Richard Liso is a fan of developing success skills. He also writes in his personal site about dating and attraction for men. On his site you can find advice on meeting, attracting and dating women, and also download his free “Alpha Attraction” eBook.

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It’s a basic principle of the common pickup theories and various dating gurus, that “you can succeed with women no matter how you look”.

It is, first of all, a great marketing strategy, because it’s very difficult to change our physical- natural looks, but it is much easier to sell guides and manuals about changing our behavior.

But is it really true, that a basic process such as love and attraction has nothing to do with how we look?

In this post I would like to discuss the importance of physical looks in attracting and dating women.

Scientific Support

Let’s begin with what science has to say.

Many studies in behavioral sciences have supported the approach that the attraction mechanisms of men and women are completely different. While men are mainly attracted to a woman’s physical traits, those studies have shown that a woman will be checking a man, mainly according to his masculine behavioral qualities.

I can give an example for this in a study, that checked the effect of a man’s profile photos in online dating sites.

A group of women was given several profiles of men, and their task was to rank – how attractive each man was.

The results of the study have shown that the profile picture had very minimal effect on the ranks. The same profiles, but with different photos – received the same rankings.

The study’s conclusion was revolutionary – what the women focused on was primarily the description that men gave about themselves, not their photos.

The Biological Cause

Evolutional-Psychology is an approach that attempts to explain psychological and sociological processes by following the human evolution.

Using this approach, a common way to explain the differences between men and women is to go back thousands of years ago, when human beings used to live in tribal communities.

These were hard times for humans. Surrounded by dangerous animals and rival tribes, and being short on resources – the chances of survival were low. In order to give birth and take care of her baby, a woman needed a strong man to protect and support her.

Regular, “nice guys”, were simply not good enough for survival. A woman needed a strong man, preferably the tribal leader or one of his friends.

Women didn’t care about looks or beauty in men – they needed a masculine powerful man. In our ages, women can survive without being with such “alpha man”. In fact, a “nice guy” could be a great partner.

Nevertheless, women are still affected by the same mechanism that was carried through their genes for thousands of years. They want the strong guys, not the nice ones.

You should be lucky then. While men are naturally interested in a woman’s physical looks (this is also explained by evolutional psychology), women are mainly interested in your behaviour. And behavior is usually easier to fix.

How Do Confident Guys Look Like?

When you meet a guy who’s successful with women, it’s easy to see something different about him. You can usually see that women will love this guy within seconds.

 However, it’s not really his physical looks that matter. So what is it that’s makes women fall in love with these guys?

Well, Attractive men have a unique way of looking at people with their eye contact; you can almost smell the arrogance in their behavior. They are full of confidence and you can easily see it in their natural posture.

They aren’t afraid to do “unusual things”, they have an attractive body language, and they even dress in a way that immediately attracts attention.

Sometimes, working out at the gym can give you some points, but that’s not the big deal about attraction.

Successful guys simply behave differently.

Final Words

Most men spend their time and money on workout plans, buying new clothes and perfumes, taking care of their hair (and shaking to death if they seem to begin balding), and more.

However, it’s time to admit that our physical looks have very little effect on dating success.

Richard Liso

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BUT, if you do any one of the following 10 things, women will lose their attraction for you faster than a fat bitch who sat down too fast. Yes, that is an Eminem reference.

So without further ado, let’s get to the LIST…

1. You’re the real life Jack Horner

If you don’t know Jack Horner then all you need to know is that he sat in the corner. I use to be one of these guys who use to sit in the corner of the room to afraid to talk to anyone.

This makes you look unsociable and not very confident. Women who see this type of behaviour will pick up on it straight away and before you know it you have very little chance of being able to pull a woman.

So get the fuck out the corner and start mingling with hot women. You need to make sure that you interact with girls. By doing this you will become naturally more attractive. Not rocket science eh?…

2. “God, she is the most perfect woman I have ever seen”.

If there is more of a demonstration of putting women on a pedestal then I would like to hear it. If you put a female on a pedestal then you are setting yourself up for failure.

By doing this you are saying that she is better than you and that you would be the lucky one to have her, rather that the other way around.

You need to start seeing yourself in a different light. You need to be the one who is the catch, not her. This will show that you are confident, self assured, decisive, etc. All the things that make women attracted to men.

3. “Ummm… Hi… Ummm… How are you… Ummm…”

Saying um is probably one of the worst things you can do. Whilst at school one of the only thing my English teacher taught me (I learned the rest when I started blogging) was not to say um when talking.

There are 4 main reasons why we say um[1]. They are:

* It’s a habit in normal speech.
* It’s a way to hold the floor.
* It’s a nervous habit.
* We are afraid of silence.

What you must realise is that these all demonstrate a lack of confidence in your ability to talk to other, as well as thinking what you are saying is not worth their time. These two things will make any girl lose attraction in you.

4. “I knew you were going to do that.”

Being predictable and boring is a turn-off for any woman.

Now you don’t have to be Mr Impulsive and keep doing random shit all the time. Instead you should try not to get caught into a particular “boring” routine.

