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The Value Of Time Episode 03

Preston — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 07:59:11 +0000

Episode 3 is a little late. This was more because of logistical issues rather than lack of wanting to do it. However here is the video showing you what I have achieved this month and a bit (damn you dsa :-).

Enjoy and make sure you learn a new skill this month or at least improve on one that you have already. There is always room for improvement :-)

Side note – For those of you who live in Gloucestershire in the UK check out: http://www.acermotorcycletraining.co.uk/. Steve Guest has a great pass rate. Me personally, I know 3 people who have taken their test after training with Steve and everyone has passed first time.

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The “Total Package” That Drives Women Wild

Preston — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 15:02:44 +0000

The world has changed, have you been left behind?

Society, glossy magazines, the Internet – all of these have combined to give women an unprecedented level of power and choice never before seen in the history of the human race.

Women are pickier than ever. Competition between males for their attention is fiercer than ever. The bar is set so high by images of square-jawed film-stars and pretty-boy underwear models. Women lust after this month’s latest teenage pop boy band, or reluctant vampire schoolboy.

It’s all about appearance. But there’s a HUGE problem…

What women ACTUALLY want, and what they THINK they want, are almost always two completely different things.

And as you guessed, I’m here to let you in on a little secret: What is it women REALLY want, but don’t even know themselves?

You see, the worst person you could possibly ask what pushes a female’s buttons, is a woman herself. Think about it: how many times do you do something you KNOW you shouldn’t, but you can’t seem to help yourself?

We all do it. Maybe in relation to eating junk food. Maybe it’s not going to the gym, even though we want to look like the cover of men’s health.

Well, I’m about to share with you one of the biggest secrets when it comes to becoming that guy that when women talk to you, for a few short minutes, they fall deeply and hopelessly in love (or ‘lust’ if you prefer ;-) with you. Even if they never would have given you a second glace walking past them on the street.

The secret is this: You need to be a certain kind of man. What I call: ‘The Total Package’

What the hell does that mean?

It means grabbing life by the balls and going after everything you ever wanted with a passion. Chasing your dreams, fighting for what you believe to be right and just. Not fearing failure, infact revelling in it. Staring the world in the face and shaping your life EXACTLY how you want it. Your stuff, on your terms.

When I was a wee lad, back in school, I lived and breathed this mentality. To me, being successful in the work you did was equated with success back then. I worked hard, I played hard. I was rubbish with women :-)

Then one day it dawned on me… What exactly was the point in getting good grades, going to a posh, elitist University and working your bollocks off, to come out the other end with a mountain of debt and be tied to a desk working for the man the rest of your life?

My motivation to succeed crumbled overnight. I stopped turning up for classes at school. Teachers would phone my parents to ask why I hadn’t come to school that day. I would lay in bed till late in the afternoon, trying to escape the reality I had come to despise. I was in a bad place.

This lasted into University. I had done enough groundwork to get into a fairly well-respected course at Bristol, inspite of not going to school much for my last year (I did turn up for the exams, reluctantly I might add).

Two years down the line, I was at rock bottom. I was on a course I didn’t like, heading towards a career I didn’t want. I was, for all intents and purposes, depressed.

But then, something happened (bet you never saw this coming, right? ;-) I met a few key people, read a few books, made a few changes…

And all of a sudden, BOOM. I had a new found purpose. I knew what I wanted to do with my life. I knew what the point to everything was again. I had my passion back.

I got more shit done than ever before. Rewarding, fulfilling stuff. Stuff that made a difference, not just to me, but to other people too.

I had become ‘The Total Package’. Almost by accident, I had applied myself in several key areas that had increased my happiness and fulfilment (and ATTRACTION TO WOMEN) exponentially.

Pickup gurus always talk about social value. Rockstars, actors, politicians, business leaders – all are high value, and innately attractive to women. Well, to put things in those terms, the idea behind being the Total Package is to have so much VALUE that it is spewing forth from every action and sentence, oozing from every orifice of your body.

