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Some might say that I have a different point of view regarding many things in life. Well, dating is one of them and here’s my perception on the matter. A way of thinking that has allowed me to succeed many times over.

I believe that dates (dinners and drinks) should be reserved for women that actually deserve it. You can tell if she deserves if the following things take place:

* You’re having sex
* You’re having good sex
* You feel something for her
* She’s genuinely interested in you, not in your money/car/apartment/friends etc

Ok, now that we’ve established that let’s see why we shouldn’t do dates and what can we do instead.

Firstly you must realize that everyone and I do mean everyone is taking her out on dates. If you’re doing it too, how are you any different from all the other douche-bags out there that are buying her dinners and drinks week after week?

You’re not.

Many girls are going on dates just because the guy’s paying for them. Just ask your lady friends if they ever did something like this and you’ll be shocked to find out that all of them are basically using men to get free stuff. Don’t you want to be different? If so, you need to show her that from the beginning.

Another reason worth considering is the money. Why would you spend 50 pounds (here in the UK) on a dinner date when you don’t even know for sure if she’s going to have sex with you? We all know that dinner and a movie doesn’t necessarily result in sex, at the end of the day everything is down to how you make her feel.

Naturally, why should you buy a girl dinner and drinks when your success will actually depend on how you make her feel? Wouldn’t it be more wise to do that same thing in any other activity?

So you might be thinking, ok that’s all good but, girls want to go on dates! Sure, let them want that but you can do it differently. Don’t go on dates, GET together!

Call her up/text her/send her an email and tell her you want to get together. If she wants to believe it’s a date, let her, you don’t care, you know exactly what’s going on.

It’s also worth mentioning that when you ask her to get together instead of going on a date, her positive response will increase tenfold. This happens for 2 very distinct reasons: it’s different and she’s not obligated to do anything since it’s not a date. 

In such circumstance, there’s basically no pressure and if there’s no pressure she’s more likely to feel good and if she feels good you’ve got it made.

Ok now let’s look at a few activities that fall within this category:

In a post I wrote last week, called How to Be a Player When You’ve Got No Money  there was a section on how to deal with dating when you don’t have any money.

Honestly, even if you’re the richest guy in the world you should still be doing things like that.

Here’s a few:

Take her out for a walk in the park – to this day this is one of my favorite activities. You walk around the park, talk, make her feel good, even grab an ice cream/coffee from the closest shop (don’t pay for her). There’s absolutely no pressure on this activity and that instantly loosens her up.

Rent bikes and go cycling together.

Do sports together.

Take her to free events – yes it’s full of them around your location. Do a Google search and find out. Not only will you be cost free on this but you will be doing something she’s probably never done before. These are things like art galleries, amateur theatre, live bands etc. She will enjoy this more than you can imagine.

(Side note: Always end whatever is that you’re doing before she does. If you end it while she’s feeling good, she had a good time. If you let it drag on until she ends it (when she’s no longer feeling good) she’ll have a bitter taste in her mouth and its all downhill from there…)

Make her part of your world – This is another one of my favorites. This is what will eventually turn her into your girlfriend and many times it’s what makes her fall madly in love with you. This process is actually quite simple and it’s done by many men instinctively but I’m here to detail it out for you.

After a couple of get togethers it’s probably time to sleep with her. It should work, most of the times it does if you’ve managed to consistently keep her feeling good. Now that sex is out of the way it’s time to make her part of your world.

It’s important to mention that by now you didn’t have any official dates but yet you’ve slept together. Also make sure that when it happens, it happens at your place.

After the act you’re basically left with 2 options. Either ask her to leave or let her spend the night.

What I usually do is give her a pair of my boxers and a T-shirt and get her into the living room. I’ve got some wine and a nice shaggy white carpet we can sit on. I put a movie in, let’s say Breakfast at Tiffany’s and we sit there talking and watching.

You tell me, what girl doesn’t want to sit on a white shaggy carpet drinking wine while watching Breakfast at Tiffany’s?

I’ve got some cool roommates too (all girls), so they sometimes hang with us.

What I’m doing here, is making her part of my world. These are things she does with me that she will never ever have the chance to do with anyone else.

If she stays the night, even better, she’ll be part of my world in the morning. I wake up and, because I eat “healthy” – I cook eggs and bacon. Guess what? She get’s the same; she’s literally experiencing part of my life.

