fun by throwing her on the beds, throwing cushions at her, etc.

Get a passion in life

44. Women love men who are passionate. Watch this video all about getting a passion: The Biggest Thing To Attract Women
45. You can be passionate about anything.
46. Be passionate about anything such as your career, business, hobby, a charity, etc.
47. Make sure you portray this passion to the girl through speech and your body language, as well as your actions.

Recognise and utilise your strengths

48. Use the skills you have already to improve your chances.
49. Everyone has strengths that can be used to attract women. If you don’t think you have then you are not looking hard enough.
50. It could be humour, intelligence, conversational skills, athletic prowess, etc.

Improve your confidence

51. Use affirmations as part of a confidence routine.
52. Push outside your comfort zone each day by doing one thing that scares you.
53. Go out into the real world. Ask 20 women the time and then do progressively harder stuff.
54. Realise that not trying is the only failure.
55. Also realise that women want to be approached so go for it.
56. What’s the worst that could happen? You get turned down and that’s it. Nothing major.

Become a great conversationalist

57. Learn to find out what she likes (Deep and wide rapport). Credit for deep & wide rapport must go to Lance Mason, so make sure you check out his site: Art Of Attraction
58. Talk about things you both like. If you can’t find anything you both like then get the hell outta there :-)
59. Speak clearly, without being so quiet she struggles to hear or so loud that she finds it intimidating.
60. Listen when she speaks and respond accordingly. More info at Sosuave
61. Talk with passion about the things you care about.

Get help

62. Don’t be afraid to admit you need help. We all need a little help sometimes.
63. Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Learn to take on board the good advice and ignore the bad.
64. Find someone who is better than you and learn from what they do. Remember to put what you learn into action and not become someone who always learns but never does.
65. Also don’t go OTT with learning. This can can lead to paralysis by analysis. Tho you should check out TSB Mag, they give away so much quality free information.

Risks are part of success

66. We all need to take risks in order to be successful.
67. What’s the worst that could happen? If a girl says no then you move onto the next one.

Be a ‘real man’

68. Display leadership.
69. Be a decision maker.
70. Be picky and choosy. This shows that you are not desperate and that you are more desirable.
Check out ‘Women Approach You‘
71. Make sure you have lots of options. Men with options are always more attractive because any one girl isn’t that special to them by default.
72. Check out the article: how to attract girls for more information on being a real man.

Get your mindset sorted

73. Believe that you are good enough. If you do, you are.
74. Eliminate any need for acceptance or approval.
75. Make sure you have the abundance mentality.
76. Work on your mindset with affirmations. Check out quotes about success as they can be inspirational. One of my favourite quotes is; “The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will” – Vince Lombardi.

Become a master of flirting

77. Being a master flirt is a great way to attract women, especially at work and in social circles.
78. Body language is key; have good eye contact, smile with your eyes, use a cheeky grin, etc.
79. Know what to say; Fake like she is annoying you, Roleplay together, reframe her tests, etc.
80. Set the frame of all interactions and keep in control.
81. Remain playful at all times. Remember flirting is meant to be fun.
82. Check out 30 Proven Flirting Tips, for Men & How to flirt like a master.

Be adept at using the phone

83. Don’t be afraid to use the phone. It can be a powerful tool that can really help you improve your interactions with women. The need to be good on the phone is greater than ever as the mobile phone/cellphone has become so popular over the last few years.
84. You can use it to further build attraction with a girl and also build rapport. Check out: Phone Mastery
85. It’s also used to arrange further meet ups between you and the girl which sometimes makes it a necessity to progress with women.
86. Put your phone in her pants on vibrate then use her phone to give it a call. Added bonus you get her number if you didn’t already have it.

Learn to be good in bed

87. Know that if you are good in bed then you will be irresistible to women.
88. Check out David Shade as he is one of the most renowned guys who teach men how to give a girl an orgasm.
89. Be confident in the bedroom. Girls love guys who take control in the bedroom and take the lead with sex.
90. Once you get to know the girl you can ask her what she really likes. Make sure you balance asking her with just out an out sex. If you repeatedly ask her it can become a hindrance to the sex because it can kill the moment. Learn what she likes and then do it till you get it right. Then you may ask again.

