If you’ve ever wondered how you could find the time to travel the globe, meet exotic foreign women, and have a bunch of awesome stories to tell your mates, then you might want to take a look at the latest article on my blog, written by a friend of mine Steve Scott, who is somewhat of an expert, seeing as he is touring around Europe as you read this. Check his site out here: Steve Scott Site

He’ll explain how you can have this lifestyle by sharing some killer tips & insights as to how he can travel for most of the year without worrying about money or other problems back home.

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Have you ever felt like you needed to know every possible reaction to every possible scenario when it comes to approaching women and attracting women.

Yeah? Well you’re not the only one. It a man thing that we play out the options in our head constantly before taking action.

Well, this is a bit of fun. This is what it would be like when we go out, if we did everything with military precision…

My two wingmen and I were preparing for a special covert mission: Operation Slaptickle.

As the name suggests, this operation involved a night on the town picking up women.

It’s all about having the right gear to survive a night out. Enemy troops (that’s women to you civilians) lurk around ever corner ready to put up resistance. We had every game plan and military tactics personnel could provide (ebooks, Cds, DVDs, all off the internet).

Suddenly my wingman shouted out, “This pick up malarky is bone!” (definition of bone – bollocks, naff, not very good). I think he was losing faith in the effectiveness of our strategy.

“Watch your mouth soldier,” I hollered, “we need everyone 100% ready to meet and attract women tonight.”

“Sorry sarge.” He replied.

I finished briefing the lads. We had spent nearly twelve hours deliberating over things yesterday. You can never be too careful when creating a plan of attack – the enemy is clever and devious. They will employ tactics gained over many years of experince to shoot you down as quick as possible. The way to get around this is to be prepared. As a soldier you can never be too prepared.

We got kitted up: Jeans – check, shirt – check, shoes – check, smellies – check.

Fall into line. This is it. Saddle up. “Stay frosty people” my words ring out over the comms.

Just as we are about to leave, I realise that I have forgotten an integral part of the plan. We have no backup plan for the backup plan.

“Ok soldiers. Before we leave we need to come up with a backup plan for the backup plan.” The men look strangely relieved.

Better get a brew on, it could be another long night of preparation and analysis…

“Sir permission to speak,” my number two pipes up.

“Granted,” I reply.

“Every time we are getting ready to go out we think of something to learn. Would it not be best if we actually went out and attempted a pick up for real?”.

Silence. Only the sound of the kettle boiling nearby. The boy’s got a point…

Learning how to talk to girls should not be that hard. When you approach, meet and attract women it should not need precise military action.

Most guys who learn this stuff and plan every minute detail like a military operation tend to never even get out and try it. This is ‘paralysis by analysis’.

They become so concerned with what might happen and what could be done to avoid it that they never go out and do it.

It’s at this point you realise that there is no substitute to learning to pick up girls than getting out into the real world and trying it for yourself. Yes by all means learn techniques. But once you have some techniques down, go out and try them.

If all you have learned is how to approach a girl, then go out and do so. If you get to a point where you struggle for what to do next then go home and learn the next part.

Many guys have great knowledge of attraction, bodylanguage, female psychology, but never go out and try anything. They know what to do at the beginning the middle and even the end of an interaction, but never get anywhere because they don’t ever get to start any interactions.

Others learn little and try it out. Then learn a bit more. The feedback from this experience creates a positive feedback loop where they are compelled to learn and try more.

So get out there and put something you’ve learned to work. And remember: you can’t fail, you can only learn.

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Yes I know what you are thinking, why would I tell you to check out other blogs when you are reading the best one already ;-)

Well because I know that knowledge is value and there are so many great blogs out there that it would be a crime not to check them out.

I have just done a quick update of the blog list so it’s up to 146. However there seems to be million and one new blogs out there so over the next couple of weeks I am gonna spend a little time here and there updating it.

So expect an explosion of blogs to get on to the list over the next few weeks. Also anyone who wants there blog added to the list drop me an email at comments@social-masters.com  with your website address.

