Attract Women Online With Web2.0 pt.3
This is the third part in our series on how to meet women, attract women online and more dating secrets.
By now you should have created your accounts, and started to fill your profiles with content that will attract beautiful women.
If you missed the other posts, you can find attract women online part 1 here, and attract women online part 2 here.
In this third and final part we will focus on how you approach women you would like to meet, on these various web2.0 sites. Let’s learn how to pick up women online…
Just before we begin, let’s get one thing straight. What you say when sending messages on the social networking sites, is not nearly as important as what you convey. What you convey is what attracts women (as long as you are conveying attractive qualities).
This is why I have this personal vendetta against dating tips sites that just focus on using ‘pick up lines’. They work, but they are only like 5% of the picture, the rest being principles, strategy and character. That said, let’s continue…
If your profiles and media feeds hit the attraction hot-buttons, and convey such traits as:
- Fun, adventure, courage.
- Socially proofed – e.g. Photos of you with women.
- Take what you want from life.
- Stand up for what you believe in.
- Protect that which you love.
- Emotional depth, and ability to express your emotions.
- Not taking shit from people, or letting them take advantage of you.
- Leadership.
- High social standing (Status)
Then you will need minimal effort on the initial message. The same rules for how to pick up women in a real world situation apply when you pick up girls online. If you can attract girls in a real setting, you can do it online.
Whatever you send, she will most likely check out your profile, and get to know quite a bit about you, hopefully feel that initial spark of interest and attraction, and will respond.
That said, it can help to spark a bit of curiosity with what you say first.
It has recently been proven that the quickest and most effective way to build trust with a person, is to demonstrate trust in them first. An example would be getting someone to hold your wallet while you go to the toilet, or something similar.
We are biologically wired to respond to trust with trust. This is not a conscious choice.
The same is true of many of the emotions we experience when interacting with others.
So naturally it follows that the best way to arouse a woman’s natural curiosity, is to take the lead and express your own curiosity first.
An example first message then would go something like this. This is just an example of the principles, be sure to come up with your own, that matches your own unique individuality. Here’s the example:
subject: I am curious…
msg: Are you one of the quiet ones or something?
No doubt she will respond with something along the lines of “why?”.
And then boom, you are in an interaction. You can take it anywhere you want from there on in. Some examples you might want to consider are:
- Making fun of her photos (saying she looks like a party animal, or being sarcastic, etc)
- Ribbing her for not contacting you sooner (as if she is shy or something)
- Or commenting on how she seems quite complex from her profile, and that means she is probably a quiet, misunderstood one (kind of a mini-cold reading of sorts).
Make the judgement call based on what you can glean from her profile. Bear in mind it may not be an accurate representation of what she is really like (they rarely are). You have to work with what you’ve got.
Banter with her in moderation. Focus on building a connection, rather than just pure flirting. If you have done your profile and stuff right then she will already be attracted to you.
Build rapport. Get to know each other for a few messages. Comment on a photo or two of hers, be funny, don’t overdo it though.
Once you feel like you have a connection going. Should take no more than 10 messages if you’re doing it right. Once you feel that connection is there, get her to message you her phone number so you can set up meeting in real life.
Suggest something neutral and fun, like getting mates together in a pub, or ice skating, or something similar.
Many people like to take women to the cinema. In my experience, the cinema is not a good idea. The film gets in the way of your interaction. And is so boring & cliche anyway. Avoid suggesting or doing stuff that feels like a date.
All it needs to be is: fun, easy for her to do, and easy for you two to talk.
Going for a walk in the park can be a great one. Simple, easy, no pressure, great for talking and getting to know each other.
Once you have her number, carry on the messages. I shouldn’t really need to say this, but you should treat any girl the same as any of your other mates until you decide otherwise.
Mates message each other on Facebook. They don’t just do it to get a phone number and then stop. Get out of that mindset if you are in it.
Once you have her number, and the meetup penciled in, follow up with text messages, and by calling her to make sure it goes ahead.
As for how you interact with women on the phone, we’ll have to save that for another time.
I hope you enjoyed this mini-series on online dating tips. I’d love to hear what you have to say on this. Enter your comments below. Share your thoughts and ideas. You’re not alone out there. We’re in this together…
Till next time,
David Black
image credit: Jorge R
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