Be prepared

91. Always carry condoms for obvious reasons.
92. Always have somewhere you can take a girl back to on a night out. Be in your place, a friends place, hotel, etc.
93. Always have a form of transport to get you back to your chosen destination.
94. Always carry your phone on you as you never know when you will need it.
95. Make sure you have enough money on you or your credit card for Taxi, hotel room, etc.

Sexually Aggressive Physical Moves

96. Warning these are advanced techniques that if done correctly can work like a charm. Do not attempt unless you have been trained first hand, or these can easily blow up in your face in a bad way. That said…
97. Pinch her on the nipple(s).
98. Slap her or grab her on the ass.
99. Twang her bra from the back, hard.
100. Push her back if she is getting too close.
101. Put her in the ’sensual choke-hold’.

And that’s the end of the list. Congratulations if you read this far, you must be one persistant dude. That in itself says a lot about your character.

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Pick Up Artist Forum List Updated

Preston — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 12:30:47 +0000

Hey there guys, just spent the day trying to make sure our pick up artist forum list is bang up to date.

I have added 4 forums to the PUA Forum list:

Arizona PUA Forum – This particular forum concentrates on PUA’s in Arizona funnily enough :-). Good place to share tips and advice as well as organising meet ups for “Sarging Events” as they call it.

High School PUA’s – Designed for PUA’s in high school. Obviously the world of PUA’s in high school has variations to normal PUA’s, so if you are still in high school then you should check this out.

Roosh V Forum – The legendary Roosh V’s personal forum.

Students Of David Deangelo – One of the greatest PUA gurus ever has his own forum for you, to help improve your interactions with women.

I also updated The ABCs of Attraction as they had a change of domain.

I think that is everything. Check the rest out here: PUA Forum. You can also check out our PUA blog list as well: PUA Blogs.

Enjoy.

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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Sexual Relationship Is Not Like A Business Deal

David Black — Mon, 24 May 2010 09:54:52 +0000

When it comes to sex in a relationship things are not always straight forward. Obviously guys want to have sex but things don’t always work out like that.

Most women want to have sex. I can’t say all women because not all women do. Just like not all women like shopping or going night clubbing. At the end of the day we are all different.

However what you must realise is that you can’t bargain with women for more sex. Just as with guys who think buying a girl a drink on a night-out will get them into a women’s pants, guys seem to think that they can barter for sex in a relationship.

If you take her out and buy her lots of things, then she will be more inclined to have sex with you. However this isn’t the case and nor should it be. At the end of the day you are both in a relationship together. You are part of a two man team where both parties are equal.

So how do you get a girl to have more sex in a relationship.

Having a great relationship

If you are both happy in your relationship then you are both going to want to spend more intimate time together. If you have an unhappy relationship when you are together during your normal typical day to day routines then why would she want to spend time with you in the bedroom. Try to keep the fun and excitement level high in your relationship. When you have been in a relationship for a little while, it can become monotonous. You get up go to work, come home eat and then go to bed. You need to break this by getting out and doing fun awesome stuff to keep your relationship fresh. Stuff like going ice skating, going to a theme park, going to the cinema, etc.

Sex should be about quality

Just because you don’t have as much sex as you use to doesn’t mean you have both gone off it. When you first meet a girl, sex is new and really exciting. However as the relationship goes on other things can take over. Things such as; trying to raise money to get a house together, or taking up new hobbies, or maybe a one of you has been promoted or got a new job and thus have less time. If this happens, then just make sure that the sex you do get to have is pure quality. I believe as with anything in life great sex 4 times a week is much better than bad sex twice a day. The next part shares with you how to make you sex life more interesting.

Sex has become a routine

From my own experience, women love to try new things. When you first begin a new relationship, both parties tend to be pretty happy just to have bog standard sex. Missionary position time and time again. As the relationship gets older, it seems that both the guy and the girl can become bored. Add some variety into your sex life. There are many ways to do this. Trying new positions, adding lubricants, sex toys, etc. The good thing is, as the relationship is more established you should both now be more willing to share sexual fantasies you would like to try. Word of caution: Some fantasies are best left in your head so always think before you speak.