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You might already know I’m a big movie buff. I’ve taken my near-encyclopaedic knowledge (yeah right) and written you a blog post about some of the greatest film characters who are awesome with women. The great thing is, you now have an obligation to sit down and watch these great films, not only cos’ they are awesome but also because they can help you become better with women. Pretty cool, huh?

Let’s get to it then and see if you agree with the list. If not feel free to leave a comment on who I have left out and why they should be in the list.

10 – Peter Gibbons in Office Space

I am really hoping everyone reading this has seen this film, especially if you have worked in an office. If not, then go and watch it you will not be disappointed :-). The main character Peter Gibbons, goes from this guy who lets everyone walk on him to this bad ass who won’t take no shit off no-one. It’s this take no shit attitude combined with, ‘I don’t give a f*ck what people think of me’, that get him the girl. He is like a nice bad boy. What I mean by this is that he demonstrates a lot of the bad boy qualities without being an asshole or being disrespectful to women. Check out the article ‘how to become a bad boy’ for more information on achieving this attitude. All that is left to say is he is very cool.

9 – Agent 47 in Hitman

The girl in this film absolutely falls head over heal for him. Why? Because he is mysterious and he also doesn’t show any desperation for the girl. Ok, so maybe he doesn’t know exactly what he is doing, but you can still take some lessons from this guy. Being mysterious is a trait to incorporate into your life. Also, being spontaneous and unpredictable is very attractive. As for desperation, that’s one of the biggest turn offs for women. Wanting a girl more than she wants you isn’t a good thing. You need to be able to control your desire. Having plenty of options is a good way of doing this. Remember, one girl isn’t special. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so there is no need to crave one girl.

8 – Stifler in American Pie

Your probably best to take the best character traits of Stifler and use them to be good with women and leave the rest well alone. Let’s be honest Stifler does have some very very annoying traits :-). However he also possesses the skills to meet and attract the opposite sex with alarming regularity. He is confident, not just in his day to day actions but also when it comes to demonstrating sexual wants and needs. I have always said that being confident can overcome a lack of skill with women. Check out ‘building confidence with women‘ for more information.

7 – Detective John Maclane in Die Hard

There is no way you can exclude John Maclane. The guy oozes sex appeal and he shows some excellent traits that make him very sexual. The biggest one is being the reluctant hero. He doesn’t really want to save the day, but at the end of the day his high values won’t allow him to sit back and do nothing. Having values defines you as a person. If you believe strongly enough in something, no matter how tough it may seem to achieve, you will do your best and strive to achieve that goal.

6 – Captain Jack Sparrow in Pirates of the Caribbean

Some might think that ye old Jack is a bit of an ass hole. He is not exactly trust worthy or reliable. Well, you would be right. Scrap them qualities. However he does have a charm that makes him irresistible to women. Something he possesses is the ability to say anything, no matter how horrible, and make it sound ok. You could compare him to the ‘Cocky funny’ mentality in the pickup world. It’s this ability that allows him to say whatever he likes to women and still have them swooning after him. This expression sums it up perfectly, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it”.

5 – Stanley Kowalski in Street Car Named Desire

The character portrayed by Marlon Brando was the first real character in film to have female audiences falling in love with him. Even though he was abusive to women. Go figure.

Seriously though, if you remove the physical violence, you can learn a great deal from this character. He is very strong willed, dominant character who women can’t help but fall in love with. You can show this strong willed and dominant character by going for your own goals in life and not letting anything stop you. No need to lay a finger on anybody. :-) He is also tough on the outside, but shows his vulnerabilities to women. This makes women melt. (Important Caveat: Social Masters does not condone violence or abuse of any nature).

4 – Bruce Wayne in Batman

Bruce Wayne is totally awesome. A rich playboy who has a deeper personality than most would think. It isn’t just sunshine, naked ladies and parties for this babe magnet, though he does have his fair share [Editors note: Just so you know I am not jealous, well not much anyways]. His brooding expression and desire to bring justice make him very desirable to the opposite sex. But what’s the real lesson we can learn from this? Well obviously that dressing like a bat turns women on, which is why my Batman costume is in the post.