Women want a guy who they can depend on as well as someone who is going to be a little spontaneous and exciting. Again this is why the bad boy is so attractive. He has the spontaneity to do things that are a little off the cuff, and different from his normal routine.

5. “Are you for real?”

If you are overly nice and fall into the category of being ‘Mr Nice Guy’, then you have to realise that women might not think you are for real.

Being overly nice can come across as fake. What I mean by this is will she be thinking, ‘This guy is only being nice to me because he wants to get me into bed’ or something else along those lines.

I am not saying that you have to be a twat. You want to try and show that you are just a cool guy without coming across as someone who is just overly nice all the time. Check out how to become a bad boy for more information on being bad but still treating women well.

6. Bob the builder – “Can we fix it?”

Trying to be perfect and showing no flaws is disconcerting for a girl. No one in this world is perfect, everybody has some flaws.

Just because you have flaws doesn’t mean that you are in anyway broken and that women won’t like you. In fact it has the opposite effect because women see a vulnerable side that shows you are truly human.

She is then most likely going to try and help you to deal with this flaw because women like to try and fix problems in guys. It might be because it means that they don’t have to see the flaws in themselves.[2]

7. Is your shit together?

Cos’ if it ain’t son you got problems. Women want a guy who has his shit together. For example having a job you like, living in your own place, doing the things you like to do, etc.

Now these are not a deal breaker (I got my first girlfriend working as a customer CA and living at home aged 23), though it might be something that women may look at and just lose that little bit of attraction for you.

If you aren’t there yet, then at least showing that you are ambitious and actively taking action towards changing your circumstances for the better is a good stand-in in the meantime. Ambition, passion and drive are all attractive qualities for you to demonstrate.

Being independent of your parents and having a job that you love and are passionate about are the sort of things that are completely in your control. Therefore you should strive to get these things sorted as well as trying to learn how to attract girls.

8. She don’t like your genes boy

Let’s just clarify, we aren’t talking about a pair of Levis 501s here. Though if your jeans are grubby, ripped and look like shit then maybe it is the reason she don’t like you ;-).

We are talking about genetics. It’s important to understand women are strongly motivated to ensure that the children they have will have the physical and psychological traits necessary to survive and to be able to reproduce successfully (Looy, 2001)[3]

Therefore you need to be able to show that you have those qualities. If you don’t then the chances are, women are not going to find you very attractive as a possible mate.

9. Your Paranoia kicks your Confidence’s ass…

If you have never seen the British sitcom ‘Red Dwarf’ then you should check it out cos’ it’s fucking hilarious. There is an episode where the main character, Lister, has his paranoia and confidence become real-life people. It shows him what these two sides of his personality are truly like, and that both, taken to extremes, are self-destructive.

Let’s focus on paranoia. If you are always on the cautious side then you are never going to take the leap and get a girl to go out with you. You also will probably never do anything really cool and a little dangerous because you will be too worried about what might happen. Women like guys who take the world by the scruff of the neck and get shit done.

A good example is riding a motorbike. If you always worry about what might happen then you will most likely never take your test. Riding a motorbike is attractive to women because it has got that whole bad boy stigma attached to it.

10. “For god’s sake please touch me…”

You don’t make any physical contact with women. You are the sort of guy who finds it hard to hug women or make the first move physically. This makes them think you don’t like them, and fills her mind with self-doubt. This… is bad.

You need to be able to show that you are capable of making the first move toward taking the interaction to the next level. Very rarely will the women do this. Don’t try to rely on it. That’s for suckers.

If you don’t do it, then there is a good chance that the girl will lose confidence, and interest in you and you will be up shit creek without a paddle. From your talk she thought you were confident – back it up with your actions too.

Final thoughts

Is it worth trying to furiously go out and meet someone just for Valentines Day? Probably not. It’s just any other day really. But maybe you recognised yourself in a few of these points. Maybe it makes you realise you need to get your shit together.

Don’t fret. There are many ways to improve with women. Learning to be more naturally attractive around women will help you be that guy they want to spend time with. Check out Death Of Game right now to learn how to be more naturally attractive.

Speak soon,
David Black

Resources

1. ^ Why you say ummm when you speak – Speaker Confessions
2. ^ 12 Reasons Women Can’t Stand Nice Guys – Your Tango
3. ^ Evolutionary Versus Social Structural Explanations for Sex Differences in Mate Preferences, Jealousy, and Aggression – Personality Research

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Learning how to be the bad boy seems to be a very popular subject when it comes to getting girls. Especially in today’s society where we seem to be exposed to these so called bad boy types all the the time.

You see them constantly on the news, some macho, cocky, arrogant sort that seems to be playing women for fools. Yet women still love these guys because they are attractive in so many ways.

I wrote an article a while back detailing how to become a bad boy. If you haven’t read the article then I highly recommend that you check it out. It will give you a good starting place to learn how to be the bad boy that will have all the women chasing after you.