Put the girl needs first

Trust me when I say, women love good sex. If you can make her cum more times than not then you will have a great sex life. Imagine for a second, that you had sex with a girl and she didn’t make you cum. It would not be too long before you got pissed off with it and thought “Fuck this I rather do it myself”. Well, this is what it’s like for most women. They have sex and they are left totally unsatisfied. Therefore it becomes more like a chore for them instead of something pleasurable. Obviously learning how to please a women is a subject entirely of it’s own. Therefore I am linking you to this great resource … David Shade “America’s Renegade Sex Expert”.

Final thought

I actually find sex in a relationship can be much more rewarding than new sex. Yeah the excitement is there with new sex and that never gets old (never). However if you can share some of your sexual fantasies and do to each other what you really want, then the sex can be amazing.

Speak soon,
David Black

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How To Get A Girl To Trust You

Preston — Mon, 17 May 2010 12:04:11 +0000

Many guys tend to struggle when thinking, how to get a girl to trust you?. There are a few reasons why guys always find this particular aspect difficult.

Past experiences can become a barrier when attempting to get a girl’s trust. For example, if the girl has been previously in a long term relationship, there is often a little voice in the back of her head asking herself questions like “what happens if she gets hurt again?”. Some girls have issues with moving on from these experiences and this can automatically cause tension between the two of you.

Some girls may be more comfortable talking and flirting with men when on nights out as there is a chance they have never met you before and have the attitude ‘nothing to lose’. However, if you want to start seeing her after, the phrase ‘fight or flight’ does occur to women and instantly start to form doubts.

The majority of guys haven’t realised that trust isn’t something that can be forced upon a girl or that can be controlled. It takes time and varies with different women you meet. Some couples can build trust almost instantly, others may take months. Sometimes trust never materialises and you need to realise that this particular relationship isn’t going anywhere, rather than staying with her for the sake of not being alone.

How to get a girl to trust you???

What has she done in the past? This is the kind of question you need to keep in mind when you’re seeing a girl. Not a lot of women will be obvious and ’straight to the point’ when it come to events in their past. You can’t constantly ask her questions about everything there is to know about her as this will make her feel uncomfortable. The best thing I would suggest is to take a step back and give her plenty of space. By doing this, you are giving her room to breathe and giving her the time to feel comfortable around you.

Remember, there is no reason to try and rush the relationship in the vain attempt to form trust. By taking your time and both getting to know each other, you and the girl are both giving yourself chances to build a trusting relationship. As you start to get to know each other better, you start to share secrets with each other and so the trust between you grows. As the trust grows you both can be able to confide in each other and this will make your relationship stronger. This includes such things as sexual preferences, previous relationships etc.

How to get a girl to trust you is something that happens naturally. Don’t force it!

Natasha May

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How To Date An Older Woman (Cougar Dating)

Preston — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 23:21:37 +0000

You have probably already read the article how to get an older woman. Hopefully you have succeeded in that task of meeting an older woman and now have a hot older woman on your arm. Now you need to know how to date an older woman so that you can keep her.

Dating older women is not that different from dating younger women. There are a few things that you need to be aware of when it comes to dating older women. The sort of stuff that will just help things go that little bit smoother.

Let’s look at how to date an older woman, or as I like to call it a bit of toyboy dating, with great success.

This includes:

Treating them with respect
Being a good communicator
They like to have fun
They don’t like to be reminded of their age

Let’s look at these 4 points in more detail.

They want to be treated with respect

Older women want to be treated with respect. I don’t mean in the respect of opening doors for them and all that other jaz as this is a little old fashioned. Older women are not old fashioned (well some might be). However they do want to be treated with respect because they have life experience. Show respect to her thoughts and feelings. Remember older women have been there and done it. They have most likely built up a good knowledge about life in general and if you show respect towards that knowledge, then it will go a long way.

Be a good communicator

Building on from the last point. Older women tend to have plenty to share with you. They have stories to tell. As with anything life don’t allow them to go overboard and tell you every little story 24/7. However listening to an older women is great for your relationship. The added bonus it that you normally can learn a lot from them. Stuff that you only learn from being there and doing it so make sure you take on board what they are saying. Their past experiences can be interesting as well as beneficial to you so make sure you lend sometime to listen to what they have to say.