Girls die for stuff like this and this is the sort of things that make her fall in love with you.

It gets even better, if I’ve got stuff to do and she’s got the day off, I take her with me. I nicely ask her to come with me to the car parts store to buy a new bulb for my car, we have a nice drive, talk etc we get the bulb have a coffee somewhere and then I take her home.

And do you know the good part? I’ve never been on a date with this girl.

But do you know the best part? Next time I want to see her, I just asked her if she wants to come to my place and because she had such a nice time…she WANTS to!

Ok, so maybe I took this whole thing a bit too far but you must get the idea. Dates are bad and, I’ve just proved that NOT going on a date with a girl will actually make her fall in love with you.

So next time you get this girl’s number, don’t ask her on a date, tell her you want to “GET TOGETHER” and do any of the activities mentioned above.

This is the sort of mentality I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out.  If you want to increase your success with women visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com - a place where the “dating” mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of meeting and seducing women.

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David Black

Arash Interview

Hello everybody this is Arash aka Achilles from the game and you can find me on Seductive Instinct. I’m doing this interview for David from Social Masters.

1.  What are some of the highlights on your personal journey towards mastery with women?

That’s a very interesting question because there’s a lot honestly. I’ll give you few without having to name people and protect the innocent and shit like that. I’ll tell you, okay, let me make it generalize in a way that makes sense to everyone. I think the thing that sticks out the most is the first night when Matador and I were out and I had enough skills at this point to actually be a wing man and I wasn’t just sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. We ended up leaving the club with two car full of women one was an Escalade the other one was a Mercedes packed back to Matador’s house. There was three guys and nine girls, myself Matador and another guy that was with us, the whole night was just like the club was like being a movie star you know what I mean? It will so cool because we got there and didn’t have a section because we got there late so we looked at this one table and there was these guys there was five or six guys who had this VIP section where we wanted to sit. What we did is started to take girls to them, first we introduce ourselves to the guys “listen, we have a lot of girls and they are going to be wanting to party and hang out. If you guys don’t mind taking care of them some of these girls are really good looking blah blah blah.” So what we did is go out opening sets and bringing the girls to the table and it was just a matter of maybe thirty minutes or so we had the table filled with women. We would just keep dropping off girls and leaving, dropping off the girls and leaving, and dropping off the girls and leaving, “hey meet so and so” merging them. Maybe an hour later the guys were like “who are you guys? My God yes any drinks you want it’s on me.” So we took over the table and in short I don’t want to give you specifics honestly I won’t but I can tell you this but if you read the book The Game and look at the end of it and how Neil Strauss lives his life or if you just imagine how it would be like to live a life where you don’t have enough time for women. You do not have enough time for them like you have to choose “okay, I have this much time and there’s five chicks to choose from. Who do I go out with or who am I going to hang out with.” And then that’s life, it becomes my friend called it “a quality problem” I remember a time when there was maybe one or two chicks that I can call on to hang out. Now it’s at a time where the numbers are, and they just continue so the highlight for me the key moments that I have my friends or there are just so many, I refuse to answer the question any more than this. Okay, you should be able to get it right you should be calibrated, if you study game you should be able to look at me and understand that there is a lot to it. Okay, it’s a life is hard to describe when you get it and I wouldn’t trade it for anything just wouldn’t.

2. What have been the biggest obstacles for you and how have you overcome them?

Has been the fact that I have a girlfriend and I’ve been in a serious relationship for 5 ½ years almost 6. The way I’ve overcome it is I’ve developed a different style of game like how do you have a girlfriend who knows that you are a high-level pickup artist that that’s what to do and still keep her around and still be able to a pickup artist. That has been the biggest challenge for me personally I believe and the second challenge is the lost focus that you get because if you have other things going on in life you know at some point you will get so obsessed with this and being able to balance that was kind of difficult at the beginning. Still at times but kind of merge it life and game are the same thing you know but I remember in the beginning is just like it’s all you can think of is gaming all the time just all the time you know what I mean 24 hours a day. If you had anything else going on in life it’s just difficult so I’ve overcome that by merging my life and my game are the same I live a life of game that makes any sense obviously I’m teaching here and I have a lot of passion for martial arts and helping people so it all goes together now. Those would be the two biggest obstacles and on a game level what would be my personal obstacle game wise? I had a hard time calibrating like pulling back if that makes sense I was very ballsy just you know because I came from a direct kind of game being a martial artist and living in that world there is no bull shit about that when you just go take out the opponent that’s how I approach it. So I was mis-calibrated a lot and even just recently I had a realization about it on how to pull back and allow the person to take ah to get it out of you, you know I would put out too much so that was a personal challenge that I had.