3 – King Leonidas in 300

If being a Spartan is not cool enough to get you laid then I really have no idea what is. Sprayed-on abs and all.

In spite of the airbrushing though, this guy is the epitome of leadership. He has to make decisions that may result in the death of hundreds and yet he does it with ease. If he can make the toughest of decisions with no hesitation, then you can make decisions for a group on a night out or whatever.

Also, his physical stature is very attractive. Women do like a nice body but that isn’t the reason why he trains. This guy needs to be like this in order to achieve his goals in life. To achieve greatness you must be first willing to put the effort in. Delayed gratification is key. In today’s society being in tip-top shape physically isn’t just attractive to women cos it looks good but because it shows you look after yourself. If you look after yourself, then there is more chance you will look after her.

2 – Jack Dawson in Titanic

This guy shows that you can meet and attract any women without the need for money, fancy clothes or any other materialistic things. What he shows is great personality and confidence. This guy is charming, fun, witty, smooth and generally pleasant to be around. He is bold in his actions and is not afraid to be himself. I mean come on he teaches her to spit properly, which demonstrates high value. Ok not the greatest skill in the world, but a skill none the less that he teaches her. He also demonstrates high value with his drawings.

1 – Tristan Thorn in StarDust

Tristan at the start of this film is a complete push over. In fact it would be fair to say he is a complete and utter chump at the start. He also suffers from what is known in the PUA world as ‘oneitis’. However during his journey out into the big wide world he soon realises that he needs to become a real man and not act like a little boy anymore. He becomes mature, level headed, determined, a protector and a bit of a bad-ass. This is why Yvaine falls in love with him in the film and why women watching the film love his character so much towards the end. Because of who he has become. He also realises there are more women out there and so loseses that ‘oneitis’ that plagued him from the start of the film.

Special mention: Dr Henry Jones Jr (aka Indiana Jones) in Raiders Of The Lost Ark – I wanted him to be in the top 10 but alas he did not quite make it. Indiana Jones has got to be the coolest teacher in history. Someone who is attractive to women because he is smart and exciting/dangerous. And he’s HARRISON FORD for fuck’s sake. He’s knows you love him, even when he’s being frozen in carbonite.

There you have it. The top 10, well you could say top 11, film characters who are awesome with women. Watch the films, enjoy the films, but also improve your interactions with women at the same time. Very sweet indeed. Enjoy.

Speak soon,
David Black

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Yeah you have got to have balls of steel to do this, but I like to make this blog suited to both experienced guys as well as beginners. So if this little tip is something you find a little too challenging then by all means come back to it sometime in the future. The near future hopefully… :-)

This is by all means not the only way to get a girl to dance with you. However I do believe it’s very effective and if used correctly can cause immediate attraction towards you from the women you are going after. Plus if it works you suddenly find yourself dancing with the girl you want.

I bet you are keen to know how to get a girl to dance with you when she is already on the dance floor. You have probably been in a situation in the past where you wanted to dance with a girl, but just didn’t know how to go about it without looking like a fool.

Well it’s quite simple really… you start dancing, when you see an attractive girl you want to dance with, you go up to them, take their hand and spin them towards you and start dancing with them.

Yes it’s scary if you’ve never done it before, but it works like a charm.

And if she doesn’t want to dance with you (this is the rare exception by the way). She will just not spin round when you lead her hand. Turn away and find the next girl you want to dance with. No great shakes.

See when it comes to getting a girl who is already dancing, you can’t stop her and talk as she won’t appreciate the interruption to her having fun.

Instead you need to match her energy levels. She’s already dancing; you’re already dancing.

By taking her hand and spinning her around straight away you are making it abundantly clear that you are dancing with them. She won’t be thinking, “Is this guy trying to dance with me or what”. You are being a dominant leader, and most girls will follow that lead.

The good thing is, women love men who know exactly what they want. They especially like men who know what they want and just go for it. So by doing this, you demonstrate qualities that women love. If you wanna learn more about about value then check out how to demonstrate value.