Today I am going to discuss a few more things that I have come to realise make up the bad bad boy that women will love. These are things that women find so appealing about the bad boy mantra.

One quick thing

As well as going into this in the article I linked to above, I think it’s something that needs repeating as it’s very important. Here is a quote from that article:

“At the end of the day, being a bad boy doesn’t mean you need to do some crazy, dangerous or bad ass stuff. It don’t mean you need to treat women poorly or with no respect.”

Being a bad boy is not about being mean on purpose, or treating people badly. Here at Social Masters, we believe that you should always treat people how you would like to be treated yourself.

However this does not mean that you can’t be a bad boy, it just means that you need to think about what you are doing before you actually go out and do it. Here is a quick list of the things from the other article so you can recap what we are talking about.

Confidence

All bad boy’s are confident. You need to believe in yourself and truly feel and act like you are god’s gift to women. This needs to be done without going over-the-top and coming across arrogant (which can sometimes be a very fine line).

Sexually switched on

Being comfortable around women whilst getting sexual is very attractive. Showing that you are not afraid to take things to a sexual level and showing you know what you are doing will make women want you.

Don’t care

If someone does not like you for the way you are then who gives a shit. You don’t apologise for the way you are because that’s who you are. In this life you will come to realise that not everyone will like you, so there’s little point in trying to act differently to please others.

Don’t take crap

Women love trying to test you. If you give into these tests then you are just a chump like 90% of guys out there. You need to take control of interactions and relationships and be the dominant alpha male.

Mystery

Women love mystery, so make sure you keep her guessing. Don’t lay your cards on the table. Don’t always give straight answers to her probing questions.

Desperation no-no

You can’t come across as desperate. Women will pick up on this and lose any attraction they might have felt for you. Instead you need to get them wanting you more than you want them.

Ok so that was a quick recap. If you want some more detail check out the original article here: ‘How to become a bad boy’.

A few more key characteristics

Here are a few more things that we can add to the list in order to make ourselves more attractive to women:

Availability is scarce

You don’t want to seem like you are always available to women. Bad boys tend to be short on time because they are the sort of guys who have places to go and things to do. They are doing cool things such as going rock climbing or getting into shape by hitting the gym.

If you always seem to have the time to meet up with women, or are always hanging around women constantly, it may come across as if you have nothing better to do and that you are just vying for their attention. This can come across badly.

However you need to have a fine balance though. You need to at least spend sometime around the women you want cos’ otherwise they might get the impression that you are not interested in them.

Caring too much is bad

Firstly lets get one thing straight. I am not telling you not to care. Caring is a good thing and you should care about the things that matter to you. Things like family, performing to the best of your ability, doing well in your career, etc.

However I am talking about the sorts of things that can be irrelevant. Caring what others think of you even though they are not important in your life. People are always going to judge you no matter what you do. However only those who truly matter to you are important opinions. The rest are worthless.

Also try to stay calm and don’t get too rattled if bad things happen. I particularly find this hard to do, but I know from talking to others that accepting things will go wrong from time to time is just the way of the world.

The bad boy attitude might be associated with those who don’t give a shit about anything. However in my humble opinion, I believe that even that baddest of bad asses have certain things that they care about. They just don’t waste time caring about things that don’t really matter.

Don’t seek approval

You should not seek approval from others. If you have a strong set of values and beliefs then this should be relatively easy.

Being a bad boy is all about doing what you believe is right because of your values and beliefs. You don’t stop doing something because others judge you on it (unless of course it’s illegal or wrong in some way). Instead you know what you want to achieve in life and you stand up and grasp it with both hands.

Be strong emotionally

Being able to deal with things emotionally is very important. If you just result to complaining, whining, etc then you are not really a bad boy.

For the most part you need to be able to deal with bad situations (including rejection) without it affecting you to bad on an emotional level. You don’t want to have something like a girl saying no cause you large amounts of stress.

However bottling things up that are worthy of a release is a bad thing. If, for example, a close family relative passed away, then it’s ok to cry. I consider myself a bit of a bad boy, but if one of my family or a close friend passed away then I would be in floods of tears.

Remember being strong emotionally is not about stopping yourself from getting upset, but knowing when it’s appropriate to show emotions.

Getting your appearance sorted

Wearing dull boring clothes is not going to make you look like a bad boy to women. Although style is not as important as attitude, if you want to pull of the bad boy look, then it’s time you got some bad boy clothing.

Obviously you need to be aware of what things suit you. There is no point where something that is considered to give you the desired look of being a bad ass, if it doesn’t suit your style. If you need to learn how to wear the right clothes then check out: Seduce with style. It will help you find the right clothes for you and then you can wear the ones that make you look like a total bad ass.

Also get down the gym and get into shape. Take the film titled ‘Bad Boys’. Will Smith is a true bad ass and you only have to look as him to see this. This comes down to his style of clothing and also the fact he has huge muscles.

Become a leader and be decisive

I have already written an article called ‘How to attract girls’. This article covers the main aspects of why we need to have the qualities of being a leader and making decisive decisions. It’s something that alpha males have been doing since the dawn of man. Time you did the same thing.

