Here is a list of what I consider to be 10 of the most important factors on how to get the girl you want. These are things you need to know in order to have more success when approaching women, when trying to attract women and to get a girlfriend (if so desired).

Some may seem fairly simple, and they are. However you can not do anything in life if you do not get the basics right. Also just remember that you do not need to be rich, famous or good looking to get girls to like you.

However there are certain things that you need to convey to women in order to have any chance of success.

Mental Attributes

These first 5 deal with the mental aspect of how to get girls to like you. In order to get girls you need to get your mental attitude correct. This is a very important aspect when it comes to learning how to get a girl:

1. Leadership

You need to take charge of any situation you are in. Whenever there is a group situation, you need to step forward and be the decision maker. Women like to be told what to do by a dominant figure.

One thing you must remember is that if you make a mistake with a certain decision then put your hand up and admit it. There is nothing worse than someone who knows they have made a mistake but won’t admit to it because they think it will make them look weak.

In fact, you will look weaker for not admitting your mistake than you will for putting your hands up and saying, “Yep I fucked up”. Although you should admit to mistakes, you don’t need to apologise for your actions if you were acting in a way that you thought was best for everyone. If you are at least trying to make the best decision possible then you have no reason to be sorry.

2. Be a decision maker

We touched on this above. It is such an important character trait to portray. We all have values in life. Find yours and stick to them. This will make it so much easier to be the decisive decision maker the majority of women are looking for. Being one of those people who let others make decisions for you is not attractive to women. You need to take responsibility for your actions by choosing what it is you want to do and not just follow others just for the sake of it.

3. Always have an abundance mentality

You need to get into the mindset that all women are in to you. For example, if a girl looks at you then looks away its because she likes you so much she is embarrassed to look. This will raise your confidence level which will make you more attractive to women on an unconscious level.

Also a little side note, don’t allow any mistakes you make in an interaction effect you. Although it’s easier said than done, you need to realise that if you do fuck up, the worst that will happen is you have to abandon the current interaction and go and start talking to one of the other million upon million of women out there.

4. Be picky and choosy

This follows on from the previous point. Once you have plenty of options you can become picky and choosy. You can be with any girl you choose and that means getting the girl you want is much more likely to happen. Women see other women want you, and this is hugely attractive. Women want men other women want.

Also because there are so many women out there, you don’t need to settle for women you don’t really want. You have so much choice out there that you can afford to be picky. Though I would recommend at least sleeping with a woman if you get the chance even if she is not your ideal girl. Don’t pass on a good thing. I know this has happened to Preston a few times when he was learning and I know he kicked himself a few times cos’ he passed up on some great opportunities :-).

5. Tell the truth

You do not need to lie to a girl to get them into bed or on a date. Everybody has a character hidden away that women will love. The trick is to bring it to the surface. In the long run it makes life so much simpler. As I always say, you need to have a great memory to be a good liar. To me that sounds too much like hard work.

One other thing, if you feel the need to lie then it shows that you obviously don’t have confidence in yourself. This is bad because it shows that you not comfortable with your own life. If you are not happy with you own life then trust me, being good with women is not going to make you any happier in the long run. For a bit, you will feel good but soon those things that made you lie in the first place will catch up on you.

Resources

To display these mental attributes you need to have a degree of confidence in yourself. If you feel however that you lack confidence then make sure you check out these articles as they will help you to achieve the level of confidence you need to be successful with women.

* Master Your Confidence With Women
* Building Confidence With Women
* How Can I Get A Girl If I Lack Confidence

Physical Attributes

These second 5 deal with the physical side of how to get the girl you want. In order to get the girl to like you, you need to master your own body. You are in control of your body and thus need to make sure that you do all that you can in order to achieve the desired results.

6. Body language

Stand tall, keep you head up, you shoulders relaxed, and arms casually by your side, and take up a lot of room. These 5 factors of body language will instantly make you more attractive to the opposite sex as you will come across more confident and dominant.

Lots of teachers out there talk about body language because it is such an important factor. So it’s worth getting down the gym and getting into shape. Not only will getting into shape make you look and feel better about yourself but it will help you have better body language because you will be stronger and fitter and able to hold your body with better posture.

Another thing you need to make sure that you also don’t slouch in chairs, make sure you use your computer at a desk that is set up correctly for you, lean on tables too much, etc. Be proactive in your actions so that you don’t build habits and thus cause you to have bad posture.