So much so that women want you without you really trying to impress them. It becomes nearly effortless. You just do some of your ‘normal everyday stuff’, and they swoon and scream like teenage girls at a boyband concert (ok maybe not that mental, but you get the picture).

As for specifics, here’s a few key examples from my life that I have found great benefit from investing a little bit of time and energy into developing a certain level of skill in doing:

(I’ve included a few relevant links to various stuff I’ve used or found on the web that I think you’ll find to be the cream of the crop in regard to mastering some of these areas and skills.)

Style

The three biggest physical things you can change to be more attractive to the ladies are: your clothes; your shoes; and you hairstyle.

Women see a stylish, well groomed man as someone who has high value, and ‘knows what he is doing’. Whereas style blunders and ragged unkemptness (unless obviously deliberate like Russel Brand, for example), as something that makes a man look unattractive and a bit clueless.

In her mind it goes: If he can’t get his clothes and hair right, how can he possibly have any of the rest of his shit together? It may sound judgemental and harsh, and it is. But that’s the way of the world, no point crying about it, we just need to embrace it and act appropriately.

For a great resource on style, check out: Brad’s Fashion Bible

Physical training

The second biggest thing a man can do to improve his physical attractiveness is to get in shape and pack on some muscle. I used to be pretty weedy when I was younger. Then I started weight training and packed on 30lbs+ of muscle mass.

All of a sudden, women would come up to me in clubs and touch my arms (something that had NEVER happened to me in my life before). The women at my job said things like, “Wow Dave, you’ve got really beefcake, I love it.” My girlfriend loved it, she said it made me more manly and ‘grown up’ looking (i.e. less like the scrawny little boy I was before). Bottom line, I got more attention and interest from women without even trying.

If you’re looking to get into training yourself, I recommend checking out: Adonis Effect

Martial Arts / Self Defense

Can you ‘handle yourself’? If you were out with a girl and someone pulled a knife and tried to mug you, would you be able to respond to the situation, deal with the attacker, and protect the girl?

If you can, a woman will lust over you. And you won’t have your wallet taken. Bonus ;-)

Seriously though, women love a guy who they feel safe around. Someone they know can protect them. It gives them that warm fuzzy feeling. They adore it. If you can be that man, the protector, then it’s just another string to the naturally attractive bow.

I’ve been a student of martial arts for only a couple of years, but the increased confidence it has given me on the streets, and the obvious curiosity from women when it gets mentioned in passing has already had a huge effect.

If you’re looking to get into martial arts or self defense, I highly recommend: Commando Krav Maga

Guitar

The next three topics are all about performance of some kind. Women love performers. Think about it: in a room of a few hundred people, all eyes are on the performer. They are god.

I’ve played the guitar since I was 16 years old. Don’t let that put you off though, the beauty of the six-stringed little beastie is that ANYONE can learn to play it, and be good enough to play for people at a party or around a campfire within only a few short months.

The key is to pick some songs you like and just start to learn them. Anything, from Kings of Leon or Radiohead, to Bob Dylan or Johnny Cash, you’d be amazed just how EASY a lot of songs are to play with a bit of practice.

If you’ve ever played for a crowd, no matter how small, you’ll know how much attention this will get you from the ladies. They sit transfixed, and you give them the gift of emotions through your playing. This is a truly powerful, ancient, biologically-embedded way of communicating that transcends normal spoken conversation. Bottom line: women LOVE it.

For a great resource on how to get started with guitar, check this out: Learn the guitar now

Singing

The perfect companion to guitar. Being able to sing as well as play takes your performance’s effectiveness (in terms of attraction) to the next level.

Play and sing a powerfully emotional song to a woman, and watch her heart melt all because of you. It’s an incredible, powerful thing.

Like guitar, I believe anyone can sing. I didn’t think I could until I was about 23 when I started to focus on breathing a vocal technique.