3. Being a martial artist, how does this affect your attitude when interacting with women and learning to better yourself in this arena?

Being a martial artist has helped me tremendously in studying game. Man! I think that’s one of the reasons why I’m so successful so quickly the discipline. I know what it’s like to go from zero skill to a very high level skill in something and I saw the progression. I know what it’s like to get beat up every day and have to show up again, I know what it’s like to have a teacher who you trust and walked the path and now takes you through it. All those things were vital when I got into game I treated it the same way I found my teacher Mystery and Matador I studied with him I trusted them when things wouldn’t go right it was just like getting beat up so I just kept doing it. I had the discipline to study study study and I can see myself progressing it’s been huge and the confidence I have through martial arts is tremendous. Like I don’t really have to deal with AMOGing you know what I mean? Guys just don’t AMOG me I mean it can happen it has happened some guy ran by me and hit a drink in my hand and spilled it all over me. I looked at him and just kept going no fight no nothing I end up using that motion to make a lot of friends that night. The discipline, the focus, the confidence, even the humbleness you know because you realize in martial arts no matter how good you are you get beat up at some point there is always someone better and I realize that in game to. No matter how good you are it’s not a hundred percent like you are going to win every single time but just like in martial arts you increase the chances of survival greatly same thing in game when you have good game chances are that you are going to hook-up with the chick that you want.

4. What in your opinion our the 3 best ways a guy can demonstrate that he is a man to a woman?

The three best ways a guy can, that’s a great question, the three best ways a guy can demonstrate that he is a man to a woman is one he has to not apologize for some characteristics that are manly. For example, men like women, men like being macho, men like winning you know standing up for themselves. Those qualities you don’t apologize for, I like winning, I love beautiful women I am a man and I don’t like people upsetting my environment you can say. As a man I take care of my environment that’s a very important quality, number one don’t apologize for being a man whatever that means to you probably better than what I said okay. Second, make sure that as a man you demonstrate you are into a lot of different girls and this may sound illogical but it’s very important in my game. I’m into a lot of beautiful girls I have no problem saying that Hugh Hefner lives the best life out of man that I know from the outside. I don’t need to apologize, you see I have a girlfriend and she knows that’s how I feel so that’s a manly quality. It’s a very feminine quality to me to get married and settle down and of course that’s an opinion that people can object to that but you know you are asking me the question. I’m telling you a man has that quality and also there’s a manly quality is slightly bad boyish it’s very important you know. You, you know who you are and you make your own rules it’s not like you are some asshole who breaks rules but if you don’t agree with something you clearly stated. You have your own boundaries and rules and it’s very clear and I think those three qualities are very important I don’t know if they are the most important qualities but I am being asked these questions in the moment and these are the things on my head.

5. How can you demonstrate higher value without coming across as being arrogant or bragging?

It’s practice you do it, when it goes right you pay attention to what you did and when it goes wrong you pay attention to what you did. It’s hard to say man I can give you advice which is like everything you talk about should be incidental, right. If I’m talking about what a great fighter I am I’m going to talk about how incredible I feel about jujitsu. “Brazilian jujitsu it’s completely changed my life you know I remember not being able to face people much bigger than me because I thought they would be able to take me out but now it doesn’t matter how big the person is I can easily, easily use leverage and stuff that’s important because people should have confidence.” Boom, I just talked about how great a fighter I am incidental to the importance of jujitsu and leverage and confidence something like that.

6. Is there one resource, course or book that has had a major impact on your development?

Yes, the book that has the most effect on me was the Mystery Method by Mystery. The second book was Revelations by the Venusian Arts, the third book is the book The Game. Those three are the same category for me man there is so much in that if you understand those three you got it, you can do a lot, you can always get better.