Final thoughts

There you have it, how to be the bad boy women will love. Reading this and the article how to become a bad boy, you should not only improve with women but also in all aspects of your life. These things are important for success not just with women, but success in everyday life.

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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Whoever she is, you’ve come here to find out how to work the magic that will convince her that you’re the most awesome guy since Justin Bieber’s better-looking cousin. You want to know how to get the girl of your dreams to like you. And I’m here to tell you the secrets to get the girl of your dreams…

I’ve got some great resources and techniques to share with you on how to get a girl to be attracted to you. Here we go:

Talk to her

If you really like this girl then talking to her is key. You have seen this girl enough to know that you want to take things further and to do that talking is a must. You want to be interesting and attractive to her by telling cool stories, like how you went rock climbing on the weekend for example.

You don’t just want to talk to women, you also want to be a good listener. Women like guys who can listen so it’s worth lending your ears to the conversation as well as your mouth. It’s crucial though, not to let her dominate the conversation and have it become an outlet for her life.

Flirt with her

Flirting allows you to demonstrate to her that you are interested without being too upfront. Flirting is about showing the girl that you are playful and fun to be around. You will be able to demonstrate that you are an attractive man. This will be cause them to be attracted to you and there will be nothing they can do about it.

Check out: ‘How to flirt’ for more information on perfecting your flirting.

Show confidence

Women like confident men. Even if you feel you are shy, you still have the potential to be confident. All guys have this potential, you just need to learn how to demonstrate this to the rest
of the world and this one particular girl.

If you don’t believe me, then imagine a time when you were doing something that you were really good at. Maybe playing the guitar in your bedroom or cooking a meal for some friends. If you were confident doing these things then once you learn to be good with women you can experience the same confidence.

Make sure you check out: ‘How can I get a girl if I lack confidence’

Plenty more things you can do

The above points are a good starting point for you to start your campaign of attracting this girl.

For more information on how to get the girl of your dreams, here are some more articles that you should definitely check out. These will help you learn how to get the girls you want:

* How to attract girls
* How to approach a girl
* How to get a girl in 8 easy steps
* 7 Ways to get a girl using style
* How to get the girl 10 top tips

Final thoughts

I want to give you some ‘tough love’ and let you in on a secret that may not be exactly what you want to hear but will help you in the long run. Ready?

That girl isn’t special.

Ouch. Sounds pretty harsh doesn’t it? Yeah I know she’s attractive. Maybe you have noticed something about her that few other girls possess – the way she looks, or that cute way she smiles.

The truth is, the most attractive guys – the ladies men if you will – these guys hardly ever get the time to develop a ‘crush’ with one girl in particular.

They know their efforts are better spent improving themselves and becoming more attractive to all women.

So if you have asked the question how to get the girl of your dreams to like you, then it can help to devote time to becoming better with women in general. Don’t dwindle your time trying to please one girl. Instead work on yourself and becoming amazing with women. One of 3 things will most likely happen:

* You get good with women and get the girl you wanted.
* You realise that she is not actually your dream girl (high possibility) but who cares cos’ you got the skills to meet other women.
* You get good with women but don’t get the girl. However you get other girls and one day you do find the girl of your dreams.

All happy endings, but with one key point. You get good with women…

Speak soon,
David Black

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Due to human biology, women can’t choose who they are attracted to. Women tend to be attracted to a certain type of man and that is what makes some men very successful with women. If you want to get her to chase you then you need to:

Take control

Women don’t want guys who are easily controlled. You have to take note that women are just not attracted to men who are like this.

They are not attracted to men that they can easily control because attraction is based on guys who make decisions and lead from the front. If you are quite happy taking orders off women, then they will most likely use you like a doormat, with the implied notion of intimacy perpetually dangled just out of reach.

So in order to get a girl to chase you instead of chasing after them, you need to change the way you think about attracting women. You need to take control of your life and learn to become more attractive by being and doing the things that attract women.

Remember, you are always in control of your life. It’s up to you to become more attractive and thus get girls to like you.

Why are bad boys so popular?

It has always been a fact of life that bad boys are good with women. Why? Because they demonstrate so many key things that are attractive. If you want to find out more then I suggest checking out: ‘How to become a bad boy women will love’.

You need to believe that you are becoming a bad boy that women cannot control or figure out. This will increase your chances of attracting women. You have to realize that women will not be engrossed to men that are way too good to them. It is best to do something that is far more subtle. You have to learn all the techniques that complement this bad boy mindset.

Sometimes this can seem counter-intuitive. However if you are currently a nice guy and keep doing the same thing over and over and you are still not getting results then maybe it’s time you try something different. Remember, I say this a lot so get use to it, that the definition of insanity is doing the same shit over and over and expecting a different result.

So if you really want to learn how to get a girl to chase you, you need to start thinking differently to what you are right now.

If you read the article above about becoming a bad boy, then you will know that I am not talking about being a dick to women. Women deserved to be treated well, however there are key factors that you must demonstrate in order to be attractive to women.