If singing is something you want to learn or improve, check this great resource out: Learn To Sing

Magic

This is a new one for me, but an old one for my friend (and business partner) Preston. He’s been learning magic since he was a teenager, before anyone on the ‘pickup scene’ had heard of mystery, or levitated a bottle in a club :-)

I used to be sceptical that magic would even work on girls in real life. To me it seemed gimmicky and cheesy. But then, Preston told me he knew a few tricks, and I suggested we test it next time we went out.

Well, I ate my words that night. Bar after bar, group after group of girls were going wild, just from some card tricks Preston was performing. I couldn’t believe it. The reactions I was seeing were very strong (emotionally). The girls were obviously MASSIVELY into it.

That’s when I decided that I wanted to learn magic too :-)

For an awesome resource on integrating magic into interaction with women, I recommend you check out PUMA Skills by my good friend Brad Jackson. He teaches some of the exact same techniques Preston knows and has taught me. You can find it here: Puma Skills

Self Improvement

As I have been banging on about forever, women want a man who ‘has his shit together’. They want a man. Not a boy.

They want someone who knows what he wants in life, and knows how to go about getting it. They want a man who grabs life by the balls and gets shit done.

If you want to be this man, you gotta check out a great, great site by a hero of mine, Steve Pavlina. He’s been a huge inspiration and mentor to me for many years. Find him here: Personal Development for Smart People: The Conscious Pursuit of Personal Growth

Human Psychology

If you want to rise to the top in anything you do, you need to understand how people work. This is especially true in a meeting women / dating scenario.

So much of what people do is controlled by our emotions, our complex reward circuitry in our brains, and our bodies. We think we are in control, but alcoholism, drug addictions and abusive relationships tell a different story.

I read a lot of books, perhaps twenty to thirty a year. Amongst all these, one book stands out as helping me understand how people function more than any other…

That book is Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. Read it, study it, live it. I don’t say this very often, but it will change your life.

Find it here: Emotional Intelligence

Peak performance / Mastery

As I always say, if you’re going to do something, you might as well do it to the best of your abilities.

Have you ever stopped to consider how you learn a new skill? You could call it your ‘skill acquisition’ skill. Or meta-skill.

The thing is, we’re all so busy just trying to get the skills in the first place, that hardly any of us stop to think that maybe there might be a better, faster, more efficient and effective way of going about learning how to do something.

Think about it this way: If you could improve your ‘skill-getting’ abilities so that you could master something in half the time, I means you can all of a sudden now learn how to do twice as many things in a given time period as you could before. Sound useful? Hell yeah it does.

The book that got me started on the path of learning how to improve this area is called ‘Mastery’ by a guy called George Leonard. It’s a book that teaches you how to learn something, how to master it.

Another one of those, ‘it changed my life’ books. Don’t believe me though, see for yourself here: Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment

Leadership

Women love leaders. With leadership comes power. Power has been called ‘The ultimate aphrodisiac’.

You don’t have to become president to experience the effects of leadership though.

Leadership can be as simple as deciding what you’re going to do together with a girl this weekend, sorting it out and making it happen.

Remember what your parents were like when you went on holiday as a child? How they decided where to go, planned the transport, came up with loads of cool stuff for you to do as a family that was fun.

That was leadership.

Getting your attitude to money sorted

Are you broke all the time? Do you have thoughts like, “I can’t afford that.” when you see something you really want?

I used to be exactly the same. In fact, I used to hate money. It was a strange thing.

I kinda wished money didn’t exist. I thought it was a necessary evil of the modern day. Yet, when I held money, or someone gave me money (as a birthday gift for example), I felt great, happy.

You could say it was a dysfunctional relationship ;-)

What I realised, what that my whole attitude to money was holding me back from having the things I wanted, not in a materialistic way, but in a logistical, essentials-of-life way.

Let me explain. I was too poor to have a car, so I couldn’t get around. I was too poor to afford my own place, so I lived with my parents. Not the best for bringing high-class women back to.

I was unknowingly sabotaging myself in more areas of my life than I care to remember.

Until I got my attitude towards money sorted. Then things really started to change for the better.