Straight away you’re coming across as a confident guy, someone who won’t let anything phase him. Women love guys who are confident. I have said it before and I will say it again: confidence is a very attractive trait to demonstrate to a girl.

So now you know how to get a girl to dance with you if she is already strutting her stuff. Next time your on the dance floor and you want to dance with a particular girl then give this method a try. It’s a bit ballsy yes, and may be a bit intimidating, but just give it a go and see how you get on.

There is no failure, there is only feedback.

Speak soon,
David Black

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This week, we have a special treat. A good friend of ours, Marni from Wing Girl Method has kindly written an article for our little site. It’s great to hear a female point of view on things, and Marni has some unique insights I know you’ll get a lot out of. Enjoy, David.

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Ahhh the age old question that man has been attempting to answer for centuries. What turns women on? As a woman I am flattered that men continue to conquer this quest. I really am. So I want to do you a favor and tell you the answers to the more important question. What turns women off?

A man has the ability to win or lose a woman in a matter of seconds. SECONDS! That means that every time a man approaches, he must be on his A game. That is, if the end result he desires is getting the girl.

Here is a list of some basic’s that men have done to me and my girlfriends that have turned us off in seconds:

1. Not making eye contact or making too much eye contact

I hate it when a man approaches me and can’t hold eye contact. He looks around the room and not in a calm way but an awkwardly nervous way. This to me spells insecurity which means NOT MASCULINE ENOUGH FOR ME. On the other end of the spectrum, there are some men who have intense eye contact that freaks women out. The best way I can describe is that it feels like they are forcing their eyes to look at me and at the same time it looks like they are trying to suck my brain out of my nose.

The best way to make eye contact is to soften your brows, make sure there is at least a foot and a half of space beteen you and the women and softly lock with her eyes. You can break away but for moments, I actually recommend it, then connect again. If you can add a small smirk or smile to this it will be a deadly combo.

2. Guys who don’t listen

I had this one client of mine. So cute, great personality, very comfortable in his skin but when we started to do mock picks ups he would freeze up and go into robot mode. While in robot mode, he would recite his set dialogue, which was fine, BUT he did not allow me to engage in the conversation. He would say “hey how are you doing tonight?” I would start to answer and he would jump into his next question. NOT LISTENING. NOT ENGAGING and therefore NOT CONNECTING. Women are looking for something to connect to in you when you approach. It’s how we form opinions and how we figure out if we want to get to know you. No connecting = No Interest.

When you engage a woman, listen to what she says, absorb and then if possible build on what she has told you. If you can use her own words to form the conversation, she will be putty in your hands. I promise.

3. Talking about what you have

Money, cars, how much weight you lifted, how big your penis is. We could not care less about any of that stuff if you shove it in our faces and if you find girls that do, then you know what you are going to end up with. When guys start slipping in $$ amounts on how much they make or how much they spend all I can think is “this guy is so insecure, give me something a bit more real to latch onto”. Men who feel the need to pump themselves up constantly in order to impress, are the ones that have low confidence and high insecurity. Not attractive and not impressive in the long run.

4. Pouncing

I have been on many, many dates with guys over the years. I always hated it when I would go on a great date with a guy where I felt a connection and attraction and then BAM he would pounce on me. Text, email, phone calls, more dates!!!!! Too much too soon. I want a man who has a life, and I totally love it when a guy is into me, but when he puts me in front of everything after knowning me for 2 minutes it;s overwhelming and unattractive. I wonder to myself “does this guy have a life? why does he like me so much? Is he desperate? YUCK”.

5. Over revealing

This is a really important one to remember. As a woman I feel my best and most attracted when I get to feel feminine. I feel my most feminine when I am with a man who is masculine. Masculine does not mean macho but it means a male who is calm, cool, collected, comfortable and confident. True signs of masculinity, for me, are emotional control and self respect. When starting to date a man I want him to respect himself enough not to throw up on me and tell me his whole life story in the first hour of hanging out. I understand that when people get nervous they over talk or over share but this is where emotional control comes in to play. Remember that on a first date you are still evaluating whether or not a woman is worthy of knowing more about you. Therefore over sharing or throwing up your information on her can be #1 too overwhelming, #2 a big turn off, #3 a sign to her that you have no respect for yourself and you share your info with anyone who will listen. Take you time in getting to know someone and really decide who you want to share your info with.