7. Facial expression

Smile, but not too much. You would be surprised how many men forget to smile because they are so nervous. Think logically. Who would you rather approach: a woman with a face like pure evil, or a women who has a beaming smile? Same thing for women. They would rather be approached by a man with a friendly smile than one looking like he is going to attack her. A smile is a subconscious, non-verbal way of saying hello.

Another great thing about smiling is that it makes you feel good and if you feel good you will probably be more successful. This has to be one of the most simple things you can implement into your life which will help you to get a girl.

8. Talking

Speak clearly and confidently. You need a good constant pace, not too fast as it looks nervous, or too slow as it looks try hard. Speak as though you were speaking to a family member. That is the sort of natural, confident speech you want.

The more natural your speech comes across, the more you look like you are comfortable in yourself and that you are comfortable talking to her. Trust me, women pick up on things like this, and they will be able to spot whether you are nervous or not.

If we go back to smiling for a second, if you are smiling then chances are your voice will come across as happy. Try speaking now with a big smile on your face and see how your voice sounds.

9. Listening

You must know when not to speak. Allow the girl to express herself as well. By knowing when to talk and when not is a good way of showing higher value.

Listening involves repeating back what she has said in your own words. This signals that you have been paying attention, and have understood what she was saying. There is nothing worse than talking to someone and getting that feeling that they either haven’t really been listening to what you have been saying. A rare thing in modern ‘ADHD’ mass-media-barrage society.

10. Show them you are of high value

Demonstrating to a women that you are of high value is one of the best ways to attract women. Teaching them something they did not know is an example of demonstrating high value that works like magic.

Anything you can do that someone else can’t demonstrates higher value. But you might be thinking the thing you can do is boring or not interesting enough. This may or may not be true, but you can help the situation by talking about what you can do in such a way that makes it interesting.

For example is you are an app developer, talking about how to program is kinda boring. But talking about the things that you have produced that have helped others or caused other enjoyment Will definitely be interesting to most people.

Resources

To help you get your body language sorted I have included some links below that should help you to achieve the above points and hopefully get you on track asap.

* Essential Body Language To Attract Women
* 7 Body Language Secrets That Attract Women
* Using Body Language To Be More Attractive

Final thoughts

I can not going into huge detail here as each of theses points could be an article in themselves (or even whole books). These however are the main aspects of how to get the girl  yo want and now you them, you can do some more research on your own.

Speak soon,
David Black

More Resources You Should Check Out

* How To Attract Girls
* How To Get A Girl To Like You
* 10 Ways To Get The Woman You Want
* How To Get The Girl You Want

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When I talk about successful people here, I am talking about people who have gone out and got success on their own. It is these people that demonstrate the principles that are so attractive to women.

Here is a list of the top 7 ways successful people demonstrate higher value:

#1 Passion

Successful people are always passionate about what they do. You can’t achieve greatness in something you don’t have a passion for. Women love passionate guys, because it shows that they care about something. In a woman’s mind they believe that because they care about certain things, they are more likely to care about them.

#2 Determination

Being determined is such a key factor in success. Determination is the ability to do something until you are successful. This is very attractive to women because it shows that you are strong willed and willing to put in the effort to get success. This includes being determined to get what you want in life. Whether that is a successful business or success with women, either way they will find it very attractive.

#3 Focus

If you are a focused individual then when you set yourself a goal all you are worried about is achieving said goal. In a woman’s eye this shows that whenever the need arrives in a relationship (such as paying for bills, etc) you will focus on getting the situation sorted. Women want this security and having the focus to make sure you provide this is very attractive indeed.

#4 Creativity

Women love guys who are creative. Being creative allows you to show a side of yourself that others might never see otherwise. Being creative allows you to add value to a girls life, because you maybe showing her something that no other guy has shown her before.

#5 Self Improvement

Nothing is less attractive than a guy who is happy just being bog standard. Women want guys who are willing to always try to improve themselves. Everyone has the ability to improve no matter how great they are and to women this is important cause it shows that you are willing to improve to make both your life and hers better.

#6 Hard work

Hard work is where most people become successful. Very rarely in life do you get something for nothing and so we need to work on it. If you are willing to put in the hard work when it comes to other aspects of your life such as business, health, etc then you are more likely to put the effort in to make a relationship work. Women will pick up on this and therefore want to be with you.