They like to have fun

Just because a woman gets older doesn’t mean that she has forgotten to have fun. In fact she is probably up for having more fun than you would think. So when you are dating an older woman you need to make sure that you are having fun. Take her out fun places and enjoy life to the full. I am sure she would appreciate a trip to the ice rink more than a trip to the local pub once in a while. Something where you can both have a bit of fun and both feel young end energetic. Something a lot of guys might not do when dating an older woman.

They don’t want to be reminded of their age

Stuff like “You look good for your age” can be a good thing. Women love to know that they still look desirable to younger guys. However once you start going out with an older women then you need to change the way you say things. They don’t want to be reminded that they are older than you. In fact the reason they probably want to date a younger man is to feel younger. Supposedly dating an younger guy can make a woman feel younger by 4 years. So don’t keep reminding them that they are older than you. Even if it is saying something nice such as “You look good for your age”.

So remember, dating older women is not that different to dating younger women. How to date an older woman should not be something that is hard or over complicated. When dating an older woman there are a few subtle things that you need to take into account. If you do then things should run very smoothly indeed.

Speak soon,
David Black

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Top 10 Really Bad Love Songs To Sing To A Girl

Preston — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 18:10:17 +0000

Here is a list of the top 10 really bad love songs to sing to any girl ever. Listening to love songs is one thing but singing them is another matter. Yeah some of these maybe considered great love songs. They may even be considered some of the greatest love songs of all time. However when you look at the words you begin to wonder… Enjoy.

The Police “Every Breath You Take” – That’s something you really want to listen to when you’re in the car… a song that’s dedicated to all the stalkers out there! You’ve got to wonder what Sting’s logic was at the time; How he can even think he can try and make this sound romantic is beyond me. I’m pretty sure it would creep the hell out of you if you’re lying in bed and a girl’s whispering these lyrics in your ear!

‘Every breath you take
Every move you make
Every bond you break
Every step you take
I’ll be watching you’

James Blunt “You’re Beautiful” – Okay so if your ‘life is brilliant’, then why are you getting hung up over a girl who has a boyfriend? Come on man, you met the girl once on a subway! The other big no-no in this song is the fact he focuses solely on her looks. Women don’t appreciate this. They prefer men to comment on their decision making such as ”nice jacket” or ”your hair looks nice”. James you chump!

‘You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful its true
I saw your face
In a crowded place
And I don’t know what to do
’cause I’ll never be with you’

Meat Loaf “I’d Lie For You” – Why? Why would you do that? You should never do things for a girl, which can lower your values and principles.

‘I’d lie for you and that’s the truth
Do anything you ask me to
I’d even sell my soul for you
I’d do it all for you
If you’d just believe in me’

Richard Marx “I Will Be Right Here Waiting For You” – Right, I feel Mr. Marx has officially turned into quite the stalker towards one girl in particular… poor bugger. ‘Oneitis’ in full flow. This girl has left him for whatever reason and rather than pick himself up and move one he’d rather sit alone and whine about it. And besides what makes that girl so special to all the other women out there? It just proves the point that all women are the same; it’s just at times you may build a fixation with one girl and start to believe she’s in a league of her own. Not the way to go about it…

‘Wherever you go, whatever you do,
I will be right here waiting for you.
Whatever it takes or how my heart breaks,
I will be right here waiting for you.’

Stevie Wonder “I Just Called To Say I Love You” - Saying you love a girl a lot can actually put her off. Especially early on in a relationship. There is no need to say it all the time anyways. The odd one hear and then is needed, however it is more important to show her by treating her with respect and looking after her. Just like you would for a close friend or family. Though I can just imagine it, she is laying in bed drifting off to sleep when she gets a call and the person rasps “I love you”. Not the best…

‘I just called to say I love you
I just called to say how much I care
I just called to say I love you
And I mean it from the bottom of my heart’

Avant “I Wanna Be Close” – There’s a few things that are wrong with this song. Okay, it’s a good thing you want “to be everything your man’s not”, but why would you give her everything? This is a big no-no as it just looks like you’ve got anything else to add to the relationship. If you try and give her everything she wants, after a while she completely lose interest in you because it seems you haven’t got a backbone. Plus, can anyone explain to me why on earth you would “to be the hat you put on your head”!?