6. Not being yourself

As one of the few women who work in the Pick Up Artist/Seduction community I am very aware of routines, tricks and tools men use to attract women. The one thing that I dislike the most about the community is that some of the programs create robots. I had this one client of mine who wanted to show me his “routine” that he learned for picking up women and wanted to know why it was not working for him. BTW he had paid over $2000 to learn this routine. He started telling me about an experience on a motorcycle and half way through I said to him “have you ever been on a motorcycle before?”, he looked so shocked when I asked and then said “no”. So I said “Then stop telling that story. You are not selling it, it seems fake and it’s so obvious that it is a routine.” Just because one line works for someone else does not mean it’s going to work for you unless you can learn to make it your own. Copying material is fine but it will only start to work for you when it becomes real to you. I know guys hate to hear it but, just be yourself. Not your wimpy self but the best version of yourself that is not insecure, has a life and knows he’s attractive.

As you can see from each of the above the common theme is to be comfortable with who you are. Once you establish comfort in yourself you will make eye contact with ease, listen for pleasure, be relaxed about your worth, respect your independece and be yourself. It takes time to find that place of comfort but once you do women will be all over you. I always say, you can’t turn a woman on until you turn yourself on!

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When it comes to sex in a relationship things are not always straight forward. Obviously guys want to have sex but things don’t always work out like that.

Most women want to have sex. I can’t say all women because not all women do. Just like not all women like shopping or going night clubbing. At the end of the day we are all different.

However what you must realise is that you can’t bargain with women for more sex. Just as with guys who think buying a girl a drink on a night-out will get them into a women’s pants, guys seem to think that they can barter for sex in a relationship.

If you take her out and buy her lots of things, then she will be more inclined to have sex with you. However this isn’t the case and nor should it be. At the end of the day you are both in a relationship together. You are part of a two man team where both parties are equal.

So how do you get a girl to have more sex in a relationship.

Having a great relationship

If you are both happy in your relationship then you are both going to want to spend more intimate time together. If you have an unhappy relationship when you are together during your normal typical day to day routines then why would she want to spend time with you in the bedroom. Try to keep the fun and excitement level high in your relationship. When you have been in a relationship for a little while, it can become monotonous. You get up go to work, come home eat and then go to bed. You need to break this by getting out and doing fun awesome stuff to keep your relationship fresh. Stuff like going ice skating, going to a theme park, going to the cinema, etc.

Sex should be about quality

Just because you don’t have as much sex as you use to doesn’t mean you have both gone off it. When you first meet a girl, sex is new and really exciting. However as the relationship goes on other things can take over. Things such as; trying to raise money to get a house together, or taking up new hobbies, or maybe a one of you has been promoted or got a new job and thus have less time. If this happens, then just make sure that the sex you do get to have is pure quality. I believe as with anything in life great sex 4 times a week is much better than bad sex twice a day. The next part shares with you how to make you sex life more interesting.

Sex has become a routine

From my own experience, women love to try new things. When you first begin a new relationship, both parties tend to be pretty happy just to have bog standard sex. Missionary position time and time again. As the relationship gets older, it seems that both the guy and the girl can become bored. Add some variety into your sex life. There are many ways to do this. Trying new positions, adding lubricants, sex toys, etc. The good thing is, as the relationship is more established you should both now be more willing to share sexual fantasies you would like to try. Word of caution: Some fantasies are best left in your head so always think before you speak.

Put the girl needs first

Trust me when I say, women love good sex. If you can make her cum more times than not then you will have a great sex life. Imagine for a second, that you had sex with a girl and she didn’t make you cum. It would not be too long before you got pissed off with it and thought “Fuck this I rather do it myself”. Well, this is what it’s like for most women. They have sex and they are left totally unsatisfied. Therefore it becomes more like a chore for them instead of something pleasurable. Obviously learning how to please a women is a subject entirely of it’s own. Therefore I am linking you to this great resource … David Shade “America’s Renegade Sex Expert”.