I did this in dribs and drabs over the course of about 18 months or so, but guess what? Other people, far smarter than me, have gone through the same thing and distilled their knowledge and experiences down into something that can sort out your attitude to money in a MUCH shorter timespan.

Now I’m not saying you’ll be driving a Lexus up your mansion drive overnight, but the information out there is powerful to say the least.

Starting a business

This goes hand-in-hand with sorting your attitude to money. If you’ve ever been at your job and had that sinking feeling of, ‘why am I doing this? I come in every day and work, but what am I actually getting out of it other than my monthly paypacket? Isn’t there more to life than this? What the hell is the point of it all?’

I had these exact same thoughts. Then I read a book called Rich Dad, Poor Dad. And I realised what I had been missing all this time.

I wanted to start my own business. You work each day on something that could provide for you and your family for the rest of your lives. You make money whether you turn up for work or not, even when you are asleep at night. This was a powerful concept that really opened my eyes to what was possible.

And what you’re reading now is part of this. This site, this blog. Just one of the many things I’m involved in as an entrepreneur.

The Internet is by far and away the best place to start a new business. But you probably already know that. The reasons are many: minimal start-up costs, powerful free tools available to create websites, simple payment and shopping cart options that can be configured in a few hours.

Anyone can get started today, but it’s a jungle out there in terms of advice. There are a lot of snakes; many charlatans looking to sell you the dream and take your money but then don’t deliver on promises. I know, it’s happened to me on more than one occasion.

Sexual Mastery

It’s one thing to get a woman into bed. It’s quite another to give her the night of her life and make her eager to come back for more :-)

If you can make any girl orgasm any time you sleep with them, then don’t read any further. If not, you might want to go check out my mate David Shade’s site over at: David Shade

Speak soon,
David Black

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Online Dating Tips For Men – Top 10

Preston — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 12:23:19 +0000

Online dating tips for men is becoming much more mainstream these days. The Internet has become the new way to communicate in all aspects of your life, including dating.

So here is some dating tips for men to help you achieve the results you want when it comes to meeting women online.

1) Being honest

It is so easy to lie online. I mean you could put just about anything in your profile and the other person won’t be none the wiser. Until you meet in person that is, and they realise your ‘6 foot, athletic’ body is more like ‘5 foot cheetos muncher’ :-)

If you do that, you may encounter a few problems. So to avoid this, make sure that you are honest about, your looks, your body, your personality, your likes and dislikes, etc. If you are not, when you meet up she might not be interested. Why? Because you fibbed in your profile and emails. The trust is gone before you even had a chance.

As a quick side note: If you don’t like the way you look, change it. You’d be surprised what a decent haircut and packing on a bit of muscle will do for a guys’ attractiveness to women. Both are things within your control too.

2) Make sure you use a great picture

Women are not into looks all that much in real life, but when it comes to online there is a little bit of “What does he look like” syndrome. However it’s not about them thinking is he hot or has he got a great body. It’s more to do with making sure that you don’t look creepy, weird, boring, etc. Best thing to do is put your pictures on something like ‘Hot or Not’ first. You can get your pictures rated and you can then use the ones with the best ratings as rated by women. Simple pre-tested content.

3) Have an interesting profile

The best online dating profile advice I can give you, is to be interesting. Very few girls out there are gonna be interested in a guy who profile reads, “I live at home with my parents, wear spandex when I am relaxing and am always looking to level up on World of Warcraft”.

You don’t have to be the most exciting guy in the world but every guy has a lot of interesting characteristics that they could put in a profile. Take a look at yourself and pick out all your great qualities. You will have them you just need to put them into words.

4) Be mysterious

Hold stuff back. I don’t mean being like some top secret agent who discloses nothing. That would just be weird. What I mean by mysterious is hold a few things back and don’t disclose everything about yourself straight away. A little bit of mystery is very attractive and shows there is more to you than first meets the eye. Never a bad thing.