7. If you started again from scratch tomorrow how would you approach learning things?

Great question. If I could do it again how would I approach it differently? I don’t know if I would approach it differently let me see. I wouldn’t approach it differently I just wouldn’t. There is a few sets that I lost that I wish I could go back because now I know I can do way better but I wouldn’t approach studying any differently. I studied the way I should of studied it found teachers studied with them became the best at what they taught and continued to venture out and study more things to add to my arsenal.

8. What’s the funniest thing that has ever happened to you when meeting women?

Funny/scary a girl pulled out a gun on me and very few people know about this. I didn’t share it I think three people know about this, the chick brought a gun because she thought I was a bad ass I was acting like a bad ass through text or whatever she wanted to hang out she came around and “so you think you’re a bad ass” and took out a fucking gun and I had to figure out how to deal with a fucking gun in, it wasn’t in my face but about to be in my face so I handled it. That was some fucked up shit haha.

9. What’s the worst thing that has ever happend when meeting women? Everyone has at least one horror story :-)

The worst thing is I got kicked out of a restaurant for harassing or something in the beginning. The manager and general manager came up I was eating and they were like “hi, I’m the manager and general manager and would like to ask you to leave.” I said “well why?” “Well we’ve been getting complaints.” “Complaints?” I thought I was doing just fine so and people were watching shit happen so that was fucking embarrassing. They said I couldn’t go back there. Fuck them!

10. What’s the worst thing that has ever happend when meeting women? Everyone has at least one horror story :-)

My greatest achievement in game? Is for me personally getting the acknowledgment of my teacher Matador and him saying that I am a master pickup artist I think means more to me than anything anybody or any girl can say because, that opinion meant more to me than anything else.

11. I read that you like to open everyone and be as social as possible. Can you explain why it’s so important to be a highly sociable person when learning to meet women?

Because if you go to the girl and say I’m going to introduce you to my friend he is very good-looking but is not social he is not sociable you can’t take him out around your friends and family and stuff that’s a turn off. You have to be we are social creatures why is it important because we are social creatures and we studying game which is social dynamics everywhere you look the word social is in there you know what I mean? If you are not social that is weird such right and for me in the question it said that I like to be social I love people I really do it’s a big part of my game I’m actually interested in people curious about them. I want to know how they work I want to know what they think the more beautiful they are the more curious I am about them naturally if they are that pretty I want to know how you see the world you know and must be different and it is different they see the world differently. It is very important to be social.

Okay, this is Arash Dibazar aka Achilles from the game much respect to Mystery, Matador, Venusian Arts and all the people that came before me check us out at http://www.seductiveinstinct.com I will change your life guaranteed.

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There is no such thing as “love at first sight”, and love itself is not good enough to maintain a kick-ass relationship! Skeptical?  The overpowering feeling that you experience when you first meet someone that you really like is infatuation, NOT real love.

Infatuation and love are very similar emotions when they begin, however they end up as polar opposites. The reason why so many people believe that they’ve fallen in love at first sight is because the transition from infatuation to true love is so smooth and discreet that it typically goes on completely unnoticed.

However, it is necessary to understand the distinction between these two different emotions if you want to have a successful, happy long term relationship.

Why? Because infatuation feels like PURE MAGIC, and love only feels like magic when infatuation is involved.

Infatuation is possibly one of the most powerful feelings that you will ever experience in your lifetime. It never tarnishes, never wears out its welcome, consumes your entire being, and is even more powerful than love itself (you may doubt this right now, but I’ll prove you wrong in a minute,keep reading).

Infatuation can be simply staggering, for lack of a better word. The best example of this is when a couple gets into a major fight, the kind of argument that can END a relationship, then they make up. For the next few days/weeks they both feel closer and more into each other than they have in a very long time.

That happens because infatuation has shown its beautiful face once again, and even though the pair really do love each other, infatuation is a stronger emotionthan love and temporarily takes a hold of them both. This is why couples who have recently broken up and then immediately get back together will describe their current situation as if “it’s like they’ve just started dating all over again, for the first time.”

That brings me back to my point about why identifying the differences between these two emotions is very important; over time love can become bland, dull, monotonous, boring, and pretty much everything else that sucks. When you think about love, think about it as a perfectly cooked steak, without any seasoning on it. Regardless of how well it is cooked, it will taste like just any other piece of meat unless you add some “spice”.