#7 Bounce Back-ability

If something goes wrong they don’t let it affect them. Instead they look at how they can overcome the problem and and logically understand what they can do to improve. With women being able to overcome problems is very attractive because you are able to handle the difficult parts of a relationship well. If something goes tits up, you will look to sort things out and therefore you can get the relationship on track. Women will appreciate this.

Final thoughts

There you have it. I think guys find it difficult to look past the fancy cars, houses and pimp lifestyles when it comes to successful people. They can’t see the above qualities that have helped put them where they are. It’s these qualities that make them attractive to women and not the possessions they have due to their success.

If you want more information on being successful, then I recommend reading ‘Fifty habits of highly successful people’ over at Life Hack.

Speak soon,
David Black

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Speak soon,
David Black

Arash Interview

Hello everybody this is Arash aka Achilles from the game and you can find me on Seductive Instinct. I’m doing this interview for David from Social Masters.

1.  What are some of the highlights on your personal journey towards mastery with women?

That’s a very interesting question because there’s a lot honestly. I’ll give you few without having to name people and protect the innocent and shit like that. I’ll tell you, okay, let me make it generalize in a way that makes sense to everyone. I think the thing that sticks out the most is the first night when Matador and I were out and I had enough skills at this point to actually be a wing man and I wasn’t just sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. We ended up leaving the club with two car full of women one was an Escalade the other one was a Mercedes packed back to Matador’s house. There was three guys and nine girls, myself Matador and another guy that was with us, the whole night was just like the club was like being a movie star you know what I mean? It will so cool because we got there and didn’t have a section because we got there late so we looked at this one table and there was these guys there was five or six guys who had this VIP section where we wanted to sit. What we did is started to take girls to them, first we introduce ourselves to the guys “listen, we have a lot of girls and they are going to be wanting to party and hang out. If you guys don’t mind taking care of them some of these girls are really good looking blah blah blah.” So what we did is go out opening sets and bringing the girls to the table and it was just a matter of maybe thirty minutes or so we had the table filled with women. We would just keep dropping off girls and leaving, dropping off the girls and leaving, and dropping off the girls and leaving, “hey meet so and so” merging them. Maybe an hour later the guys were like “who are you guys? My God yes any drinks you want it’s on me.” So we took over the table and in short I don’t want to give you specifics honestly I won’t but I can tell you this but if you read the book The Game and look at the end of it and how Neil Strauss lives his life or if you just imagine how it would be like to live a life where you don’t have enough time for women. You do not have enough time for them like you have to choose “okay, I have this much time and there’s five chicks to choose from. Who do I go out with or who am I going to hang out with.” And then that’s life, it becomes my friend called it “a quality problem” I remember a time when there was maybe one or two chicks that I can call on to hang out. Now it’s at a time where the numbers are, and they just continue so the highlight for me the key moments that I have my friends or there are just so many, I refuse to answer the question any more than this. Okay, you should be able to get it right you should be calibrated, if you study game you should be able to look at me and understand that there is a lot to it. Okay, it’s a life is hard to describe when you get it and I wouldn’t trade it for anything just wouldn’t.

2. What have been the biggest obstacles for you and how have you overcome them?

Has been the fact that I have a girlfriend and I’ve been in a serious relationship for 5 ½ years almost 6. The way I’ve overcome it is I’ve developed a different style of game like how do you have a girlfriend who knows that you are a high-level pickup artist that that’s what to do and still keep her around and still be able to a pickup artist. That has been the biggest challenge for me personally I believe and the second challenge is the lost focus that you get because if you have other things going on in life you know at some point you will get so obsessed with this and being able to balance that was kind of difficult at the beginning. Still at times but kind of merge it life and game are the same thing you know but I remember in the beginning is just like it’s all you can think of is gaming all the time just all the time you know what I mean 24 hours a day. If you had anything else going on in life it’s just difficult so I’ve overcome that by merging my life and my game are the same I live a life of game that makes any sense obviously I’m teaching here and I have a lot of passion for martial arts and helping people so it all goes together now. Those would be the two biggest obstacles and on a game level what would be my personal obstacle game wise? I had a hard time calibrating like pulling back if that makes sense I was very ballsy just you know because I came from a direct kind of game being a martial artist and living in that world there is no bull shit about that when you just go take out the opponent that’s how I approach it. So I was mis-calibrated a lot and even just recently I had a realization about it on how to pull back and allow the person to take ah to get it out of you, you know I would put out too much so that was a personal challenge that I had.

3. Being a martial artist, how does this affect your attitude when interacting with women and learning to better yourself in this arena?