5) Go For Her Number Pretty Quick

Try not to get stuck into a long term online relationship. Emailing a girl is great, however it’s not gonna go anywhere if you don’t try and progress things along. Therefore you need to make sure you try and get the girls number. Obviously not something you ask for in the initial email you send. But I do recommend you ask for her number on the 2nd or 3rd email. If she doesn’t give you her number then exchange a few more emails and then ask again.

6) Email Specific

Make sure you are specific in your email to the girl you are contacting. For example when you send the first email make sure you comment on something about her profile. By doing this it shows you have shown interest in her as a person and not just the way she looks.

7) Don’t Email Stalk The Girl

You don’t want to send her email after email after email. If you send an email and she doesn’t reply then be cool. Maybe she got flooded with emails or has not had access to the Internet. If she still has not replied after 4-5 days then send another email. If you don’t get a response to this email then you are best off leaving it. Don’t waste your time as it’s too valuable. Side note; you never know but you may find you receive an email in a week or so :-).

8) Asking For More Pictures

If you are gonna ask for more pictures then do it in a respectable way. Don’t fall into the same trap as so many other guys do and ask for inappropriate pictures. Such as the girl in her lingerie, swim suit, a skimpy outfit, etc. Maybe ask for some photos of her in cool situations. Say I gotta make sure you are exciting enough for me or something like that. Make it a bit of a fun challenge and she is much more likely to do it.

9) Be Prepared To Stick It Out

You have to make sure you are ready to commit to the online dating scene and be prepared to stick it out. As with normal dating, it’s not an exact science and therefore you need to be prepared to keep up the effort. Make sure you keep sending out the emails and responding to any emails you receive. The hard work is done up front by setting up your profile, don’t let that hard work go to waste.

10) Lastly, Enjoy

When it comes to online dating advice very few people tell you to enjoy it. Enjoy the fact that you are working towards getting dates with women. If you take things too seriously then you are going to find yourself in a worse position than when you started. At the end of the day if you don’t enjoy something you should not be doing it at all. So enjoy the thrill of sending and replying to emails and don’t get despondent if a few girls don’t respond because it will happen at some point.

So there you have it, some online dating tips for men. If you have never given online dating a try then take this online dating advice on board and give it a crack. If you have already tried it with little success then why not give it another go using these free online dating tips and see how you get on.

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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Failure Really Is The Key To Success

Preston — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 13:28:07 +0000

A few months ago I wrote an article entitled ‘Double Your Failure’. As the title suggests it’s about how you need to ‘fail’ a lot in order to learn and become more successful.

Well I stumbled across this great quote and I wanted to write an article around it. It’s such a great quote which I feel you can use to learn why failure must come before success. From this failure you can learn to be better at interacting with women.

“Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that’s where you will find success.” – Thomas J. Watson, former President of IBM.

Steady on I hear you cry. I don’t want to fail at all. Failing is painful.

Firstly, if you don’t want to fail then there is no way you can improve.

Secondly, failure is a huge part of life. You have experienced failure from a young age. However you have used this to improve in every aspect of life. But probably never even notice.

Think about children when they begin to learn to walk. They stand up, start to walk and then fall over. They get up again and try once more. This time they do a little better but once again fall over. Once again they rise to their feet and try again.

Through this they learn how to walk. They are learning each time from the failure they have experienced the time before.

Unless you were some child prodigy you too will have experienced the example above. You will have learned from failure and through this you have learned to walk. The same can be said for learning to talk and many other things.

So when you go out and meet women you need to make sure that you use any failure in a positive way. The main reason for this is because you will fail. At some point or another you will fail.

Instead of feeling bad, look at it in a positive way and use what has happened to learn. You need to realise what you have done wrong in a particular interaction so that you can make sure you don’t make the same mistake in the future.

In short: Failure is your friend. Make sure you treat your friend well when he pops up to see you :-)

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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The Value Of Time Episode 02

Preston — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 20:45:09 +0000

The second video in the series showing you that if you make better use of your time you can improve your skill set and become more attractive to women.