But reading that article again, I realised that there are a few things that can be elaborated upon. Now I will be posting an article soon to add to it and hopefully I will add a link here when it’s finished and posted.

However there is one thing I want to go into great detail right now. I consider it to be quite a key concept when it comes to learning how to get girls to notice you and thus learning how to get a girl to chase you. If you can get a girl to notice you and likes what she sees, then there is a good chance she will want to be with you.

A key concept

Whilst writing this article I thought of a good example of from a great film that demonstrates one of the key factors when it comes to being truly attractive to women.

I remember watching the scene and thinking that the way he handles the situation is great. Also when you consider what the one scene entails, being able to remember what seems like such a tame scene in the film.

I am talking about ‘127 hours’. If you haven’t seen the film then check out IMDB to see what all the fuss is about.

Now in the film there is a great scene where he interacts with two girls: Kristi and Megan. During his interaction he does everything that will make a woman want to have sex with you there and then without even trying.

He is not trying because he is just being that person. At one point we hear one of the girls (I can’t remember which one) say something along the lines of “We didn’t even figure in his day”.

Now bear in mind that he has spoken to these girls, he has agreed to meet up and thus there is a distinct possibility that he will get laid and yet it still is not the most important thing to him.

That my friends is the key concept.

Getting laid is not the most important thing to him because he is this awesome guy. He does amazing things, demonstrates that he is of the highest value, does what he wants and gives them an experience that the girls will most likely remember for the rest of their lives.

A word of caution

Although he demonstrates some great qualities, the lead character Aron Ralston has some very poor qualities. For example being reckless is extremely risky behvior. Let’s be honest if you have seen the film then you already know the results of being reckless.

If you haven’t, then you should definitely watch it because you can learn a lot. Not just about what you should do, but also what you should avoid doing as it it can lead to bad results.

Final thoughts

If you are looking for effective methods on how to get a girl to chase you, you simply have to change your attitude towards them. Most guys believe that being mister nice guy will help them to get women into bed.

This however is not the case. Now like I said earlier, you don’t have to be a c**t, however you do need to demonstrate some of the key qualities that make women attracted to men. This includes having the same qualities of Aron and being someone who is fucking cool and doesn’t let women get the upper hand on him by basically having other more important things in his life.

Check out these articles for more info on how to get a woman to like you.

* How to attract girls
* How to get a girl to notice you
* How to get the girl: Top 10 tips

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If you are looking for an effective way how to get a girl to notice you, there are many ways that you can use. Every guy out there wants to get noticed and wants to feel appreciated by other people, especially girls.

If you are wondering on how a simple guy can get a girl to notice you, there are effective ways that can help in order to be more noticeable to girls. I am pretty sure you would want to be noticeable to girls in any given situation. Having the ability to get girls in many situations is very appealing I am sure you will agree.

Looks are not important as important as you think

Most guys think that the only way you can get a girl to notice you is by looking similar to Brad Pitt or George Clooney. In fact most guys think the whole premise of how to get a girl comes down to the way you look. This is not true. Yeah, they are going to turn heads, but mainly that’s because they are famous rather than their looks making them irresistible.

But even if you don’t believe me and still think looks are important then stop and think. You can’t control the way you look. There really is no point dwelling on it so you need to find other ways to get a girl to notice you. You look the way you are and that is final. However there is a factor that is related to the way you look that you can control 100%

What is this factor you can control?

Well one of the ideal ways in order to get a girl to notice you is to improve your looks and groom yourself. It really is not important that you are exceptionally good looking, but you need to make yourself presentable.

You have to take note that girls will notice within seconds if you are properly dressed for the occasion and have hair that is well groomed.

Trust me, if you look like a hobo with a an unruly beard and clothes that don’t really fit then you might stand out, but for all the wrong reasons.

You need to make sure that you have groomed yourself to the best of your ability. You need to make sure that you dress to impress. These are things that women will notice more than your looks, because it’s something that you can control. If you make the effort to look after yourself and your appearance then it says a lot about you as a potential partner.

One last thing you can control is your physique. Getting into shape and having a great body is always going to help your chances to get that girl you want to notice you.

The next thing you need to know about how to get a girl to notice you is:

Having a skill-set

As well as making sure that you are groomed well, you also need to make the most of your skill set. Having things that you are good at is a definitely one of the better ways to get a girl attention.

It is great to utilize your skills since not every man out there might be able to do the same cool amazing thing as you. This allows you to really stand out from the crowd.

Everybody has a skill. If you can’t think what yours is, then you are probably not thinking hard enough. I know this is probably true because I use to think the same thing, even though I can do magic to a fair level of skill.

Skills are not always obvious. For example you might have great talking skills but don’t think that’s really a skill. Well if you can talk and hold a great conversation better than others then it’s definitely a skill. Take note that guys who are good in conversations will always get noticed by girls. It is a skill and if you can talk to girls well then you will definitely get girls to like you.