Final thought

I actually find sex in a relationship can be much more rewarding than new sex. Yeah the excitement is there with new sex and that never gets old (never). However if you can share some of your sexual fantasies and do to each other what you really want, then the sex can be amazing.

Speak soon,
David Black

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But what if I told you there could be a sinister dark-side to porn and masturbation, one that may be ruining your life if left unchecked? Well, you’d probably want a heads-up on the whole thing, and that’s what this article is all about.

Wanking is good for you, and normal…

Masturbation a perfectly normal and natural habit. It should be enjoyed withoutout the stigma and guilt often associated with it by society. Guys relieving the sexual tension because they have no other way to do it is perfectly normal. It’s actually proven to be healthy because it has been shown to help reduce your risk of prostate cancer. However, can it affect our ability to meet women if it becomes an addiction, especially if excessive consumption of porn is involved.

Masturbation is, by definition, an isolated activity that you do alone. You sit there glaring at the computer screen, browsing porn sites for a long period of time looking for new stuff to get your fix from. Part of you knows that this surely can’t be good for your social life, but you do it anyway, right? I know I do.

Well it blew my mind the other day when I read about masturbation to porn potentially directly causing social anxiety in men. What the hell? How can something as normal and porn and masturbation cause you to suffer from increased social anxiety?

Porn & masturbation rewires the brain

Any type of continuously repeated behaviour is going to cause rewiring of the brain, also known as ‘habits’. This is fine if kept in check but if it gets out of control it can completely hijack your thought process. That is how people get into addictions. They start to lose control of what they are doing and allow that particular activity to take over. They become dependent on that particular activity. Anything that we do in life if done in a balanced manner is healthy. However if taken to the extreme it can soon become a detriment to your health.

In the book ‘The Brain That Changes Itself’ Dr Norman Doidge explains how high levels of dopamine, caused from excessive stimuli, can cause the brain to alter. Part of your brain deals with ‘making social ties’ and thus is there to help you make friends and form relationships. However the high dopamine from porn & masturbation can cause these to change, which has a huge effect on our perception of life.

Instead of being in a situation where we want to meet others, we instead get more pleasure from fake people. This is because of the release of dopamine that happens in this situation. Soon the lure of porn & masturbation becomes even more compelling than going out and trying to meet women for sex.

Porn rewards time alone

Although our bodies are engineered biologically to find relationships rewarding – as it spreads and mulitplies our genes, somehow it just does not seem to have the same effect as hours of trawling erotic material on the web. Bottom line, porn in its modern ‘never-ending always on tap’ form essentially short-circuits our reward centre and can turn us into mindless goal-seeking machines.

The instant gratification porn provides means we are more likely to stay in and masturbate, instead of going out into the real world. This therefore isolates us even more from the rest of the world. It becomes a self-reinforcing self-destructive pattern.

Dopamine may play a role in depression…

It seems that dopamine may cause depression. When it is initially released you get a massive high. This however only lasts, while you have exposure to dopamine. The sort of exposure that may be bought about from constant drug use, or in this case frequent, prolonged masturbation.

The problem is, if you have an addiction to porn & masturbation and are therefore subjected to high levels of dopamine, you may find that you suffer from depression. Depression has a big impact on how you feel.

Why? Well, your body essentially builds up a resistance to the effects of dopamine, so your ‘base level’ of happiness and satisfaction, just in general, is subjectively lower. It also mediates social anxiety, so this increases too.

Breaking the addiction and meeting new people is made hard because of depression. Especially the symptoms such as low self-esteem, feeling irritable and intolerant of others, lack of energy or lack of interest in sex, etc. This is what makes it so hard to change your ways, because you feel bad and the only way you feel as though you can feel better is by masturbating. It’s a vicious cycle.

Often, you won’t even notice yourself doing this. You’ll just find yourself on autopilot, self-medicating by watching porn and masturbating. Realising that you are in this situation is the first step in the battle to get control back from your compulsions.