Here I tell you how I am getting on learning the guitar and what I am going to do next. Remember you can follow suit and use your time more effectively to learn new skills and thus become more attractive.

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How To Get A Girl Who Has A Boyfriend – It Can Be Done

Preston — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 17:36:52 +0000

Accidentally approaching a girl who already has a boyfriend can be easily done. Knowing how to get a girl who has a boyfriend isn’t always so easy :-)
Picture this: You just happen to notice her form across the bar, walk up to her and start chatting away. You start thinking the two of you have made this connection when she says, “I have a boyfriend!”

Let’s be honest here. If a girl is attractive enough, then there would be a high chance that she is already has a boyfriend. At this point, some guys would think it would be more wise to move on: why try and pursue someone who is already happy right? However, there are also some guys out there who have difficulty getting that particular girl out of their head.

Whenever someone asks me this question, I simply reply with one question back. What is it about her that makes you attracted to her? You should ask yourself this question before you even start thinking about pursuing her. Is it because there is something about her personality that you find intriguing? Or is it just because she’s already has a boyfriend it makes it more exciting for you?

If it is because of the thrill-factor, then it would be best to leave her alone and move on. It just makes you look devious and underhanded to a lot of women and it would just appear you’re just looking to ruin her relationship and looking for trouble. If it’s because of her personality the best attitude to have is not to go about breaking them up, but rather take it upon yourself to convince her that she would be a lot happier with you.

But how do you that?

This ain’t an article about break up advice, but instead tips on how to get a girl who has a boyfriend that don’t involve you having to deal with the relationship break up if you are successful. You don’t want to try and get her to break up with him with sneaky underhand tactics. Instead you want to prove that you are a better guy and would therefore be a better person to go out with. If you achieve this she will break up with him naturally:

Have conversations with her

This one always sounds easy enough to do, yet so many guys tend to get it wrong. Whilst you are talking to her, the first thing you need to do is to see whether you and her have anything in common. If you do want to flirt with her, make sure it is very subtle. At this stage, you wouldn’t want to be mistaken for a player otherwise she would lose interest. Fast forward to the future now: after a series of conversations together, you need to be able to build a connection and trust.

There are two ways of going about this. You can either steadily steer the conversations towards her relationship and (more importantly) the problems with it until she feels comfortable confiding in you. Or you can talk about your previous experiences with her. By doing this, you appear open and honest about your past as well as making her feel relaxed about talking to you about her relationship.
What’s her ideal guy?

Once you’re able to have conversations with her about her relationship, you now need to find out what qualities and values she is attracted to in a guy. Ask yourself questions like does she prefer a guy who is intelligent? Is she attracted to a guy who has a good sense of humour? What qualities doesn’t she like in a guy? The reason why this is so important is because you’ll have to prove to her that you can be that guy.

You would also need to think of ideas and scenarios that can let you show her these qualities. Whether that is by making her laugh when she is having a bad day, or by doing activities together to show off your fun and spontaneous side to your personality. It is important as well to make sure that both of your values/qualities are compatible. This makes it that little bit easier for the pair of you to know that you are going in the right direction, without any misunderstanding.

Remember she’s in a relationship

If you do want to spend some time with her, you need to make is clear to her that you’re asking her to go out as friends. She would feel a little uncomfortable if she assumed it was a date. Talk about the female friends in your life. She will be left feeling curious about you; and it shows her you have qualities that are attractive to other women.

Be like her boyfriend, but different.

This has to be the golden rule when getting a girl who already has a boyfriend. Aim to become the upgrade she wants to have. Don’t make the mistake of comparing yourself to her boyfriend. Follow the principles taught here and you will be more attractive, and a ‘better choice’ naturally.

What to do when her relationship is struggling

With everything else in life, relationships have their fair share of disappointments as well as their enjoyments. If you start to notice that she is going through some tough times in her relationship, the best thing to do is either invite her round to your place or somewhere close by. This gives her time away from the boyfriend as well as the relationship to breathe and time to think the situation through properly. Don’t talk about her boyfriend, instead focus on having an amazing time together. This will make her realise what she could have.