Being a martial artist has helped me tremendously in studying game. Man! I think that’s one of the reasons why I’m so successful so quickly the discipline. I know what it’s like to go from zero skill to a very high level skill in something and I saw the progression. I know what it’s like to get beat up every day and have to show up again, I know what it’s like to have a teacher who you trust and walked the path and now takes you through it. All those things were vital when I got into game I treated it the same way I found my teacher Mystery and Matador I studied with him I trusted them when things wouldn’t go right it was just like getting beat up so I just kept doing it. I had the discipline to study study study and I can see myself progressing it’s been huge and the confidence I have through martial arts is tremendous. Like I don’t really have to deal with AMOGing you know what I mean? Guys just don’t AMOG me I mean it can happen it has happened some guy ran by me and hit a drink in my hand and spilled it all over me. I looked at him and just kept going no fight no nothing I end up using that motion to make a lot of friends that night. The discipline, the focus, the confidence, even the humbleness you know because you realize in martial arts no matter how good you are you get beat up at some point there is always someone better and I realize that in game to. No matter how good you are it’s not a hundred percent like you are going to win every single time but just like in martial arts you increase the chances of survival greatly same thing in game when you have good game chances are that you are going to hook-up with the chick that you want.

4. What in your opinion our the 3 best ways a guy can demonstrate that he is a man to a woman?

The three best ways a guy can, that’s a great question, the three best ways a guy can demonstrate that he is a man to a woman is one he has to not apologize for some characteristics that are manly. For example, men like women, men like being macho, men like winning you know standing up for themselves. Those qualities you don’t apologize for, I like winning, I love beautiful women I am a man and I don’t like people upsetting my environment you can say. As a man I take care of my environment that’s a very important quality, number one don’t apologize for being a man whatever that means to you probably better than what I said okay. Second, make sure that as a man you demonstrate you are into a lot of different girls and this may sound illogical but it’s very important in my game. I’m into a lot of beautiful girls I have no problem saying that Hugh Hefner lives the best life out of man that I know from the outside. I don’t need to apologize, you see I have a girlfriend and she knows that’s how I feel so that’s a manly quality. It’s a very feminine quality to me to get married and settle down and of course that’s an opinion that people can object to that but you know you are asking me the question. I’m telling you a man has that quality and also there’s a manly quality is slightly bad boyish it’s very important you know. You, you know who you are and you make your own rules it’s not like you are some asshole who breaks rules but if you don’t agree with something you clearly stated. You have your own boundaries and rules and it’s very clear and I think those three qualities are very important I don’t know if they are the most important qualities but I am being asked these questions in the moment and these are the things on my head.

5. How can you demonstrate higher value without coming across as being arrogant or bragging?

It’s practice you do it, when it goes right you pay attention to what you did and when it goes wrong you pay attention to what you did. It’s hard to say man I can give you advice which is like everything you talk about should be incidental, right. If I’m talking about what a great fighter I am I’m going to talk about how incredible I feel about jujitsu. “Brazilian jujitsu it’s completely changed my life you know I remember not being able to face people much bigger than me because I thought they would be able to take me out but now it doesn’t matter how big the person is I can easily, easily use leverage and stuff that’s important because people should have confidence.” Boom, I just talked about how great a fighter I am incidental to the importance of jujitsu and leverage and confidence something like that.

6. Is there one resource, course or book that has had a major impact on your development?

Yes, the book that has the most effect on me was the Mystery Method by Mystery. The second book was Revelations by the Venusian Arts, the third book is the book The Game. Those three are the same category for me man there is so much in that if you understand those three you got it, you can do a lot, you can always get better.

7. If you started again from scratch tomorrow how would you approach learning things?

Great question. If I could do it again how would I approach it differently? I don’t know if I would approach it differently let me see. I wouldn’t approach it differently I just wouldn’t. There is a few sets that I lost that I wish I could go back because now I know I can do way better but I wouldn’t approach studying any differently. I studied the way I should of studied it found teachers studied with them became the best at what they taught and continued to venture out and study more things to add to my arsenal.

8. What’s the funniest thing that has ever happened to you when meeting women?

Funny/scary a girl pulled out a gun on me and very few people know about this. I didn’t share it I think three people know about this, the chick brought a gun because she thought I was a bad ass I was acting like a bad ass through text or whatever she wanted to hang out she came around and “so you think you’re a bad ass” and took out a fucking gun and I had to figure out how to deal with a fucking gun in, it wasn’t in my face but about to be in my face so I handled it. That was some fucked up shit haha.