Who is most likely to suffer from addiction?

Certain people are more likely to suffer from social anxiety caused by addiction. Natural introverts are at the greatest risk. They are the sorts of people who isolate themselves away from others. This isolation often further compounds their porn addiction.

What does this mean for you?

Like I said at the beginning, porn & masturbation is totally normal as long as it is part of a healthy lifestyle. However if it becomes an addiction then it can become a problem.

Check out these porn/masturbation addiction stories to see for yourself just how deep the rabbit hole goes.

If this happens to you then there is always the possibility that you could suffer from increased social anxiety. Now I am not saying give up masturbation as it’s not to be blamed on it’s own. However if you feel like porn and masturbation maybe taking over your day-to-day life then you need to nip it in the bud fast.

The Challenge

Are you addicted to porn & masturbation? Let’s find out. Me and my main man Preston Blain have made a commitment to stop masturbating to porn for a month. Yeah, we both have girlfriends at the moment but we both still both look at porn and masturbate.

So for a whole month, no more. It’s gonna be tough. We’re going to have to find new things to do with all our new-found time ;-)

If you feel like you’re up for a challenge, see if you can follow along with us and give up beating off to porn too. And if you decide to, let us know how you get on.

Watch this space for updates on how we’re doing in this ‘porn free month’.

Speak soon,
David Black

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I was over at Bobby Rio’s blog ‘How To Make Small Talk Sexy’ and started reading a post about avoiding awkward silences. Check it out here: Tip for Avoiding Awkward Silences

This has to be one of the biggest fears for a lot of guys. If you don’t know what to say then it can feel as though you want the world to swallow you up. When I first started getting into this stuff I had many times when I had the nightmare situation of an awkward silence. I would imagine a lot of you have too. Those moments where everything is suddenly quiet, and you’re just waiting for a tumble weed to slowly roll across the screen.

I would love to write a long detailed article on awkward silences. However, I said I would spend the weekend with my girlfriend so I have had to sly off to one side and post this quickly on my iphone. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her now will it :-)

There are things you can do that will help remove the awkwardness from this situation. However I will go into the other options at a later date. Instead I just wanted to say that Bobbiy’s little tip is very effective, and is something that you should keep in your arsenal. At least if you have one option for if this situation occurs, then you are equipped to handle it with relative ease.

If you are still reading this and have not already jumped ship to Bobbies site (your my fav type of reader) then let’s go into more detail about this technique. It is all about calling out the fact that there is an awkward silence in a numerous way. Sounds simple and it is.

If you imagine, you are in a room talking to a girl and you are both having a good time. If you suddenly both stop talking and just sit there she will begin to feel very uncomfortable. She will start to feel as though the two of you don’t have much in common. This is not good for building comfort and rapport with a girl.

Doing something such as pointing out the fact that you are in the middle of an awkward silence does two things:

Firstly and foremost it breaks the silence. As I always say, “If you don’t know what to say then just say the first thing that comes to your mind”. Trust me when I say “Saying something is better than nothing”. Saying nothing is definitely going to make her feel uncomfortable. Anyone who has (which is probably most of you) been in an awkward silence situation will no it can be very unpleasant. Whereas saying something has got better odds of retrieving the situation.

Which brings me onto me nicely onto my second point. By pointing out the awkward silence, it actually gives you something to talk about. Instead of sitting there with nothing to say, you now have a conversation about the awkward silence. Maybe not the most thrilling of conversations but it keeps the interaction going and you then you can move onto something else afterwards. Most girls will find the fact you pointed amusing, it out as long as you say it in a humorous way as mentioned earlier. Definitely not a bad thing.

Ok guys gotta go. Hope this little tip helps you out and that you never need to have that dreaded feeling ever again. Don’t know what to say? Not anymore :-). Make sure you visit Mr Rio’s site to check out his article ‘Tip for Avoiding Awkward Silences‘ and leave a comment. Bobby is definitely one of the good guys.

Speak soon,
David Black

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