Infatuation is the spice in the perfect recipe for love. It is a necessary component for everything to work. Like I said earlier, it feels like MAGIC…goose bumps… and any of you that have felt it before know exactly what I’m talking about. Whenyou meet someone that you end up dating for a while, those first few months with them feel like avacation from life itself. You’re flying, sitting on top of the world, and nothing can shoot you down.

Nothing except for love, that is.

Don’t get me wrong, love it a great thing. I’m not trying to bash it in any way, shape or form. I’m just trying to show everyone that it is just NOT good enough all on its own. All by itself, without any of the right “supplements”, love will completely destroy you and your partner. The true key to a successful long term relationship is bringing the infatuation back around full-circle every once in a while, thus adding the “spice” and keeping everything feeling fresh and brand new again.

All that matters is that you understand when your love has hit a plateau and is starting to become dull, and DO SOMETHING about it before everything crumbles.

In an ideal world, love (the kind of love you feel for your lover, not your parents/family) would not even exist. Instead, the magic of infatuation would just continue on and not only last for the first few months of a relationship, but for the entire duration. Just imagine what it would be like if you could spend 40 years with someone and every day of that 40 years felt like the very first day.

Sounds too good to be true? Because it is. Of course the hopeless romantics out there are going totake shots at me and say “but my relationship really IS like that!”, but they aren’t fooling anyone, are they?

Every one of us that has truly been in love knows the real truth; month number 36 feels nothing like month number 3 did. It’s not just a psychological thing, it’s been proven that the chemicals in a person’s brain react differently to people they like and are “accustomed” to and people they like and are “new” to. So, even if you think I’m wrong, your body is still going to betray you and prove that I’m right.

The culprit behind all of this is the fact that an unavoidable by product of love is comfort. The twoof you become comfortable with each other, begin to get “set in your ways” and eventually routines begin to set in. Routines are EVIL. You begin to always go out to the same places, perhaps you even have a pre-scheduled “date night” every week (whoever invented that idea was a moron), and you casually spout “I love you” in a tone that expresses no REAL feeling behind it, just because you’ve become so accustomed to saying it.

On that note, let me set the record straight; telling your partner that you love them only one time every month can be much more meaningful than saying it 10 times every day, if you put that little uumph behind it that stresses the true meaning of the phrase.

Even the sex can become a routine after a while: the same positions in the same sequence, the same dirty talk, doing it in the same place, at the same time.

I know there are a lot of guys out there that just don’t care, as long as they are getting it, they are happy and satisfied. But there are other men (myself included) that would rather pass up on some sex if it is going to be sub-par. Why would I do something like that? Tension, sexual tension baby!

Healthy relationships feed off of this kind of stuff. If you pass up on mediocre sex one night, the night after is going to be AMAZING because you allowed the thoughts to marinate in both minds (remember my “steak” analogy earlier?It’s like “marinating” your sex life) and allowed the sexual tension to build up until a breaking point. And guess what comes along for the ride? INFATUATION! Just build up that tension until you are about to burst, and it ends up being like the two of you are doing it for the first time.

Anything that creates conflict seems to bring infatuation soon after. Don’t ask me why, because Ihave no idea. I just know that it happens… and it is good :)

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Eva Weisberg. Sexy, intelligent, Eastern European author and dating coach. She’s the rare kind of girl that can observe and elegantly describe her own, and other womens’ behaviours and reactions when it comes to how guys act around them. And she’s just published her first book. 

Check out her book here: ‘Get a Girl: By a Girl’

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Eva Weisberg. Sexy, intelligent, Eastern European author and dating coach. She’s the rare kind of girl that can observe and elegantly describe her own, and other womens’ behaviours and reactions when it comes to how guys act around them. And she’s just published her first book.

Check out her book here: ‘Get a Girl: By a Girl’

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Something you don’t hear very often when it comes to meeting and attracting women is, “It takes hard work and commitment”.

Quote time:

“You will find the key to success under the alarm clock”. (Benjamin Franklin)

Success comes from putting the time and effort into what you are trying to succeed at. Your success comes from getting up in the morning and focusing on what you need to do in order to be successful.

Obviously it’s not all about just getting up early. It’s more about using your time more effectively and efficiently.