So take some time and find your skill. If, however, after taking some time you still can’t think of something then it might be time to learn a new skill. Maybe learn a new language. Having the ability to talk in Spanish or Italian will definitely get women to notice you.

Being different can make you stand out

Being different is always going to make you stand out. One way of doing this is to be someone who is willing to have their own opinion on something even if others don’t agree. This is a great way to get a girl to notice you.

You see most guys think that the best way to get into a girls pants is to agree with everything they say. Or to just go along with the crowd and do what everyone else does. However this is not what girls want and is not what girls are attracted to. Girls just simply are not attracted to guys who agree to almost everything they say.

They are more attracted to guys who disagree with them on some point, this allows them to think. It’s also shows that you are a true alpha male and that you are able to make decisions and stand up for what you believe in – a key principle in attraction that women find very attractive. This will help set you apart from the other guys out there.

Final thoughts

With the techniques mentioned above, you now know. These techniques on how to get a girl to notice you are proven to work and effective if you use them in the right manner. You will surely be in a stronger position to attract women.

For more on how to get girls to like you then check out: ‘How to get a girl to like you in 8 easy steps?’

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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Christmas up to New Year is definitely one of the few times that I really allow myself to pig out. Now I am not Mr strict when it comes to diet. I tend to have a fairly balanced diet that allows me to enjoy the finer things whilst still eating healthily.

However over Christmas I seem to just let any good work I might have done through the year fly out of the window. But hey it was Christmas and who really gives a shit whether or not you treat yourself a little, right?

So now Christmas is over it’s time to get into shape. Although not the most crucial of elements when it comes to attracting women, being in shape in can still give you an edge over the competition.

New Year, New Start

If you are still reading this then you obviously you are serious about getting into shape.

So how do you go about making sure that you stick to a game plan that allows you to turn your body into a finely turned machine that will allow you to dazzle the women when they grope your pecs and abs on the dance-floor, and in your bedroom?

Well first you need a plan. I sometimes go into things with a bit of gung-ho attitude where I kinda do what I feel like and see how things go.

Trust me this is not the way to go. It is so easy to not perform to your best.

Why being gung-ho is bad…

No schedule, no need

If you don’t have a schedule then you might wake up one morning and think “I can’t be arsed to run today; I will do it tomorrow”. Then tomorrow the same thing happens. However if you have a plan then you know when you should be training and by missing one session could mess the rest of your plan up. Therefore keep a detailed plan of your training. That way you know what you are doing each day and are thus much more likely to stick to your plan of action.

Bailing on the hard stuff

Not knowing what you are doing each day can also make you bail on the hard stuff. If you have put in your planner that it’s legs day and you hate doing legs, then you are more likely to pass and do something else. If it’s written down in black and white ink then it’s much harder to not actually do what you said you will do. This happens so much in the world of keep-fit. I deliberately used legs as an example because they are a horrible set of muscles to train because they are so big and thus cause the most pain. Hence why you see so many guys with upper torsos like the Incredible Hulk and yet have legs like Bambi.

Not knowing how much you have improved

This is something that I do a lot. I try and keep everything in my head which is not really ideal. Knowing exactly what you did in the last session allows you to gauge your progress and thus allow you to adapt your work out by seeing the results you achieved last time and deciding whether or not it’s time to start pushing yourself a little harder. Therefore it’s best to keep a detailed training journal that allows you to keep track of your results and then allows you to gauge what your next course of action will be.

Uncertainty on rest needed

If you are not truly aware of how much you are physically putting your body through then you are unlikely to know how much rest is needed in order to fully recover and thus allow you to train to your full potential next time. This requires serious research because it can vary massively depending on what sort of training you are doing. There are no hard and fast rules because training to increase muscle size is not the same as training to build strength. This ties in with the last point in that you need to keep a journal so that you know what you have done and therefore how much rest you need before you train again. Remember that you can split your work outs so that you can rest one part whilst training another.

Monitoring the correct thing

Most guys goals is to lose fat and gain some muscle resulting in a ripped look. However most people will measure their success by how much weight they have lost, or gained. This is a bad idea. If you haven’t trained much before then you might not lose (or gain) a huge amount of weight. This is because muscle weighs three times more that fat. Therefore if you are loosing fat but gaining muscle then you in fact might become a little heavier. The best thing to do is get a good set of calipers and measure the amount of fat that you have (your bodyfat percentage). This will be a much better indication of whether you are getting the results that you are looking for.

Watching what you eat

A huge part of getting truly into shape is eating the right food for the job. There is an old saying that goes, “Abs are made in the kitchen and not at the gym”. To become a truly lean mean sexy machine you need to get your diet under control. Now you don’t have to take part in some crazy-ass diet, it just means that you need to eat a sensible diet that allows you to train hard, but
also help you to reduce your calorie intake. This is something that definitely needs to be monitored properly so that you are aware of how many calories you are taking in and how many you are burning off down the gym.

Maybe low-carb is right for you. Maybe Paleo. Maybe a 40/40/20 macro-nutrient ratio. The point is to do your homework and choose what suits your goals and current situation.