9. What’s the worst thing that has ever happend when meeting women? Everyone has at least one horror story :-)

The worst thing is I got kicked out of a restaurant for harassing or something in the beginning. The manager and general manager came up I was eating and they were like “hi, I’m the manager and general manager and would like to ask you to leave.” I said “well why?” “Well we’ve been getting complaints.” “Complaints?” I thought I was doing just fine so and people were watching shit happen so that was fucking embarrassing. They said I couldn’t go back there. Fuck them!

10. What’s the worst thing that has ever happend when meeting women? Everyone has at least one horror story :-)

My greatest achievement in game? Is for me personally getting the acknowledgment of my teacher Matador and him saying that I am a master pickup artist I think means more to me than anything anybody or any girl can say because, that opinion meant more to me than anything else.

11. I read that you like to open everyone and be as social as possible. Can you explain why it’s so important to be a highly sociable person when learning to meet women?

Because if you go to the girl and say I’m going to introduce you to my friend he is very good-looking but is not social he is not sociable you can’t take him out around your friends and family and stuff that’s a turn off. You have to be we are social creatures why is it important because we are social creatures and we studying game which is social dynamics everywhere you look the word social is in there you know what I mean? If you are not social that is weird such right and for me in the question it said that I like to be social I love people I really do it’s a big part of my game I’m actually interested in people curious about them. I want to know how they work I want to know what they think the more beautiful they are the more curious I am about them naturally if they are that pretty I want to know how you see the world you know and must be different and it is different they see the world differently. It is very important to be social.

Okay, this is Arash Dibazar aka Achilles from the game much respect to Mystery, Matador, Venusian Arts and all the people that came before me check us out at http://www.seductiveinstinct.com I will change your life guaranteed.

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Shane Koyczan, “This is my voice,” words aloud 2007 Canada

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David Black

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Firstly who is Maxwell Maltz

In the 60s and 70s Maxwell Maltz was a renowned plastic surgeon. It was the early 70s when he experienced a revelation.

Having performed many procedures to alter the physical appearance of his patients, he noticed something quite remarkable. Something that when truly broken down shows that some people are misguided in what they truly need in order to improve themselves…

What did he discover?

Some of his patients had massive increases in confidence and some even showed complete changes in their personality. Obviously the thing that was holding them back was the physical aspect of themselves.

On the other hand there were patients, no matter how amazing the change in appearance, who did not have the same result.

In fact, they had no psychological benefits from the surgery. They still felt the same on the inside even though they had changed on the outside.

What does this mean?

Making external changes really won’t make a difference to how you feel unless your internal self is happy.

This means that if you feel crap on the inside then it really doesn’t matter what changes you make to the outside. You will still feel bad about yourself because it’s your inner self that controls the way you feel.

Therefore if you think you are ugly then it doesn’t matter how you dress, how you wear your hair, how your body looks, etc. You will still feel bad about yourself because that’s what your inner self is telling you.

I have been there. I used to think I was ugly cos I wore braces, had glasses and was skinny. I thought that getting all this sorted would make me irresistible to women. This was definitely not the case. I still felt that women would not fancy me. Although I had made changes on the outside, I soon found out that it’s the changes on the inside that were the most important factor in becoming the person I am today.

What can you do?

You need to make sure that you get your internal self image sorted first. Once you feel comfortable and happy on the inside then you will start to notice a change.

Maltz compiled his findings and created a field of study he called ‘Psycho Cybernetics’ aimed at achieving exactly this outcome. I highly recommend the book ‘The New Psycho Cybernetics’ compiled by Dan Kennedy based on Maltz’s life work.

Obviously this can mean a complete life overhaul, the likes of which you could write a whole blog on. Personally, I have used Paul Mckenna’s ‘Change Your Life In 7 Days‘ program to good effect. I am also going to be using Tony Robbins ‘Personal Power 2’ in the near future as I have heard great things about him. I know David is a huge fan of Tony.

Don’t wait… you know what you need to do, so go out and do it.

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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David Black

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Just want to wish you all a very happy New Year.

The good thing about the New Year is it gives you a great chance to set yourself some New goals.

Make sure you check out: ‘It’s a New Year so set some new goals’

Take the time to set yourself some new goals and make sure you have the most successful year possible.

Wishing you all the best in 2011.

Speak soon,
David Black

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