There is no point getting up early if you just sit on your ass for the whole day and do absolutely nothing. That is a kinda missing the point. However if you use this extra time to learn or do something new that will help you achieve your goals then it’s definitely worth doing.

Also if you are sat around trying to find something on TV then surely it would be better to use that time to learn something new or put something you have learned into practice.

There is balance though. Recently I started a new series called Tuesday’s Timeout. It’s all about taking time out and having a rest. You can’t continually learn new things, whether that’s to do with meeting women or whatever. This is a sure fire way to end up in burnout land.

Final thought

Remember that being successful takes hard work and commitment. Make sure that you use your time more effectively and you will definitely improve quicker. However make sure that you take enough time out to relax and enjoy yourself otherwise you will get sick and tired of what you are trying to be successful at.

Speak soon,
David Black

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Eva interview:

Intro

Hey everyone, this is David Black, and I’m here today with a very special guest. Author and dating coach Eva Weisberg. She has recently published her first book, ‘Get a Girl, by a Girl’. I’ve read it, and I highly recommend it. You can find it on Amazon, both for the Kindle and in paperback form.

Not only is Eva sexy and intelligent, as I’m sure you’ll see, she also has a very rare ability to observe and eloquently describe the emotions and thoughts that go on inside a woman’s mind when interacting with a man. Very few girls are able to self-analyse like this. She also does a really mean duckface. I’ve seen it for myself.

If you’re the kind of guy that is interested in what will make an intelligent, creative, arty-type girl attracted to you, then I recommend you listen to what Eva has to say.

Questions:
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*Tell us a little bit about how you got into giving dating advice and what motivated you to write a book on the subject for guys.

*From reading your book, it sounds like you’ve seen a lot of things guys do that really puts women off. What is the worst thing a guy can do, in your eyes, when trying to attract a girl?

*If you had to name one thing a guy could do that would really impress you or make you go weak at the knees, what would it be?

*In your book you talk about giving compliments. How can guys give meaningful, genuine compliements without coming across cheesy or like a pervert?

*You also mention the importance of good hygiene. How can guys get more self-respect and take better care of themselves in this area?

*My favourite part of your book is where you mention that all girls, no matter how self-confident they appear, all have some level of insecurity hidden below the surface. How can guys get past the persona, and through to the real girl deep down?

*Where can we find out more about you and your book?
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Speak soon,
David Black

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If you can take these things on board then your ability to meet and attract women will skyrocket.

#1 – Get Some Style

Go out and get a decent haircut. Go buy some clothes that really suit you. You need to make sure that you look the part because it will give you that edge over the competition.

Having great style shows that you care about yourself and the way you look. If you care about yourself then you are more likely to care about the her. She will find this very attractive.

#2 – Get down the gym

Now I don’t mean you can get into shape in one day. What I am saying is either start going down the gym or get down there and do some exercise if you already do.

Remember you don’t have to go down the gym, you could start exercising at home. Or you could incorporate exercise into your daily life, like cycling to work.

Being in shape has the same effect as getting style. If you care enough about yourself to put your body through torture, then you will more likely care for her.

Also it’s been know that women find guys who have a certain body index to be more attractive than other guys. Find out what body index you are here: Adonis Effect

#3 – Start Learning a new skill

As with above, I am not expecting you to learn a new skill in a day. What I am saying is why not start learning a new skill right now?

Learning a new skill is all about improving yourself. This is always attractive to women. Also you might one day be able to use said skill to demonstrate higher value. My main man Preston Blain has done this many a time with magic. I personally have used my skill-set with a guitar to make a few ladies hearts melt on a couple of occasions.

However remember that you should learn a new skill foremost because you enjoy it, and only secondly because you want to impress the ladies.

#4 – Approach a girl

Go out and talk to a girl today. Being able to approach women is obviously the first step in building attraction. If you are unable to approach a girl then you are fighting a losing battle.

The thing is, you need to just go out there and go for it. You can learn all you want about getting confidence to approach women, or the best ways to approach women, but in the end you just gotta go out there and do it.

Once you master the art of approaching, you are already half way to success.

#5 – Strike up a decent conversation

Being able to hold a conversation with a girl is also very important. Once you have approached her, you need to be able to talk to her long enough to build attraction.