Final thoughts

Getting into shape takes a lot of time and effort. However it’s truly worth it because you will feel better in yourself, look better and be healthier. This has some major advantages when it comes to attracting women, things like:

* Unlike men, women are generally attracted by a man’s body more than his face.
* It shows them you care about yourself and thus will care about them.
* Being in better shape will more than likely help you to perform better in the bedroom.
* Strength and fitness shows you are able to protect them and look after them.

If you are serious about having a body that women will swoon over then you might want to check out the ‘Adonis Effect’. This course has had some truly amazing results and could be the key to getting you into the best shape of your life.

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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Here is a list of what I consider to be 10 of the most important factors on how to get the girl you want. These are things you need to know in order to have more success when approaching women, when trying to attract women and to get a girlfriend (if so desired).

Some may seem fairly simple, and they are. However you can not do anything in life if you do not get the basics right. Also just remember that you do not need to be rich, famous or good looking to get girls to like you.

However there are certain things that you need to convey to women in order to have any chance of success.

Mental Attributes

These first 5 deal with the mental aspect of how to get girls to like you. In order to get girls you need to get your mental attitude correct. This is a very important aspect when it comes to learning how to get a girl:

1. Leadership

You need to take charge of any situation you are in. Whenever there is a group situation, you need to step forward and be the decision maker. Women like to be told what to do by a dominant figure.

One thing you must remember is that if you make a mistake with a certain decision then put your hand up and admit it. There is nothing worse than someone who knows they have made a mistake but won’t admit to it because they think it will make them look weak.

In fact, you will look weaker for not admitting your mistake than you will for putting your hands up and saying, “Yep I fucked up”. Although you should admit to mistakes, you don’t need to apologise for your actions if you were acting in a way that you thought was best for everyone. If you are at least trying to make the best decision possible then you have no reason to be sorry.

2. Be a decision maker

We touched on this above. It is such an important character trait to portray. We all have values in life. Find yours and stick to them. This will make it so much easier to be the decisive decision maker the majority of women are looking for. Being one of those people who let others make decisions for you is not attractive to women. You need to take responsibility for your actions by choosing what it is you want to do and not just follow others just for the sake of it.

3. Always have an abundance mentality

You need to get into the mindset that all women are in to you. For example, if a girl looks at you then looks away its because she likes you so much she is embarrassed to look. This will raise your confidence level which will make you more attractive to women on an unconscious level.

Also a little side note, don’t allow any mistakes you make in an interaction effect you. Although it’s easier said than done, you need to realise that if you do fuck up, the worst that will happen is you have to abandon the current interaction and go and start talking to one of the other million upon million of women out there.

4. Be picky and choosy

This follows on from the previous point. Once you have plenty of options you can become picky and choosy. You can be with any girl you choose and that means getting the girl you want is much more likely to happen. Women see other women want you, and this is hugely attractive. Women want men other women want.

Also because there are so many women out there, you don’t need to settle for women you don’t really want. You have so much choice out there that you can afford to be picky. Though I would recommend at least sleeping with a woman if you get the chance even if she is not your ideal girl. Don’t pass on a good thing. I know this has happened to Preston a few times when he was learning and I know he kicked himself a few times cos’ he passed up on some great opportunities :-).

5. Tell the truth

You do not need to lie to a girl to get them into bed or on a date. Everybody has a character hidden away that women will love. The trick is to bring it to the surface. In the long run it makes life so much simpler. As I always say, you need to have a great memory to be a good liar. To me that sounds too much like hard work.

One other thing, if you feel the need to lie then it shows that you obviously don’t have confidence in yourself. This is bad because it shows that you not comfortable with your own life. If you are not happy with you own life then trust me, being good with women is not going to make you any happier in the long run. For a bit, you will feel good but soon those things that made you lie in the first place will catch up on you.

Resources

To display these mental attributes you need to have a degree of confidence in yourself. If you feel however that you lack confidence then make sure you check out these articles as they will help you to achieve the level of confidence you need to be successful with women.

* Master Your Confidence With Women
* Building Confidence With Women
* How Can I Get A Girl If I Lack Confidence

Physical Attributes

These second 5 deal with the physical side of how to get the girl you want. In order to get the girl to like you, you need to master your own body. You are in control of your body and thus need to make sure that you do all that you can in order to achieve the desired results.

6. Body language

Stand tall, keep you head up, you shoulders relaxed, and arms casually by your side, and take up a lot of room. These 5 factors of body language will instantly make you more attractive to the opposite sex as you will come across more confident and dominant.

Lots of teachers out there talk about body language because it is such an important factor. So it’s worth getting down the gym and getting into shape. Not only will getting into shape make you look and feel better about yourself but it will help you have better body language because you will be stronger and fitter and able to hold your body with better posture.

Another thing you need to make sure that you also don’t slouch in chairs, make sure you use your computer at a desk that is set up correctly for you, lean on tables too much, etc. Be proactive in your actions so that you don’t build habits and thus cause you to have bad posture.