‘I wanna be the smile
you put on your face
I wanna be your hands
when you say your grace
I wanna be whatever
is your favorite place, oh
I just wanna be close
I wanna be the hat you put on your head
I wanna be the sheets
you put on your bed
I wanna be the skirt
wrapped around your legs
Oh, I just wanna be close’

Bryan Adams “Everything I do I do It For You” – Wrong Wrong Wrong. Whatever you do in life you do for yourself. You can do nice stuff for others. Whether that’s because it’s their Birthday, Christmas or because you are just feeling a little generous. However you should never be doing stuff just for women, especially if it’s something you don’t want to do but think it will help your chance of success. Like dying.

‘Don’t tell me it’s not worth tryin’ for
You can’t tell me it’s not worth dyin’ for
You know it’s true
Everything I do – I do it for you’

Billy Ocean “Get Out Of My Dreams, Get Into My Car” – Now I’m pretty certain that if you ever started to compare your girl to a car, she is not going to be impressed with you. And I would seriously be impressed if he is a “non-stop lover” and want know his secrets! Seriously though, not all women would be keen to jump into the back seat of your car as soon as they meet you. And by the sounds of it, he sounds pretty obsessive about his girl. I mean, he’s apparently dreaming about her. Overall, definitely not the right mind set to have when approaching women…

‘Get outta my dreams
Get into my car
Get outta my dreams
Get in the back seat baby
Get into my car
Beep beep, yeah
Get outta my mind
Get into my life
Oooooooooh
Oh I said hey (Hey) you (You)
Get into my car’

The Beatles ” P.S. I Love You” – From the words of a young lady I know, “It would make me feel like someone is smothering me”. This is not the desired effect you want to have on a girl.

‘I’ll be coming home again to you, love,
And ’til the day I do, love,
P.S., I love you.
You, you, you.
You, you, you.
I love you.’

Savage Garden “Truly, Madly, Deeply” – To me, this song is the cheesiest love song I’ve heard. These guys bring a new definition of the word desperate! Why on earth would you want to be and do all these things for a girl? At this rate not only would she lose interest after a while, but you may lose all your identity as you’re trying too hard to be something you’re not. Then where would you be when she’s long gone?

‘I wanna stand with you on a mountain
I wanna bathe with you in the sea
I wanna lay like this forever
Until the sky falls down on me’

Sing these songs at your peril. The may be some of the best love songs and would probably be in the top 100 best love songs of all time, they also made it into the top 10 bad love songs to sing to a girl for good reason.

Remember you have been warned :-)

Catch you laters
Preston Blain

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How To Talk To Women On The Phone [Part 2]

David Black — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 21:30:29 +0000

The other day I posted an article about how to talk to women on the phone, which I highly recommend you read. I shared some of my thoughts on using the phone. I mentioned how, as children, we don’t suffer from any fear towards the phone. However, as we get older we seem to develop this irrational fear that appears when we go to make a phone call. I also shared a little about how I personally overcame this fear.

The phone is normally your second interaction with a girl. And, depending on how well that first call goes, it can be make-or-break whether or not she will meet up with you again. Therefore, you need to get your skills in this are handled.

So, I have created some awesome videos just for you, to help you learn how to talk to women on the phone.

Link: Phone Mastery Videos

As I mentioned earlier, a phone call is generally the second interaction you have with a women. Especially one whose number you got the other day in the bookstore, or on the night out over the weekend whilst hitting the pubs and the clubs. That first phone call is a crucial part of being successful with women because it’s the second time you interact after building the intial attraction. Your ‘performance’ on the call will dictate whether you increase the attraction or completely destroy. No pressure :-)

If you look at it this way, you could get 100 numbers a week but if you have no clue how to use the phone as effective mechanism to further the interaction then you are potentially throwing numerous opportunities down the drain. The phone isn’t just there to arrange the next meet. It can be used to create more attraction, interest and intrigue and therefore make her even more likely to want to meet up with you.

Learning how to talk to girls on the phone is an excellent way to make the second meeting between the two of you go much smoother. Many guys seem to overlook this factor. They feel that is you make a good impression when you first meet the girl then the phone call itself is not particularly important. I really hope you won’t be one of those guys who can’t see the importance of having excellent phone skills when talking to women on the phone.