When ever you you get the chance today, whether it be at work, at a pub, or wherever, try and strike up a decent conversation with someone. Realise that you are capable of this skill and that if you done this with a girl you have just approached then you are on to a winner.

#6 – Listen to some Paul McKenna

By this time you are probably thinking “Yes this is all well and good, but I lack confidence”. Well maybe you could try something different such as a Paul Mckenna book with acompanying hypnosis CD.

Now I am not gonna ram this down your throat, all I am going to say is that this shit seems to work pretty well. I know Preston has used it a lot and I have done too, to great effect.

#7 – Give up porn

A lot of guys say they haven’t got enough time to try the above suggestions. With today’s busy lifestyle it can be difficult to find the time to do something new, be it a hobby, the gym or whatever.

But, there are surely things that are not beneficial to your life that you could drop in order to make time. For example, watching porn. Watching porn is something that can consume a large amount of time and has very little intrinsic benefit to your life.

Or maybe reduce the amount of TV that you watch. If you limit the time doing something that has no real benefit and instead spend time doing things that actually have a tangible benefit to your life, then you will improve with women much more quicker.

Final thought

Take the above points on board and actually take action on them and you will definitely improve with women. The great thing about these as well, is they are great fun and you could start them right now. There is no excuse.

Speak soon,
David Black

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I’m a Ph.D.clinical psychologist with 37 years of experience. I’m a practicing clinician and not an ivory tower academic. I’ve presented at national conventions and been a regular on television in our local market. I’m the author of Relationship Boot Camp.

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Hey guys, being good in bed is important. It’s not a necessity but can help to improve your relationship with a girl (be it your girlfriend or someone you just met) in a big way.

If you have read ‘Who Is Preston Blain?’ you will know I lost my virginity with an escort. I explained to her why I had chosen to lose my virginity in this way. I told her how I didn’t have the confidence to have sex because I thought I would be bad.

What I forget to mention in the post above was how I read a lot on how to be good in bed – motivated by my fear of not being any good. I also took very basic steps to improve my ‘lastability’ including buying a fleshight about 6-7 months before I lost my virginity.

Feeling more confident

Although this made me feel more confident than I was before, I still did not feel as though I could have sex with some random girl who I just met on a night out. So the escort was the way to go.

Once I had finished having sex with the escort, we sat there and talked. I asked her to be as honest as possible about my performance and surprisingly she seemed to be pretty genuine in her response.

I was expecting her to say, “Yeah you were the best I have ever had”. You know try and boost my confidence. Instead the response I got was a little different. She said, “I was good for my first time but did cum quite quick”.

Bearing in mind that I was nervous and very excited at the same time (she was bloody hot), I knew right then that sex was not an issue. Ok, I was not amazing, but I also realised that I should not have been worried about bedding women. Plus, I knew the first time was not going to be my best performance.

What did I do then?

Well firstly I started doing some proper research into being good in bed. I knew I could improve on my current level and so can you. Having good techniques in bed comes from, excuse the pun, hard work.

The main thing I realised is being able to last long is not the most important thing (though I did work on that factor). Instead I focused on something that can make you better in bed and something you can do without the need for an erection at all: Putting the girl’s pleasure first.

Focusing on the girl and what gets her going will turn you into a sex god. Use your fingers and tongue. When I say tongue I mean both for speaking sexy to her as well as stimulating her physically. You need to find out what gets your girl going and then do it.

I had been seeing my current girlfriend for 6 months before I gave her an orgasm. She had never orgasmed with a guy before so it took us a little while to crack it.

Worth the effort

However the extra effort to do this was worth it big time. Firstly seeing her having so much pleasure is one of the biggest turns-ons for me. Watching her enjoy the sex makes me enjoy it so much more. Secondly, because she enjoys the sex so much, she wants sex more often.

I remember her telling me how she use to make up excuses when she was with her ex-boyfriend because the sex was not that great. Sounds harsh but would you want sex with a girl all the time if it was crap? Didn’t think so.

As you can see, it really is worth being good in bed. Like I said earlier, it’s not a must but it can certainly help. Let’s be honest there are worse thing to do than learn how to be better in bed :-)

For a bit of fun take the: How good am I in bed quiz

If you want more information on good things to do in bed then check out: Masterful Lover. David Shade is the go-to guy when it comes to improving with women, so make sure you check his stuff out.

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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