7. Facial expression

Smile, but not too much. You would be surprised how many men forget to smile because they are so nervous. Think logically. Who would you rather approach: a woman with a face like pure evil, or a women who has a beaming smile? Same thing for women. They would rather be approached by a man with a friendly smile than one looking like he is going to attack her. A smile is a subconscious, non-verbal way of saying hello.

Another great thing about smiling is that it makes you feel good and if you feel good you will probably be more successful. This has to be one of the most simple things you can implement into your life which will help you to get a girl.

8. Talking

Speak clearly and confidently. You need a good constant pace, not too fast as it looks nervous, or too slow as it looks try hard. Speak as though you were speaking to a family member. That is the sort of natural, confident speech you want.

The more natural your speech comes across, the more you look like you are comfortable in yourself and that you are comfortable talking to her. Trust me, women pick up on things like this, and they will be able to spot whether you are nervous or not.

If we go back to smiling for a second, if you are smiling then chances are your voice will come across as happy. Try speaking now with a big smile on your face and see how your voice sounds.

9. Listening

You must know when not to speak. Allow the girl to express herself as well. By knowing when to talk and when not is a good way of showing higher value.

Listening involves repeating back what she has said in your own words. This signals that you have been paying attention, and have understood what she was saying. There is nothing worse than talking to someone and getting that feeling that they either haven’t really been listening to what you have been saying. A rare thing in modern ‘ADHD’ mass-media-barrage society.

10. Show them you are of high value

Demonstrating to a women that you are of high value is one of the best ways to attract women. Teaching them something they did not know is an example of demonstrating high value that works like magic.

Anything you can do that someone else can’t demonstrates higher value. But you might be thinking the thing you can do is boring or not interesting enough. This may or may not be true, but you can help the situation by talking about what you can do in such a way that makes it interesting.

For example is you are an app developer, talking about how to program is kinda boring. But talking about the things that you have produced that have helped others or caused other enjoyment Will definitely be interesting to most people.

Resources

To help you get your body language sorted I have included some links below that should help you to achieve the above points and hopefully get you on track asap.

* Essential Body Language To Attract Women
* 7 Body Language Secrets That Attract Women
* Using Body Language To Be More Attractive

Final thoughts

I can not going into huge detail here as each of theses points could be an article in themselves (or even whole books). These however are the main aspects of how to get the girl  yo want and now you them, you can do some more research on your own.

Speak soon,
David Black

More Resources You Should Check Out

* How To Attract Girls
* How To Get A Girl To Like You
* 10 Ways To Get The Woman You Want
* How To Get The Girl You Want

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When I talk about successful people here, I am talking about people who have gone out and got success on their own. It is these people that demonstrate the principles that are so attractive to women.

Here is a list of the top 7 ways successful people demonstrate higher value:

#1 Passion

Successful people are always passionate about what they do. You can’t achieve greatness in something you don’t have a passion for. Women love passionate guys, because it shows that they care about something. In a woman’s mind they believe that because they care about certain things, they are more likely to care about them.

#2 Determination

Being determined is such a key factor in success. Determination is the ability to do something until you are successful. This is very attractive to women because it shows that you are strong willed and willing to put in the effort to get success. This includes being determined to get what you want in life. Whether that is a successful business or success with women, either way they will find it very attractive.

#3 Focus

If you are a focused individual then when you set yourself a goal all you are worried about is achieving said goal. In a woman’s eye this shows that whenever the need arrives in a relationship (such as paying for bills, etc) you will focus on getting the situation sorted. Women want this security and having the focus to make sure you provide this is very attractive indeed.

#4 Creativity

Women love guys who are creative. Being creative allows you to show a side of yourself that others might never see otherwise. Being creative allows you to add value to a girls life, because you maybe showing her something that no other guy has shown her before.

#5 Self Improvement

Nothing is less attractive than a guy who is happy just being bog standard. Women want guys who are willing to always try to improve themselves. Everyone has the ability to improve no matter how great they are and to women this is important cause it shows that you are willing to improve to make both your life and hers better.

#6 Hard work

Hard work is where most people become successful. Very rarely in life do you get something for nothing and so we need to work on it. If you are willing to put in the hard work when it comes to other aspects of your life such as business, health, etc then you are more likely to put the effort in to make a relationship work. Women will pick up on this and therefore want to be with you.

#7 Bounce Back-ability

If something goes wrong they don’t let it affect them. Instead they look at how they can overcome the problem and and logically understand what they can do to improve. With women being able to overcome problems is very attractive because you are able to handle the difficult parts of a relationship well. If something goes tits up, you will look to sort things out and therefore you can get the relationship on track. Women will appreciate this.

Final thoughts

There you have it. I think guys find it difficult to look past the fancy cars, houses and pimp lifestyles when it comes to successful people. They can’t see the above qualities that have helped put them where they are. It’s these qualities that make them attractive to women and not the possessions they have due to their success.

If you want more information on being successful, then I recommend reading ‘Fifty habits of highly successful people’ over at Life Hack.

Speak soon,
David Black

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