When a pickup student of mine came to me he told me about how he’s a car salesman but can’t seduce women or attract them at all.

I asked him about what he did when he had a car which had a few issues.

He told me that as long as he got them to commit to actually coming out and SEEING the car that he generally sold it.

This didn’t answer my question.

So, I persisted and he said: “I let them know about the deficincies upfront because the mere act of me saying it is abnormal for a salesman. So the fact I say it actually helps to play it down and write it off as a minor issue”

This may seem manipulative to some…and it is. But it works.

Why?

It’s counter-intuitive. Every other salesman would NEVER mention the faults. Every unskilled man who approaches a woman, puffed chest and playing the ‘infallible alpha male’ will just be treated like all the rest before him and all the rest after him.

The skilled PUA would outright state his downfalls just as a passing comment. A casual, insignificant comment e.g. “I do get a bit jealous at times but sometimes you do need to protect whats yours”.

Now she wont be suprised when she can see you’re pissed off or down when she gets flirty with guys. She can’t fight it because she knew about it from the outset.

Just like someone who was pissed off with buying a car that had a problem with the electric window. They wont go back to the dealer and hassle them to fix it, they knew about it and so when they took the car they accepted it as it was and they knew that.

The same applies directly with women as it would a car:

The more direct and open you are about your shortcomings the less qualms they can have. If you only slightly touch upon it by saying “I’m a little jealous at times” they wont take notice and when your personality defects start to show they can easily think “Well, I knew he was jealous, but not to THIS extent!”.

Just like the car’s window: ” I knew it had a ‘little issue’ but I didn’t think it would result in me getting a new door”.

So…how do you avoid sounding like a needy sop who, right after small talk just unleashes a torrent of faults and turns off the girl?

Delivery.

HOW you say it is key and it drives me fucking crazy that most mainstream PUA’s are focused on WHAT to say rather than on HOW TO SAY IT.

Tell them your detriments but let your delivery play it down, not the content.

Just a small casual comment in passing can see you easily get what you want and set precedents for the beginning of your interactions and relationships.

e.g. If she was to say :

HER: I had a terrible day, I hate my boss and it’s so hard to keep being polite.

YOU: I envy you. I have a terribly short fuse for disrespectful people and I don’t know how you resist not urinating on his keyboard.

Wow, this post turned into a rant.

I’m off to create my free DVD (but it’s $7 shipping…but because you know that your chances of getting pissed that I said “FREE” may be remarkably lessened).