So the big question to ask yourself is this…

Next time you come across a girl who already has a boyfriend, would you want to pursue her or would you rather move on from the experience and spend your time with other women that are single? Least you know how to get a girl who has a boyfriend, so you can make an informed decision.

Bye for now,
Natasha May

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Top 10 Things Not To Say To A Girl In Bed

Preston — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 15:34:15 +0000

There are certain things that us guys don’t want to hear in bed. The dreaded “Is it in yet?” springs to mind. However us guys are not the only ones who can be hurt by a tounge that has been let loose without due care. There are certain things that you should not say to a girl in bed, unless you really want her to gtfo double-quick.

Remember guys this is for comical purposes only. Take it with a pinch of salt and enjoy:

10 – “Gravity ain’t your friend.” (in reference to her taking off her top and showing you her saggy boobs)

Insulting a girl about her boobs is just not the thing to do. If a girl took the piss out of our manhood we wouldn’t be happy, and it’s the same with her boobs.

9 – “That was nice.”

Here’s the thing. A muffin is nice. Puppies are nice. Your own mother is nice. Sex should not be nice! It should be spontaneous, brilliant and the best you ever had! Not nice…

8 – “My ex never complained when I did it like that.”

No, she just left you.

7 – “That’s it, take it for Daddy.”

Unless your first name is Snoop, or you know she is into this sort of talk, be careful. Some girls could get really offended if you deliver this line with anything but a perfect playful authority. She wants to feel like a princess, not a whore.

6 – “From that angle you look just like my mum.”

Oh my god… wtf

5 “We should definitely turn the lights off.”

Implies that she is ugly, or you are very insecure. Either way, I don’t think she will be best amused.

4 – “Let’s make this quick, the game is about to start.”

Obviously you have got a Death wish. When you’re having sex, women want to feel like they are the centre of your universe. There’s nothing wrong with having other interest besides her, but not during sexy time.

3 – “It’s nice being in bed with a woman I don’t have to inflate!”

It’s good to be honest, but some things are best left as secrets.

2 – “No, really… I do this part better myself!”

Ouch… harsh. Just imagine fingering a girl and think you are doing a great job. Then she suddenly stops you, removes your hand and says, “To be honest I can do this better myself”. That would hurt wouldn’t it…

1 – “You’re good enough to do this for a living”

Wow, you are saying she could be a prostitute. Every girl’s dream… oh wait, why is she running away after setting my house on fire!?!??

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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The Skill Nobody Talks About

Preston — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 11:31:53 +0000

Picture this scenario…

You meet a girl, you hit it off big-time and end up going back to hers. You sleep together. Next morning you chat for a bit and then leave. Three days later she sends you a text, something like, “Hi, the other night was fun…”

Everything seems hunky-dory right?

WRONG!

What seems like a friendly and easy-going text from her was really the result of three days of
heartache and worry. She was most likely feeling depressed and rejected after you two hooked up.

But you didn’t know. Your initial success is now crashing and burning quicker than a flaming Hindenberg, but how could you possibly have known what she was going through? It’s not your fault, right?

WRONG again!

In order to remain in control of a situation like this, it is crucial to be aware of the emotional factors in play.

In other words, you need to understand *how the girl feels* at any given moment. Not just in this situation, but in any situation you may find yourself in involving you and a female of the species.
This is a skill, and it has a name. It is called ‘empathy’.

Empathy is the skill of being able to understand how the other person is feeling in a situation. To know what they are going through, their emotional state.

It’s really easy to overlook empathy as a useful skill. It’s often an example of ‘you don’t know what you don’t know’.

Don’t let this fool you though. The difference between a keen sense of empathy and little empathy is often the difference between success and failure.

Why empathy matters

If you are able to know how a girl is feeling at any given moment (or at lest have a pretty good idea), then you will be able to handle any situation that may arise that involves the two of you.
For example, in our scenario earlier, if you had realised that the girl would feel rejected by you not texting the next day, you would have known to send a text, and thus avoid any of the ensuing drama.