Here are a couple of points to consider when making phone calls to women you have met just a short while ago:

Firstly, you have no idea how the first interaction went. You may have thought you were the best thing since sliced bread to her, however she might not have been quite as impressed as you were. She might have been impressed enough to answer the phone when you call, but you maybe standing on thin ice with her. So if you make the phone call and do a half-assed job of it, then the next thing you know, she seems less than interested in meeting up and the whole thing fizzles out. Whereas, if you can use the phone in an effective manner then you maybe able to make up for the slightly poor first interaction and really getting her keen on meeting you again.

Secondly, if you did have an awesome interaction when you first met her then maybe the need for an awesome phone interaction is not crucial for whether she wants to meet up again. However, why wouldn’t you want to smash it on the phone? And leave her going to bed that evening dreaming about you? If you were great in person, and then you are also great on the phone, she is just gonna want to meet up even more. Don’t settle for being the ‘just scrapped through it’ guy, settle for being the ‘I am totally awesome at everything’ guy.

Plus, it doesn’t matter if you are from the Uk to the USA, whether you like it or not, the phone and subsequently making phone calls is becoming more and more part of everyday life. Especially because of the mobile phone or cell phone, depending on what side of the Atlantic you are from. This includes when meeting women and attracting women.

So if you are really interested in becoming the complete package when interacting with women you need to learn how to talk to women on the phone.

Check out the videos: Phone Mastery Videos

Hope you enjoy and I hope that you become a master of the phone and therefore a master of your own destiny with women. Here’s to making phone calls and lots of them :-)

Speak soon,
David Black

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How to Talk to Women on the Phone

David Black — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 20:12:42 +0000

Have you ever had that horrible, pit-of-the-stomach-churning feeling when you go to call and talk to women on the phone? Or maybe you get a phone call and you see it’s the number of the girl you met the other night. You are not alone.

Here’s the interesting thing though: Think back to when you were younger. Was this that much of an issue back then? Was there a time before, when the phone didn’t pose a threat, and didn’t instil bed-wetting fear in you? Did you ever have one of those plastic toy phones where you could press the buttons and it made the sound of farm yard animals? That was *fun* right?

Or maybe you remember the times when you were just a child, and the phone would ring and you would pick it up and say a cute, “Hello…” to whoever it was calling. You know the one, where the other person (phone caller) would say, “Is your mummy or daddy there?” and you would reply, “Yeah I’ll go get ‘em for you.” just like that, no fear at all. Simple.

Yet, as with many things in life, as we grow up, this irrational fear of using the phone to make a phone call often manifests. And it’s really strange you know. This is an inanimate object we are talking about. It’s a plastic box with circuits and shit inside it.

It’s a tool. It should be something you embrace. Plus the mobile phone has made it become part of everyday life and so you need to learn How to Talk to Women on the Phone more than ever. Yeah calling someone on the phone isn’t as good as talking in the person, but it’s massively convenient when you’re separated by distance. You can definitely use it to help you get a girl. You can build attraction over it, you can build trust, you can share fantasies, hopes, dreams. You can even get women so turned on over the phone that they are literally begging for you to come over then and there. And we’ll get to that…

But first, confession time: I too once had an irrational fear of phones. I didn’t feel comfortable using the phone to make a phone call, and when it rang I would often get this jolt of fear through my entire body. I don’t know where this fear came from. It was totally irrational. Maybe I didn’t use the phone enough when I was a teenager (I didn’t speak to my friends at all on the phone really). Who knows?

The real fact is I was just too scared to use the phone. If I had a call to make (to a girl, or anyone), I would put it off, and make every excuse in the book to get out of it. I would try and get other people to call for me: my mum, sister, whoever was around. I made mental excuses: I believed it was better to talk in person. I thought I would be calling at an inconvenient time, and I would be disturbing this person by calling them. You could say I was just not a fan of phone conversation :-)

It got to the point where I felt that sick feeling whenever I knew I had to use the phone. It had a negative effect on my life, especially when it came to women.