How to have more empathy

Having more empathy is more a change in mentality, than something you have to learn how to do.

All you need to do is imagine yourself in their situation. Think, ‘If I was this person, how would I feel?’

This subtle shift is all it takes to have more empathy.

Give it a try next time you are interacting with a girl. Ask yourself how you think she is feeling. You can try this on female friends, work colleagues, or even family members. Imagine how they feel, and then ask them. Talk to them about their feelings. See if you got it right or not.

After a few weeks of doing this, you will develop a feel for things. Almost like a ’sixth sense’, you will have successfully ‘calibrated’ as they say. And you will be well on your way to a deeper understanding of the female brain.

David Black

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Naturally Attractive: Think Again!

Preston — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 17:15:38 +0000

I am sure at some point you have wondered “Why don’t women want to go out with you?” or talk to you for that matter :-).

But does this mean you are not naturally attractive?

We have all been there and I am sure like me you have questioned whether or not you are an attractive man.

Personally I believe everyone has the potential to be naturally attractive. The problem I feel comes more down more to how you portray yourself to women rather than whether or not you are attractive.

Could it be that you already are attractive, it’s just that you don’t portray it to women?

This is a very important question to ask yourself. When I was younger I believed that I couldn’t get women cos’ I wasn’t attractive. When I talk about being attractive I don’t mean looks I mean personality.

I know this because I have been told I am a good looking guy and yet I couldn’t get a girlfriend. I was puzzled why I couldn’t get a girlfriend because I thought it was all down to the way you looked. This made me feel worse cos’ it was kinda saying that I look good but my personality must suck balls because I still couldn’t get a girl.

This was not the case. I mean I am a genuine guy, I go to the gym, I can perform magic, etc. I was actually an attractive guy, I just needed to know how to get it across to women. Only then they could see the sort of guy I am and that’s when I became more attractive to women.

Take a look at yourself from someone else’s perspective

Take a step back and have a look at yourself. When you look at things from a someone else’s perspective you realise that things are more rosy than you first thought.

It’s easy to look at everyone else who has what you want and think that you are in the worst position. Yet other people like work colleagues or friends have different opinions. Problem is they will never say it to your face because that’s the way life is.

Have you ever been in that situation where you are talking to someone about someone else. They were like, “Yeah Tom’s an awesome guy, always makes me laugh with his antics”. They will say it to you and others, but won’t say it to the person who they are talking about.

You need to look closely at yourself from a neutral standpoint and pick out all of the qualities that you posses and then make sure that you display these qualities to others, especially women.

What does this mean?

There are probably a number of times when people have talked about you in this way but obviously won’t say it to your face. Therefore the chances are you are a naturally attractive guy who people like, you just need to show this to women that you talk to.

What should you do now?

Instead of changing who you are because you think there’s something wrong with you, instead put yourself out there. You may find that you do need to take a long look at who you are but the only way you will find this out is to put yourself out there.

If you are already a great guy then you need to just improve the way you interact with women. I think most guys are going to find themselves in this position. Why? Because we all have great qualities. Your father met your mother and had you. Therefore you will have a lot of his qualities. If he was able to find someone to be with then you have the same opportunity. That’s just the way life works. It’s natural.

Continual Improvement

You may realise once you have put yourself out there that you may need to do a little work on becoming a more attractive guy. Sounds harsh but then again life is harsh. If this is the case then you should check out “Death of Game” which will help you become more naturally attractive to women. That’s right no need for crazy Memorised Routines, Unproven Theories, ‘Game Playing’, etc.

Speak soon,
Preston Blain

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The Value Of Time Episode 01

Preston — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 16:05:28 +0000

This is just a short video to hopefully make you realise that your time is valuable and that you should make the most of it.

Make sure you watch the whole video so that you know what I am going to be doing over the next few months. You may even want to give it a go yourself.

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