I remember this one time, a girl called Lara called me up. This girl was seriously hot, and I had been after her for months (getting hardly anywhere I might add). Needless to say, I was totally unprepared for the call. It caught me off guard, and I fumbled through a few minutes of cringeworthy conversation before she was like, “Ok, I gotta go do some homework now.” (or something like that). And we never spoke again. Not on the phone, not ever.

I felt crushed. I felt like I had thrown it all away.
That’s when I decided enough was enough. I didn’t want something so seemingly trivial as the bloody phone controlling my life like this. I decided I was going to get this aspect of my life called, ‘talking to women on the phone’ handled – once and for all.

So, true to my usual form, I took some drastic action to improve my phone skills. I start doing drills such as; ringing up to order pizzas and calling up random numbers in the phonebook to see how long I could keep them talking. I also took a job at a big call centre near where I lived. I was answering the phone 8 hours a day, and having literally thousands of phone conversations a month.

Soon I realised the phone was nothing to be scared of. Now, I consider talking on the phone to be one of my greatest strengths, rather that one of my biggest weaknesses, as it was prior to my doing all this. I’ve got this stuff down so tight I can teach it to someone else in a few short hours, not the months of pain and suffering I had to go through.

So, if you’re currently struggling to talk to women on the phone then take heart. I *know* you can get this issue sorted, and probably in a much shorter time-frame than you ever thought possible. I work from my own personalised system now, based on thousands of phone interactions I’ve had over the years. I’ve never shared any of this stuff anywhere ever before, but look out for something a little special from me later this week. I’m going to be sharing some mind-blowing stuff to improve your phone skills that will help you totally crush it when speaking on the phone with women. Phone training just for you. Watch this space…

Speak soon,
David Black

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Social Masters Best Of 2009

David Black — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 01:09:21 +0000

Hey guys, David here.

I was just looking back through some of my posts for 2009 and thought it would be a nice to give you a list of the 5 best articles to read. So if you pick just a hand full of my posts to read then choose these, Social Masters best of 2009:

1) Learn How To Attract Girls – This article is all about developing yourself inner self in order to attract more women. Understanding the mental concepts is so important to becoming great with women. This is truely some of my best stuff. Check it out.

2) Discover The ‘Attract Girl’ Method – Learn how to walk and talk like somebody who is awesome with women. Also learn how touch is such an important aspect.

3) Confidence with women – Once you have your inner game sorted, you need to build the confidence to go out and talk to women. There is no point being great with women if you ain’t got the balls to go out and use those skills.

4) How To Approach A Girl – Once you are this bad ass mother f**cker who has awesome inner game, knows how to walk and talk, has the confidence to put this stuff into action, then it is time to learn how to approach a girl. Well this artcile does exactly that.

5) How To Get A Girlfriend In 7 Easy Steps – This is a little bit of a cheat on my part, because this article not only tells you what you need to do to get a girlfriend, but it links to all the articles I have listed here as references. Just in case you decided to skip some. Shame on you if you did :-)

Special Mentions:
How to Date Women – Article that does exactly what it says on the tin.
How To Pick Up Girls Like Hunter S. Thompson… – If you are a fan of the late great Hunter S. Thompson then this is a must read.

So there you have it, Social Masters best of 2009. Enjoy.

Speak soon,
David Black

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Best PUA Blog List

Fri, 22 Jan 2010 16:30:02 +0000

Just a short post today to let you know about my PUA Blog list.

If you have not already seen it then check it out here: PUA Blogs

It is a list of all the top PUA blogs being run at the moment. Some by pick up artists like Badboy PUA, Thundercat PUA, Neil Strauss and many more. Some by people who have learned how to pick up women and want to share how they have gone from somebody who is no good with women to some one who can approach women, attract women and date women/sleep with women.

I try my very best to keep it as updated as possible. If you know of a PUA Blog that I have missed, whether you run it or enjoy reading it, then let me know by email – comments@social-masters.com

I hope you like the PUA Blog list and hope you enjoy some of the new reads that you find. There are plenty out there so it will harder not to find something you like rather than something you do like.

As a side note. If you are looking for a forum then check out my best PUA Forum list. I am sure you will find something there to tickle your fancy :-)

Catch you laters,
David Black

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